Sexless and happy: why this 59-year-old woman never wants to have sex again

‘At 59 years old, I do not want to have sex again. I am SO done.’

Monica Zwolsman is a woman with a message she wants the world to hear: She is over sex, and she hates being made to feel like she’s different because of it.

‘I do not care if I am no longer f**kable,’ she stressed.


The long road to her epiphany started when she had her second son. After giving birth, she noticed her libido disappeared.

Monica looked for answers online, and what she found had her blood boiling.

‘I asked Google if women my age still wanted sex, and the medical sites came back at me, suggesting there is something wrong with my body, and I need to take hormones and have therapy.’ she said.

‘There was a lot of talk about atrophied vaginas and dry, thin walls, which made my own private parts clench in horror.‘


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Monica Zwolsman is done with sex at 59 years old. Credit: Mammamia


The search results left Monica questioning her worth.

‘Does it mean I am less of a woman if I say I have closed the downstairs playroom?’ she asked.

It also didn’t help that some websites told her to look at sex as an exercise.

‘(It’s) horrible to start with, but once done, you feel great.’ she remembered it saying.

‘Really? Last time I tried it I was irritated because I was missing the start of a new season on Doc Martin and my hot chocolate went cold.’

Everything Monica read indicated she was lacking because it was ‘healthy’ and ‘natural’ for a woman to want sex, regardless of age.

‘I am not stressed. I am happy. I have lots of time. I am in perfect health. But I just don’t want to be that damn intimate with anyone.’ she said.


It’s not like Monica, who tragically has been widowed twice, has never liked sex.

But for her, it was always more of an emotional experience.

‘I have been deeply in love a few times in my life and sharing our bodies was a further way of bonding our minds.’ she said.

‘But for me, the thrill was in being desired, of being thought sexy… The actual poke-and-thrust, sweat, and grunting — yeah, not so much.’

Now entering her twilight years, Monica can’t help but wonder why everyone, men, in particular, couldn’t understand and accept that she wants to live without sex for the rest of her life.

‘I reckon when we have kids, we no longer want sex. Our libido dies because that is what nature intended.’ she asserted.


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For Monica, sex was always more about emotions rather than physical contact. Stock Image Credit: Pexels/Pixabay


‘There are millions of “older” women out there who do not give a toss about having a sex life. Seriously, there can't be many 55-plus women who really want to have sex, and are still titillated by lusty thoughts?’

‘Although I am sure there are some who just go through the motions for the sake of keeping a husband or long-term partner happy.’

Monica is also thankful her sex-free approach to life has found many kindred spirits among her friends.

‘My “no thank you” to sex resonated with many married women eager to hunt down and throttle scientists who thought Viagra was a good idea.’ she said.

‘Us older women were just so relieved to not have that onerous duty to endure, even though it meant we had to forsake possibilities of companionship and affection.’


Make no mistake though. If you’re a woman late in age enjoying sex, Monica has no quarrel with you.

‘Big congratulations to the women who found love later in life and are enjoying (yes, they assure me that this is the word) a resurgence of their libido and having the best sex of their lives.’ she said.

‘I must take their word that they have not mistaken their desire for sex for their love of being loved, just like others have to believe me when I tell them the thought of sex at this life stage repulses me.’

And as for the years to come, Monica has a plan in mind, along with one condition.

‘When I get older, I plan to live in a commune with all my heart sisters where we will care for each other in old age, share company, and enjoy our retirement years with adventures and good times — but no sex, thank you.’


Key Takeaways

  • 59-year-old Monica Zwolsman is done with sex.
  • She dislikes how women are seemingly shamed for not having strong desires for sex.
  • At one point after looking for answers online, Monica admitted to questioning her worth as a woman having a low sex drive.
  • But eventually she realised she was fine --- she just doesn't want to be sexually intimate with anyone anymore.
  • Monica also bears no grudges against sexually active older women, and said she hopes their pleasure comes from a genuine place.
If you have time, you might like a similar story from comedian and presenter Julia Morris.

You may also like to read about a Sexologist busting myths surrounding sex and ageing.

So, what is your reaction to Monica’s story?

Tell us your thoughts and opinions below!
 
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‘At 59 years old, I do not want to have sex again. I am SO done.’

Monica Zwolsman is a woman with a message she wants the world to hear: She is over sex, and she hates being made to feel like she’s different because of it.

‘I do not care if I am no longer f**kable,’ she stressed.


The long road to her epiphany started when she had her second son. After giving birth, she noticed her libido disappeared.

Monica looked for answers online, and what she found had her blood boiling.

‘I asked Google if women my age still wanted sex, and the medical sites came back at me, suggesting there is something wrong with my body, and I need to take hormones and have therapy.’ she said.

‘There was a lot of talk about atrophied vaginas and dry, thin walls, which made my own private parts clench in horror.‘


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Monica Zwolsman is done with sex at 59 years old. Credit: Mammamia


The search results left Monica questioning her worth.

‘Does it mean I am less of a woman if I say I have closed the downstairs playroom?’ she asked.

It also didn’t help that some websites told her to look at sex as an exercise.

‘(It’s) horrible to start with, but once done, you feel great.’ she remembered it saying.

‘Really? Last time I tried it I was irritated because I was missing the start of a new season on Doc Martin and my hot chocolate went cold.’

Everything Monica read indicated she was lacking because it was ‘healthy’ and ‘natural’ for a woman to want sex, regardless of age.

‘I am not stressed. I am happy. I have lots of time. I am in perfect health. But I just don’t want to be that damn intimate with anyone.’ she said.


It’s not like Monica, who tragically has been widowed twice, has never liked sex.

But for her, it was always more of an emotional experience.

‘I have been deeply in love a few times in my life and sharing our bodies was a further way of bonding our minds.’ she said.

‘But for me, the thrill was in being desired, of being thought sexy… The actual poke-and-thrust, sweat, and grunting — yeah, not so much.’

Now entering her twilight years, Monica can’t help but wonder why everyone, men, in particular, couldn’t understand and accept that she wants to live without sex for the rest of her life.

‘I reckon when we have kids, we no longer want sex. Our libido dies because that is what nature intended.’ she asserted.


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For Monica, sex was always more about emotions rather than physical contact. Stock Image Credit: Pexels/Pixabay


‘There are millions of “older” women out there who do not give a toss about having a sex life. Seriously, there can't be many 55-plus women who really want to have sex, and are still titillated by lusty thoughts?’

‘Although I am sure there are some who just go through the motions for the sake of keeping a husband or long-term partner happy.’

Monica is also thankful her sex-free approach to life has found many kindred spirits among her friends.

‘My “no thank you” to sex resonated with many married women eager to hunt down and throttle scientists who thought Viagra was a good idea.’ she said.

‘Us older women were just so relieved to not have that onerous duty to endure, even though it meant we had to forsake possibilities of companionship and affection.’


Make no mistake though. If you’re a woman late in age enjoying sex, Monica has no quarrel with you.

‘Big congratulations to the women who found love later in life and are enjoying (yes, they assure me that this is the word) a resurgence of their libido and having the best sex of their lives.’ she said.

‘I must take their word that they have not mistaken their desire for sex for their love of being loved, just like others have to believe me when I tell them the thought of sex at this life stage repulses me.’

And as for the years to come, Monica has a plan in mind, along with one condition.

‘When I get older, I plan to live in a commune with all my heart sisters where we will care for each other in old age, share company, and enjoy our retirement years with adventures and good times — but no sex, thank you.’


Key Takeaways

  • 59-year-old Monica Zwolsman is done with sex.
  • She dislikes how women are seemingly shamed for not having strong desires for sex.
  • At one point after looking for answers online, Monica admitted to questioning her worth as a woman having a low sex drive.
  • But eventually she realised she was fine --- she just doesn't want to be sexually intimate with anyone anymore.
  • Monica also bears no grudges against sexually active older women, and said she hopes their pleasure comes from a genuine place.
If you have time, you might like a similar story from comedian and presenter Julia Morris.

You may also like to read about a Sexologist busting myths surrounding sex and ageing.

So, what is your reaction to Monica’s story?

Tell us your thoughts and opinions below!
Where is this commune going to be, Australia I hope
 
It makes me wonder if she suffered post natal depression after giving birth.
There are women who absolutely hate sex , some of those have underlying problems .

Sex is a natural thing that should be enjoyed by both partners.

I was someone who made sure I gave my husband my time. Was I tired after having kids ? Yes But I also knew if I wanted to keep our marriage strong then we needed this time together . At least once a week while kids were young.

Teenage years we did it many times aday

20s And 30s peak of our kids so maybe once or twice aweek

40s it was like we were teenagers again

Early 50s similar to our 40s

Late 50s and now early 60s not that we don't want to do it but health issues are really not allowing it.

I've taught my kids that sex is something beautiful between two consenting adults.
I've told my sons to respect their partner and I've told my daughters to keep the spark alive and to introduce new ideas into the bedroom.
 
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‘At 59 years old, I do not want to have sex again. I am SO done.’

Monica Zwolsman is a woman with a message she wants the world to hear: She is over sex, and she hates being made to feel like she’s different because of it.

‘I do not care if I am no longer f**kable,’ she stressed.


The long road to her epiphany started when she had her second son. After giving birth, she noticed her libido disappeared.

Monica looked for answers online, and what she found had her blood boiling.

‘I asked Google if women my age still wanted sex, and the medical sites came back at me, suggesting there is something wrong with my body, and I need to take hormones and have therapy.’ she said.

‘There was a lot of talk about atrophied vaginas and dry, thin walls, which made my own private parts clench in horror.‘


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Monica Zwolsman is done with sex at 59 years old. Credit: Mammamia


The search results left Monica questioning her worth.

‘Does it mean I am less of a woman if I say I have closed the downstairs playroom?’ she asked.

It also didn’t help that some websites told her to look at sex as an exercise.

‘(It’s) horrible to start with, but once done, you feel great.’ she remembered it saying.

‘Really? Last time I tried it I was irritated because I was missing the start of a new season on Doc Martin and my hot chocolate went cold.’

Everything Monica read indicated she was lacking because it was ‘healthy’ and ‘natural’ for a woman to want sex, regardless of age.

‘I am not stressed. I am happy. I have lots of time. I am in perfect health. But I just don’t want to be that damn intimate with anyone.’ she said.


It’s not like Monica, who tragically has been widowed twice, has never liked sex.

But for her, it was always more of an emotional experience.

‘I have been deeply in love a few times in my life and sharing our bodies was a further way of bonding our minds.’ she said.

‘But for me, the thrill was in being desired, of being thought sexy… The actual poke-and-thrust, sweat, and grunting — yeah, not so much.’

Now entering her twilight years, Monica can’t help but wonder why everyone, men, in particular, couldn’t understand and accept that she wants to live without sex for the rest of her life.

‘I reckon when we have kids, we no longer want sex. Our libido dies because that is what nature intended.’ she asserted.


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For Monica, sex was always more about emotions rather than physical contact. Stock Image Credit: Pexels/Pixabay


‘There are millions of “older” women out there who do not give a toss about having a sex life. Seriously, there can't be many 55-plus women who really want to have sex, and are still titillated by lusty thoughts?’

‘Although I am sure there are some who just go through the motions for the sake of keeping a husband or long-term partner happy.’

Monica is also thankful her sex-free approach to life has found many kindred spirits among her friends.

‘My “no thank you” to sex resonated with many married women eager to hunt down and throttle scientists who thought Viagra was a good idea.’ she said.

‘Us older women were just so relieved to not have that onerous duty to endure, even though it meant we had to forsake possibilities of companionship and affection.’


Make no mistake though. If you’re a woman late in age enjoying sex, Monica has no quarrel with you.

‘Big congratulations to the women who found love later in life and are enjoying (yes, they assure me that this is the word) a resurgence of their libido and having the best sex of their lives.’ she said.

‘I must take their word that they have not mistaken their desire for sex for their love of being loved, just like others have to believe me when I tell them the thought of sex at this life stage repulses me.’

And as for the years to come, Monica has a plan in mind, along with one condition.

‘When I get older, I plan to live in a commune with all my heart sisters where we will care for each other in old age, share company, and enjoy our retirement years with adventures and good times — but no sex, thank you.’


Key Takeaways

  • 59-year-old Monica Zwolsman is done with sex.
  • She dislikes how women are seemingly shamed for not having strong desires for sex.
  • At one point after looking for answers online, Monica admitted to questioning her worth as a woman having a low sex drive.
  • But eventually she realised she was fine --- she just doesn't want to be sexually intimate with anyone anymore.
  • Monica also bears no grudges against sexually active older women, and said she hopes their pleasure comes from a genuine place.
If you have time, you might like a similar story from comedian and presenter Julia Morris.

You may also like to read about a Sexologist busting myths surrounding sex and ageing.

So, what is your reaction to Monica’s story?

Tell us your thoughts and opinions below!
I thoroughly agree with Monica. It's another myth created in the male mind. Willy
 
‘At 59 years old, I do not want to have sex again. I am SO done.’

Monica Zwolsman is a woman with a message she wants the world to hear: She is over sex, and she hates being made to feel like she’s different because of it.

‘I do not care if I am no longer f**kable,’ she stressed.


The long road to her epiphany started when she had her second son. After giving birth, she noticed her libido disappeared.

Monica looked for answers online, and what she found had her blood boiling.

‘I asked Google if women my age still wanted sex, and the medical sites came back at me, suggesting there is something wrong with my body, and I need to take hormones and have therapy.’ she said.

‘There was a lot of talk about atrophied vaginas and dry, thin walls, which made my own private parts clench in horror.‘


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Monica Zwolsman is done with sex at 59 years old. Credit: Mammamia


The search results left Monica questioning her worth.

‘Does it mean I am less of a woman if I say I have closed the downstairs playroom?’ she asked.

It also didn’t help that some websites told her to look at sex as an exercise.

‘(It’s) horrible to start with, but once done, you feel great.’ she remembered it saying.

‘Really? Last time I tried it I was irritated because I was missing the start of a new season on Doc Martin and my hot chocolate went cold.’

Everything Monica read indicated she was lacking because it was ‘healthy’ and ‘natural’ for a woman to want sex, regardless of age.

‘I am not stressed. I am happy. I have lots of time. I am in perfect health. But I just don’t want to be that damn intimate with anyone.’ she said.


It’s not like Monica, who tragically has been widowed twice, has never liked sex.

But for her, it was always more of an emotional experience.

‘I have been deeply in love a few times in my life and sharing our bodies was a further way of bonding our minds.’ she said.

‘But for me, the thrill was in being desired, of being thought sexy… The actual poke-and-thrust, sweat, and grunting — yeah, not so much.’

Now entering her twilight years, Monica can’t help but wonder why everyone, men, in particular, couldn’t understand and accept that she wants to live without sex for the rest of her life.

‘I reckon when we have kids, we no longer want sex. Our libido dies because that is what nature intended.’ she asserted.


View attachment 9380
For Monica, sex was always more about emotions rather than physical contact. Stock Image Credit: Pexels/Pixabay


‘There are millions of “older” women out there who do not give a toss about having a sex life. Seriously, there can't be many 55-plus women who really want to have sex, and are still titillated by lusty thoughts?’

‘Although I am sure there are some who just go through the motions for the sake of keeping a husband or long-term partner happy.’

Monica is also thankful her sex-free approach to life has found many kindred spirits among her friends.

‘My “no thank you” to sex resonated with many married women eager to hunt down and throttle scientists who thought Viagra was a good idea.’ she said.

‘Us older women were just so relieved to not have that onerous duty to endure, even though it meant we had to forsake possibilities of companionship and affection.’


Make no mistake though. If you’re a woman late in age enjoying sex, Monica has no quarrel with you.

‘Big congratulations to the women who found love later in life and are enjoying (yes, they assure me that this is the word) a resurgence of their libido and having the best sex of their lives.’ she said.

‘I must take their word that they have not mistaken their desire for sex for their love of being loved, just like others have to believe me when I tell them the thought of sex at this life stage repulses me.’

And as for the years to come, Monica has a plan in mind, along with one condition.

‘When I get older, I plan to live in a commune with all my heart sisters where we will care for each other in old age, share company, and enjoy our retirement years with adventures and good times — but no sex, thank you.’


Key Takeaways

  • 59-year-old Monica Zwolsman is done with sex.
  • She dislikes how women are seemingly shamed for not having strong desires for sex.
  • At one point after looking for answers online, Monica admitted to questioning her worth as a woman having a low sex drive.
  • But eventually she realised she was fine --- she just doesn't want to be sexually intimate with anyone anymore.
  • Monica also bears no grudges against sexually active older women, and said she hopes their pleasure comes from a genuine place.
If you have time, you might like a similar story from comedian and presenter Julia Morris.

You may also like to read about a Sexologist busting myths surrounding sex and ageing.

So, what is your reaction to Monica’s story?

Tell us your thoughts and opinions below!
I am with Monica, not interested in sex, the door is shut for me permantly. I am a healthy 72 year old who goes to the gym 3 times a week & loving life the way I want to live it.
 
‘I must take their word that they have not mistaken their desire for sex for their love of being loved, just like others have to believe me when I tell them the thought of sex at this life stage repulses me.’

Wow! I get it that she, for whatever reason, does not want sex, Fine, that's her choice. That senior sex "repulses" her, I personally don't give a damn, I am 76 and enjoy fantastic sex with my partner, so "repulse" as much as you want dearie!
 
I don't think of it as much of an age thing, but more to do with your partner.
At 75 and having been married twice, my first husband was a wonderful lover, my second nah not so much and not interested in making a change. Pretty much "I'm OK Jack" attitude. Turned me right off sex.
Despite my age though still remember how great it can be with the right person.
whoops, maybe too much information.
 
It makes me wonder if she suffered post natal depression after giving birth.
There are women who absolutely hate sex , some of those have underlying problems .

Sex is a natural thing that should be enjoyed by both partners.

I was someone who made sure I gave my husband my time. Was I tired after having kids ? Yes But I also knew if I wanted to keep our marriage strong then we needed this time together . At least once a week while kids were young.

Teenage years we did it many times aday

20s And 30s peak of our kids so maybe once or twice aweek

40s it was like we were teenagers again

Early 50s similar to our 40s

Late 50s and now early 60s not that we don't want to do it but health issues are really not allowing it.

I've taught my kids that sex is something beautiful between two consenting adults.
I've told my sons to respect their partner and I've told my daughters to keep the spark alive and to introduce new ideas into the bedroom.
Yes, post natal depression can have a huge impact.
 
At only a young 61 and widow for the last 5 years I agree with Monica. Why do we feel like we MUST still have sex if we get into a relationship with someone. I have been married twice and the last married lasted 36 yrs - both of us stop needing sex as a way of saying I LOVE YOU years before as there were so many other ways we show each other how we felt. Yes, I would like to start dating other men but what stops me is the dreaded thought they may want sex and that is something I no longer want. There is nothing wrong with my body or mind medically - I just don't want sex. I'd rather someone who wants company than something physical.
 
‘At 59 years old, I do not want to have sex again. I am SO done.’

Monica Zwolsman is a woman with a message she wants the world to hear: She is over sex, and she hates being made to feel like she’s different because of it.

‘I do not care if I am no longer f**kable,’ she stressed.


The long road to her epiphany started when she had her second son. After giving birth, she noticed her libido disappeared.

Monica looked for answers online, and what she found had her blood boiling.

‘I asked Google if women my age still wanted sex, and the medical sites came back at me, suggesting there is something wrong with my body, and I need to take hormones and have therapy.’ she said.

‘There was a lot of talk about atrophied vaginas and dry, thin walls, which made my own private parts clench in horror.‘


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Monica Zwolsman is done with sex at 59 years old. Credit: Mammamia


The search results left Monica questioning her worth.

‘Does it mean I am less of a woman if I say I have closed the downstairs playroom?’ she asked.

It also didn’t help that some websites told her to look at sex as an exercise.

‘(It’s) horrible to start with, but once done, you feel great.’ she remembered it saying.

‘Really? Last time I tried it I was irritated because I was missing the start of a new season on Doc Martin and my hot chocolate went cold.’

Everything Monica read indicated she was lacking because it was ‘healthy’ and ‘natural’ for a woman to want sex, regardless of age.

‘I am not stressed. I am happy. I have lots of time. I am in perfect health. But I just don’t want to be that damn intimate with anyone.’ she said.


It’s not like Monica, who tragically has been widowed twice, has never liked sex.

But for her, it was always more of an emotional experience.

‘I have been deeply in love a few times in my life and sharing our bodies was a further way of bonding our minds.’ she said.

‘But for me, the thrill was in being desired, of being thought sexy… The actual poke-and-thrust, sweat, and grunting — yeah, not so much.’

Now entering her twilight years, Monica can’t help but wonder why everyone, men, in particular, couldn’t understand and accept that she wants to live without sex for the rest of her life.

‘I reckon when we have kids, we no longer want sex. Our libido dies because that is what nature intended.’ she asserted.


View attachment 9380
For Monica, sex was always more about emotions rather than physical contact. Stock Image Credit: Pexels/Pixabay


‘There are millions of “older” women out there who do not give a toss about having a sex life. Seriously, there can't be many 55-plus women who really want to have sex, and are still titillated by lusty thoughts?’

‘Although I am sure there are some who just go through the motions for the sake of keeping a husband or long-term partner happy.’

Monica is also thankful her sex-free approach to life has found many kindred spirits among her friends.

‘My “no thank you” to sex resonated with many married women eager to hunt down and throttle scientists who thought Viagra was a good idea.’ she said.

‘Us older women were just so relieved to not have that onerous duty to endure, even though it meant we had to forsake possibilities of companionship and affection.’


Make no mistake though. If you’re a woman late in age enjoying sex, Monica has no quarrel with you.

‘Big congratulations to the women who found love later in life and are enjoying (yes, they assure me that this is the word) a resurgence of their libido and having the best sex of their lives.’ she said.

‘I must take their word that they have not mistaken their desire for sex for their love of being loved, just like others have to believe me when I tell them the thought of sex at this life stage repulses me.’

And as for the years to come, Monica has a plan in mind, along with one condition.

‘When I get older, I plan to live in a commune with all my heart sisters where we will care for each other in old age, share company, and enjoy our retirement years with adventures and good times — but no sex, thank you.’


Key Takeaways

  • 59-year-old Monica Zwolsman is done with sex.
  • She dislikes how women are seemingly shamed for not having strong desires for sex.
  • At one point after looking for answers online, Monica admitted to questioning her worth as a woman having a low sex drive.
  • But eventually she realised she was fine --- she just doesn't want to be sexually intimate with anyone anymore.
  • Monica also bears no grudges against sexually active older women, and said she hopes their pleasure comes from a genuine place.
If you have time, you might like a similar story from comedian and presenter Julia Morris.

You may also like to read about a Sexologist busting myths surrounding sex and ageing.

So, what is your reaction to Monica’s story?

Tell us your thoughts and opinions below!

‘At 59 years old, I do not want to have sex again. I am SO done.’

Monica Zwolsman is a woman with a message she wants the world to hear: She is over sex, and she hates being made to feel like she’s different because of it.

‘I do not care if I am no longer f**kable,’ she stressed.


The long road to her epiphany started when she had her second son. After giving birth, she noticed her libido disappeared.

Monica looked for answers online, and what she found had her blood boiling.

‘I asked Google if women my age still wanted sex, and the medical sites came back at me, suggesting there is something wrong with my body, and I need to take hormones and have therapy.’ she said.

‘There was a lot of talk about atrophied vaginas and dry, thin walls, which made my own private parts clench in horror.‘


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Monica Zwolsman is done with sex at 59 years old. Credit: Mammamia


The search results left Monica questioning her worth.

‘Does it mean I am less of a woman if I say I have closed the downstairs playroom?’ she asked.

It also didn’t help that some websites told her to look at sex as an exercise.

‘(It’s) horrible to start with, but once done, you feel great.’ she remembered it saying.

‘Really? Last time I tried it I was irritated because I was missing the start of a new season on Doc Martin and my hot chocolate went cold.’

Everything Monica read indicated she was lacking because it was ‘healthy’ and ‘natural’ for a woman to want sex, regardless of age.

‘I am not stressed. I am happy. I have lots of time. I am in perfect health. But I just don’t want to be that damn intimate with anyone.’ she said.


It’s not like Monica, who tragically has been widowed twice, has never liked sex.

But for her, it was always more of an emotional experience.

‘I have been deeply in love a few times in my life and sharing our bodies was a further way of bonding our minds.’ she said.

‘But for me, the thrill was in being desired, of being thought sexy… The actual poke-and-thrust, sweat, and grunting — yeah, not so much.’

Now entering her twilight years, Monica can’t help but wonder why everyone, men, in particular, couldn’t understand and accept that she wants to live without sex for the rest of her life.

‘I reckon when we have kids, we no longer want sex. Our libido dies because that is what nature intended.’ she asserted.


View attachment 9380
For Monica, sex was always more about emotions rather than physical contact. Stock Image Credit: Pexels/Pixabay


‘There are millions of “older” women out there who do not give a toss about having a sex life. Seriously, there can't be many 55-plus women who really want to have sex, and are still titillated by lusty thoughts?’

‘Although I am sure there are some who just go through the motions for the sake of keeping a husband or long-term partner happy.’

Monica is also thankful her sex-free approach to life has found many kindred spirits among her friends.

‘My “no thank you” to sex resonated with many married women eager to hunt down and throttle scientists who thought Viagra was a good idea.’ she said.

‘Us older women were just so relieved to not have that onerous duty to endure, even though it meant we had to forsake possibilities of companionship and affection.’


Make no mistake though. If you’re a woman late in age enjoying sex, Monica has no quarrel with you.

‘Big congratulations to the women who found love later in life and are enjoying (yes, they assure me that this is the word) a resurgence of their libido and having the best sex of their lives.’ she said.

‘I must take their word that they have not mistaken their desire for sex for their love of being loved, just like others have to believe me when I tell them the thought of sex at this life stage repulses me.’

And as for the years to come, Monica has a plan in mind, along with one condition.

‘When I get older, I plan to live in a commune with all my heart sisters where we will care for each other in old age, share company, and enjoy our retirement years with adventures and good times — but no sex, thank you.’


Key Takeaways

  • 59-year-old Monica Zwolsman is done with sex.
  • She dislikes how women are seemingly shamed for not having strong desires for sex.
  • At one point after looking for answers online, Monica admitted to questioning her worth as a woman having a low sex drive.
  • But eventually she realised she was fine --- she just doesn't want to be sexually intimate with anyone anymore.
  • Monica also bears no grudges against sexually active older women, and said she hopes their pleasure comes from a genuine place.
If you have time, you might like a similar story from comedian and presenter Julia Morris.

You may also like to read about a Sexologist busting myths surrounding sex and ageing.

So, what is your reaction to Monica’s story?

Tell us your thoughts and opinions below!
I fully concur
 
...."Now entering her twilight years,..." for goodness sake she's only in her 50's! To Me twilight years are when you are 85 ++

The best part of an relationship is the boyfriend/girlfriend stage - thats the romancing stage - when both parties look forward to each others company and doing things together. Marriage, families, children , life - spoils all romances and leads only to obligatory sex.

I strongly believe, you can be an attrative, beautiful independant woman having many friends (M/F) and yet not need to have sex with them.
 
Each to their own. I have a medical condition that makes sex difficult and painful, I wish it wasn't so but as I can't change it have to put up with it. Luckily there are still several ways of expressing love and having a loving relationship, even if I do occasionally feel like I'm letting the side down. :(
 
I don't think of it as much of an age thing, but more to do with your partner.
At 75 and having been married twice, my first husband was a wonderful lover, my second nah not so much and not interested in making a change. Pretty much "I'm OK Jack" attitude. Turned me right off sex.
Despite my age though still remember how great it can be with the right person.
whoops, maybe too much information.
😉
 
‘I must take their word that they have not mistaken their desire for sex for their love of being loved, just like others have to believe me when I tell them the thought of sex at this life stage repulses me.’

Wow! I get it that she, for whatever reason, does not want sex, Fine, that's her choice. That senior sex "repulses" her, I personally don't give a damn, I am 76 and enjoy fantastic sex with my partner, so "repulse" as much as you want dearie!
I want to know your secret 🤩
 

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