This bride’s wedding request has everyone confused and fuming!
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Weddings are a time of joy, celebration, and the coming together of family and friends to mark a significant milestone in a couple's life.
However, the traditional expectations surrounding weddings are evolving, and not always in ways that sit comfortably with everyone.
In a tale that has left many shaking their heads in disbelief, a bride's recent request sparked a heated debate about wedding etiquette and the boundaries of gift-giving.
The story begins with a couple who decided to elope in secret, foregoing the usual fanfare of a wedding ceremony with guests.
Post-elopement, the bride took to a popular Facebook group to seek advice on a rather unconventional wedding gift approach.
She wanted to send out announcement cards with a strange request that confused the group members.
The bride's post read: 'I wanted to add a QR code that’s linked to a registry or something where they can either buy a gift or give money to go towards the downpayment on our house and add a sentence or two explaining it. How would you go about adding/asking?'
The reactions were swift and unforgiving.
Commenters on the post labelled the request as 'tacky', with many pointing out the apparent faux pas of asking for gifts without hosting a wedding celebration.
'If you’re eloping in secret, doesn’t that kind of forfeit the ability to get gifts?' one person asked.
'My husband and I eloped (not in secret) and expected absolutely nothing from anyone. I couldn’t imagine asking for gifts when you didn’t even invite anyone to the wedding,' another added.
The controversy didn't end there.
Another bride faced backlash for charging guests to attend her wedding.
The invitation outlined several RSVP options, including a $65 'envelope fee' to cover food, music, decorations, and the venue.
The guest who shared this story on social media revealed that despite the couple being financially well-off, she knew it was coming.
‘I always knew she was cheap, so in some ways I am not surprised,’ she said.
Additional costs were listed for a pre-wedding dinner and overnight accommodation at the venue, potentially racking up a bill of at least $300 per guest, not including the cost of an outfit or a gift.
'I suspect they can afford both the renovation and the wedding; they are just trying to play it safe,' she added.
'She also told me her goal is to be rich.'
The online community rallied behind the guest, with many calling the bride's actions 'tasteless and tacky', and left suggestions for the guest.
‘I would send my regrets and my congratulations and that’s it. The bride is out of her freaking mind,’ one commented.
‘Just decline. Say you’re busy that day. You won’t be the only one,’ another added.
‘RSVP to miss the whole thing and send her an etiquette book as a wedding gift,’ a third person added, poking fun at the situation.
These stories raise important questions about the expectations of wedding gifts and the financial burden placed on guests.
While it's customary for guests to offer gifts to celebrate a marriage, the assumption that one is entitled to such offerings, especially in the absence of a traditional ceremony, is a point of contention.
For those who have likely seen many weddings in their time, these modern-day wedding woes might seem worlds away from the traditions you're familiar with.
It's a reminder that while times change, the principles of courtesy and respect remain timeless.
Have you encountered any wedding gift requests that took you by surprise? Share your stories and opinions in the comments below!
However, the traditional expectations surrounding weddings are evolving, and not always in ways that sit comfortably with everyone.
In a tale that has left many shaking their heads in disbelief, a bride's recent request sparked a heated debate about wedding etiquette and the boundaries of gift-giving.
The story begins with a couple who decided to elope in secret, foregoing the usual fanfare of a wedding ceremony with guests.
Post-elopement, the bride took to a popular Facebook group to seek advice on a rather unconventional wedding gift approach.
She wanted to send out announcement cards with a strange request that confused the group members.
The bride's post read: 'I wanted to add a QR code that’s linked to a registry or something where they can either buy a gift or give money to go towards the downpayment on our house and add a sentence or two explaining it. How would you go about adding/asking?'
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The reactions were swift and unforgiving.
Commenters on the post labelled the request as 'tacky', with many pointing out the apparent faux pas of asking for gifts without hosting a wedding celebration.
'If you’re eloping in secret, doesn’t that kind of forfeit the ability to get gifts?' one person asked.
'My husband and I eloped (not in secret) and expected absolutely nothing from anyone. I couldn’t imagine asking for gifts when you didn’t even invite anyone to the wedding,' another added.
The controversy didn't end there.
Another bride faced backlash for charging guests to attend her wedding.
The invitation outlined several RSVP options, including a $65 'envelope fee' to cover food, music, decorations, and the venue.
The guest who shared this story on social media revealed that despite the couple being financially well-off, she knew it was coming.
‘I always knew she was cheap, so in some ways I am not surprised,’ she said.
Additional costs were listed for a pre-wedding dinner and overnight accommodation at the venue, potentially racking up a bill of at least $300 per guest, not including the cost of an outfit or a gift.
'I suspect they can afford both the renovation and the wedding; they are just trying to play it safe,' she added.
'She also told me her goal is to be rich.'
The online community rallied behind the guest, with many calling the bride's actions 'tasteless and tacky', and left suggestions for the guest.
‘I would send my regrets and my congratulations and that’s it. The bride is out of her freaking mind,’ one commented.
‘Just decline. Say you’re busy that day. You won’t be the only one,’ another added.
‘RSVP to miss the whole thing and send her an etiquette book as a wedding gift,’ a third person added, poking fun at the situation.
These stories raise important questions about the expectations of wedding gifts and the financial burden placed on guests.
While it's customary for guests to offer gifts to celebrate a marriage, the assumption that one is entitled to such offerings, especially in the absence of a traditional ceremony, is a point of contention.
For those who have likely seen many weddings in their time, these modern-day wedding woes might seem worlds away from the traditions you're familiar with.
It's a reminder that while times change, the principles of courtesy and respect remain timeless.
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