Things That Only Grandmothers Know: A Valueless Life?
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This article was kindly written for the SDC by member Josephine G.
When I come to consider what lies behind the woes, difficulties, sickness and drear of the lives of many women of my generation, I come to the conclusion it is because underneath the daily grind that we ‘get on with’, there is a system of beliefs, rock-solid, unspoken, probably not recognised in any formed way, that we learned at our mother’s knee.
It is true for everyone that the unquestioned beliefs in the background of our lives determine how we live, our behaviours and our resistance. Without uncovering and revising our beliefs, we will always end up doing what we have always done. What I and many or most women took on board and were taught overtly or covertly was that our value lay in being a good wife and mother. That was our destiny, the true meaning of our lives. There was no deliberate intent of malice or even restriction, this is how it had always been and always would be.
When I had my first daughter, the hospital chaplain gave me this unforgettable warning. ‘Remember, mother, she will forget everything you say and copy everything you do.’ In the beginning, the mother is the equivalent of a divine model, demonstrating what it means to be a woman, and we internalise that model long before we are able to think. We saw our mothers cooking and cleaning and serving us, but above all, serving and obeying her husband. He was lord and master, the final authority on all things. As observant little girls, we probably learned too how to subvert that authority, useful ways to manage or manipulate while keeping up the fiction of his superiority.
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This article was kindly written for the SDC by member Josephine G.
When I come to consider what lies behind the woes, difficulties, sickness and drear of the lives of many women of my generation, I come to the conclusion it is because underneath the daily grind that we ‘get on with’, there is a system of beliefs, rock-solid, unspoken, probably not recognised in any formed way, that we learned at our mother’s knee.
It is true for everyone that the unquestioned beliefs in the background of our lives determine how we live, our behaviours and our resistance. Without uncovering and revising our beliefs, we will always end up doing what we have always done. What I and many or most women took on board and were taught overtly or covertly was that our value lay in being a good wife and mother. That was our destiny, the true meaning of our lives. There was no deliberate intent of malice or even restriction, this is how it had always been and always would be.
When I had my first daughter, the hospital chaplain gave me this unforgettable warning. ‘Remember, mother, she will forget everything you say and copy everything you do.’ In the beginning, the mother is the equivalent of a divine model, demonstrating what it means to be a woman, and we internalise that model long before we are able to think. We saw our mothers cooking and cleaning and serving us, but above all, serving and obeying her husband. He was lord and master, the final authority on all things. As observant little girls, we probably learned too how to subvert that authority, useful ways to manage or manipulate while keeping up the fiction of his superiority.
Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Quisque in diam id erat facilisis consectetur vitae vel urna.
Ut lacus libero, suscipit auctor ipsum sit amet, viverra pretium nisl. Nullam facilisis nec odio nec dapibus. Integer maximus risus et velit porttitor ullamcorper
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