Woman's shocking beach encounter leaves her questioning safety

A holiday by the beach should be a carefree escape, but for one woman, her experience took an unsettling turn after an encounter with a man that left her questioning her safety and choices.

What followed was a revealing conversation about harassment, vulnerability, and the pressure women face when simply enjoying a day in the sun.

Here's the full story.


A disturbing encounter during a beach holiday in Mexico left 26-year-old Emily Marzilli feeling shaken and questioning her personal safety.

Emily, a diving instructor, was filming crabs on the beach with her new iPhone when she turned around and found a man allegedly masturbating just metres away.

The incident, which occurred earlier this month, left Emily horrified and quickly changed her perspective on wearing a bikini while travelling.


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Woman left shaken by disturbing beach encounter in Mexico. Image source: Emily Marzilli


She recounted the event on social media, where she received overwhelming support from women who had faced similar experiences.

'Does my bikini suddenly make me an object of desire?' Emily asked, expressing her shock and frustration.

Swimwear brand owner Rebecca Pask saw Emily’s story and described the man’s actions as 'disgraceful,' calling for men to 'do better.'

'No one should have to experience that,' Rebecca said, adding: 'Women should be able to wear what they want and not face the backlash of men’s actions.'


The incident unfolded when Emily was enjoying her time on the beach, filming small creatures like crabs with her iPhone.

A man approached her earlier, informing her that he would be 'naked' behind some rocks but assured her he would not 'bother' her.

After the brief exchange, Emily moved further down the beach to avoid him.

About 30 minutes later, while taking videos of crabs, she turned around to find the man just 10 metres away, pleasuring himself.

'I got a new iPhone and was testing out the camera and taking videos of little shells and crabs,' she recalled. 'It wasn’t sexy. I wasn’t on the beach twerking, I’m in like a Gollum from Lord of the Rings position with my phone.'

Panicked, she quickly stopped filming and sought out her friend before leaving the beach as fast as possible.


Back at her hostel, Emily was emotionally overwhelmed, breaking down as she shared the disturbing experience with other guests.

She questioned whether she had done something to make herself vulnerable, asking: 'What did I do to put myself in that situation?'

Her friend responded: 'You were a girl in a bikini on the beach.'

In the aftermath, Emily took to social media, where many women shared similar stories of harassment at beaches.


She was struck by how widespread the issue seemed to be.

'One girl told me she was in Greece, lying on her towel in the sun and felt rain drops from where a man had ejaculated on her,' Emily said.

'Even men' reached out to her about their experiences with flashers.

Emily admitted that it was 'shocking and alarming' just how many people had faced similar situations.


While some followers suggested she should have confronted the man or defended herself physically, Emily explained she was in shock at the time.

'There’s no way in hell I am approaching someone insane enough to do that in public,' she said. 'We were out as fast as we could.'

When discussing whether to report the incident to the police, Emily revealed that other women had been laughed at or even asked to undergo psychological tests after reporting similar experiences.

As she was heading back to Baja California, where she operates a dive school, Emily decided against reporting the matter to authorities.


In the wake of the trauma, Emily said she had felt compelled to dress more modestly while travelling to avoid similar situations.

'I think it’s sad. I love to be expressive, and part of that is the way that I dress. But I value safety and not having another experience like that,' she shared.

Her message to other women was to stay aware and always have a safety backup plan.

'The best way that we can learn how to not be in these situations is to just always be observant and have people to contact in case s*** hits the fan,' she said.

Rebecca Pask also emphasised the need for accountability, stating that 'we cannot stop how others act, we can control how we react and what we do to hold them accountable.'


She stressed that women deserve to feel empowered in whatever makes them feel confident, and in this instance, wearing a bikini was absolutely appropriate.

'The solution is just be aware of where you’re wearing skimpy bikinis and let’s educate our males on what’s acceptable and what’s not,' Rebecca added.

'That is a hard line, it’s harassment and indecent exposure is not okay.'


In a previous story, we explored the growing concerns around swimwear choices and public spaces.

This topic highlights the ongoing debate about what’s appropriate and what isn’t when it comes to beachwear.

To learn more about the recent uproar surrounding swimwear bans, be sure to check out the full story.

Key Takeaways
  • Emily Marzilli had a disturbing encounter with a man masturbating on the beach in Mexico, making her question her safety.
  • She received overwhelming support on social media from women who shared similar harassment experiences.
  • Emily decided against reporting the incident to the police, citing previous cases where women had been dismissed.
  • Rebecca Pask called for better male accountability and stressed the importance of women feeling empowered in their choice of clothing.

Incidents like these highlight how unsafe public spaces can sometimes feel for women. What steps do you think should be taken to ensure everyone feels safe at the beach?

Share your thoughts in the comments below.
 

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You are very rare with your way of thinking. Can't wait to hear what other men have to say.

You sound like you have no respect for women and would actually do what this guy did. Your saying its OK

I always thought you were a female
I am most definately FEMALE but I respect all human beings but sick of the women who scream rape or abuse. I DO know about Domestic Violence and abuse from birth and I also know how to dress appropriately. I even wore swimming costumes whilst teaching life saving and pool swimming but found no reason to show off what should be private. THAT'S WHY THEY ARE CALLED "PRIVATE PARTS".
 
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Okay if you think so. I thought people can get a fine for being a Naturist. It's certainly is with the beaches where I live. If you are talking about G-strings, men wear them too.
I've not seen men wear something so small. A couple of weeks ago I made a comment to my carer while at Bargara about a woman lying on the grass who appeared to be naked as there was no material showing and I could see right up the crack of her bum. My carer laughed and said "she's got a bikini on". WHERE?
 
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hate me if you like but I'm heartily sick of women yelling about this sort of thing when they refuse to dress properly. I'm fed up with things called "bikinis" when their arse and tits hang out all over the place. GET DRESSED AND YOU'LL BE TREATED WITH RESPECT. In this story the woman has almost nothing on yet she yells about a bloke doing the same thing. Women can do as they like but let a bloke let his dick hang out (no matter what he was doing with it) and he's in big trouble, often in Court and sometimes in Jail. The original bikini was a pretty article of clothing which was a joy to see. You can't even walk down the street without seeing tits, bare arses and clothes that should have been in the rag bag. What ever happened to pride and self respect?
Excuse me for 😂 laughing ,I haven’t heard this type? Of expression for many years it reminds me of how people used to talk , I agree the way some people dress these days leaves nothing to the imagination. My mum used to say they can’t have a mirror or they wouldn’t go out looking like that. As I have said I have a wicked sense of humour I’m sure my neighbors are wondering what I’m 😂 😂 laughing at.
 
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I've not seen men wear something so small. A couple of weeks ago I made a comment to my carer while at Bargara about a woman lying on the grass who appeared to be naked as there was no material showing and I could see right up the crack of her bum. My carer laughed and said "she's got a bikini on". WHERE?
Unfortunately, there will always be male oglers. Thankfully, the majority of men are upstanding citizens.
 
Excuse me for 😂 laughing ,I haven’t heard this type? Of expression for many years it reminds me of how people used to talk , I agree the way some people dress these days leaves nothing to the imagination. My mum used to say they can’t have a mirror or they wouldn’t go out looking like that. As I have said I have a wicked sense of humour I’m sure my neighbors are wondering what I’m 😂 😂 laughing at.
Bless your Mum. If we wore the clothes we see in the street today we wouldn't have been allowed out the front door. Only fit for the rag bag. Have a great day.
 
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Why is it is that the woman who was the the victim of a masterbating man could then be blamed for the incident. She was minding her own business and was set upon by a preditor, that is the bottom line.! It is a shock and she did something about it, she is reporting the incident and reported to police. There is nothing illegal about a woman wearing bikini at a beach, why is it O.K for men to wear budgie smugglers and no top at the beach?? I have never heard of a woman masterbating at the sight of a male on the beach, on a train, bus or anywhere else. While anyone justifies this behaviour it will not stop and it is also going to stop woman from reporting. That why so many woman do not report being raped.
 
Get a life. How do you know they don't want a pee. Even baby boys stand up just before they let the water go. You want all males desexed at birth????
And women's boobs are also a feeding vessel.

I actually can't believe you are a woman!!! How you are talking you are an embarrassment to women and even to men.

I think you are stuck back in the 18th century
 
Why is it is that the woman who was the the victim of a masterbating man could then be blamed for the incident. She was minding her own business and was set upon by a preditor, that is the bottom line.! It is a shock and she did something about it, she is reporting the incident and reported to police. There is nothing illegal about a woman wearing bikini at a beach, why is it O.K for men to wear budgie smugglers and no top at the beach?? I have never heard of a woman masterbating at the sight of a male on the beach, on a train, bus or anywhere else. While anyone justifies this behaviour it will not stop and it is also going to stop woman from reporting. That why so many woman do not report being raped.
Well said !!
 
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do you know the difference of what looks like a female mastabating and having a scratch?
Oh dear you can't put scratching and masturbating on the same level. A man scratches his balls more than a woman scratches.

A women would never mastabate in public .

A woman wouldn't even scratch in public.

Can I ask , are you a woman becoming a man 👨 🤔
 
And women's boobs are also a feeding vessel.

I actually can't believe you are a woman!!! How you are talking you are an embarrassment to women and even to men.

I think you are stuck back in the 18th century
like it or lump it I AM A FEMALE... name Maxine Ida. As far as I'm concerned the boobs are the most useless part of the female body after partners and kids are finished with them. I get fed up with the breast cancer ads for money when, until recently the donations were not shared with any other cancer. Fortunately I haven't suffered from that one but have had 4 DIFFERENT CANCERS from age 16 up to 2009. At least females in the 18th century had some pride in themselves. You really disappoint me.
 
Oh dear you can't put scratching and masturbating on the same level. A man scratches his balls more than a woman scratches.

A women would never mastabate in public .

A woman wouldn't even scratch in public.

Can I ask , are you a woman becoming a man 👨 🤔
Grow up Suzanne. I've come across women having a fiddle on both train and a bus. Even on a train station. Why are you talking such utter rubbish. Ask a decent man why he scratches his balls and you may just begin to understand anatomy.
 
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