[Jany]

Hi Vella,

My new life started 10 years ago when I discovered that my marriage was not all it was cracked up to be. The now ex husband decided that he needed a new partner after 40 years and 3 lovely children later. That said I divorced him finally two years ago on Valentine's Day. Luckily no house or anything to split which was very nice. Now I moved from NSW to WA and have never looked back. I now live a very quiet life. I go out and enjoy dinner out and a movie occasionally but I also like my solitude. I do love reading your columns, recipes and info so don't think that I am too alone. My peace and quiet are very welcoming.
I do care for a housemate but only as a driver when required and some company when needed.
I hope you don't mind my ranting on but sometimes it's nice to clear ones head.
Cheers Angie

Hi Angie, I’m so glad you moved on & have found peace. It took me too many years to wake up & realise after 43 years married. He has been a covert narcissist most of his adult life. I can’t tell you the cruel games, lies, back stabbing, inability to handle finances, loosing one home after another, my compensation & superannuation & home it provided, all gone in a year. To repay his credit cards. I was not able to know what was going on. I had 5 major spinal operations & suffer a serious non treatable spine disease, chronic severe pain. Finally I woke up & couldn’t cope with him enjoying my pain, & refusing to help in any way in the unit we were renting.
I’m free of it all. My adult son & I share & rent a home together. We have always had a special relationship. He was always there for me & encouraging me to leave. I’m happy & in peace.

 

[Still Ebby]

Hi Vella,

My new life started 10 years ago when I discovered that my marriage was not all it was cracked up to be. The now ex husband decided that he needed a new partner after 40 years and 3 lovely children later. That said I divorced him finally two years ago on Valentine's Day. Luckily no house or anything to split which was very nice. Now I moved from NSW to WA and have never looked back. I now live a very quiet life. I go out and enjoy dinner out and a movie occasionally but I also like my solitude. I do love reading your columns, recipes and info so don't think that I am too alone. My peace and quiet are very welcoming.
I do care for a housemate but only as a driver when required and some company when needed.
I hope you don't mind my ranting on but sometimes it's nice to clear ones head.
Cheers Angie

Welcome to SDC Angie and all

Hi Angie, I’m so glad you moved on & have found peace. It took me too many years to wake up & realise after 43 years married. He has been a covert narcissist most of his adult life. I can’t tell you the cruel games, lies, back stabbing, inability to handle finances, loosing one home after another, my compensation & superannuation & home it provided, all gone in a year. To repay his credit cards. I was not able to know what was going on. I had 5 major spinal operations & suffer a serious non treatable spine disease, chronic severe pain. Finally I woke up & couldn’t cope with him enjoying my pain, & refusing to help in any way in the unit we were renting.
I’m free of it all. My adult son & I share & rent a home together. We have always had a special relationship. He was always there for me & encouraging me to leave. I’m happy & in peace.

Good for you Angie don't let yourself be treated like a doormat.Happy Christmas