The ‘selfish’ trend among seniors is gaining popularity—is it fair?

In a society where the generational divide is often discussed in terms of technological savvy or cultural touchstones, a new trend is highlighting a more financial aspect of the gap between older and newer generations.

It's called SKI, or 'Spending Kids' Inheritance', and it's a movement that's gaining traction among older Australians, much to the chagrin of some in the younger generations.



The concept of SKI is straightforward: rather than saving and scrimping to leave an inheritance for their children, an increasing number of older generations are choosing to spend their hard-earned money on themselves.

This could mean travelling the world, indulging in hobbies, or simply enjoying a comfortable retirement without concern for what's left behind.

This trend, which some might label ‘selfish’, is sparking heated debates across family dinner tables and online. But is it as straightforward as it seems?


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Older generations are spending their hard-earned money on themselves with the latest trend. Credit: Shutterstock


Trudy Wertheim, a single mum in her 50s, subscribes to the SKI philosophy. After years of hard work and dedication to supporting her family, she's looking forward to her retirement.

She believed that her children, now in their 30s, were supportive of her decision to use her savings for her happiness.

‘There is a whole generation of kids being raised, who perhaps their carers didn’t instil in them from an early age, that if you do work hard, you can have everything you want out of life and more,’ she said.

‘There are generations coming through that just don’t expect to work. They expect to inherit or be given or bought a family home by their parents.’



‘They’ve never said to me, “We expect you to not spend your hard-earned savings because that’s ours,”’ she said.

‘Never has that come out of their mouth. My children have said to me, “Go and live your life. Do what you want to do. We just want you to be happy mum”.’

She's instilled a strong work ethic in her children, and they've expressed that they want nothing more than for their mum to live her life to the fullest.

The SKI movement raises important questions about the expectations of inheritance and the responsibilities of parents towards their adult children.

Some parents help their children financially while still alive, perhaps contributing towards education or a house deposit.

However, as Wertheim pointed out, this can lead to its own set of complications, especially when trying to be fair to all children, regardless of their circumstances.

The debate is further complicated by the stark reality facing many young Australians today.

According to a 2020 report from the Australian Housing and Urban Research Institute, ‘almost half’ of young Australians may not own property by the age of 54.

With house prices soaring and the rental market becoming increasingly unaffordable, many people's dream of homeownership is slipping away.



In the 1980s, older generations were entering the housing market at a time when the average wage was around $13,458, and the median house price was 2.9 times that amount.

Today, the average wage in Australia is $98,000 a year, with median house prices in Sydney and Melbourne reaching upwards of 10 times this figure.

While slightly more affordable in other capital cities, the disparity between income and housing costs remains a significant hurdle.

Supporters of the SKI movement argue that they've earned the right to spend their money as they see fit, and that younger generations should not feel entitled to an inheritance.

‘My kids are happy for me to spend it. They can have our house, which is more than I got when my parents passed away,’ wrote one.

‘They earned it, and they can spend it. So many entitled people,’ said another.

A third added: ‘The kids inherit your house. Your money is your business to spend how you like.’
Key Takeaways
  • Older generations in Australia are engaging in a trend known as SKI, or 'spending kids' inheritance', to use up their savings rather than leaving an inheritance for their children.
  • The SKI trend is creating controversy, with some seeing it as unfairly depriving younger generations, while others argue that it encourages a necessary shift in mindset away from dependence on inheritance.
  • A single mum, Trudy Wertheim, shared her support for the SKI philosophy, emphasising that she taught her children the value of hard work and did not feel obligated to leave an inheritance.
  • There is an increasing difficulty young Australians face in achieving home ownership, with current house prices being significantly disproportionate to average wages compared to several decades ago.
Where do you stand on the SKI movement? Have you embraced the trend of spending your kids' inheritance, or do you plan to leave something behind for the next generation? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
 
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The REAL issue in terms of the disparity in the housing market is that in the 50's-70's when those parents entered the housing market, that 'entry' consisted mostly of a simple 2-bed, 1-bath fibro cottage with an iron roof in a purpose-built workers suburb created by the government. So obviously housing costs as a % of wages was much lower. Todays 'starter homes' are virtual mansions with multiple bathrooms, 3 or 4 bedrooms and a double garage made of brick and tile. These are built in elaborate suburbs created by developers for maximum profits. If people and governments REALLY want to bring down housing costs and reduce the cost-of-living pressures that people are facing, go back to the 3-tiers of government working together to create suburbs of workers-cottage style starter homes. Today's equivalent of that would probably be something like a 400-500 square metre block with a 2-bed, 1 bath cement block cottage with a skillion cement roof to easily mount solar panels onto. These could be built very cheaply and easily by the thousands, even connected as rows of terraces, but NO, people's expectations of what are 'starter-homes' must consist of today are dictated by developer's profits, not people's most basic needs.
You must be talking about workers cottages in the 1800s.
 
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If you earned your money putting you in a position to finally enjoy the fruits of your hard labour you most certainly should be enjoying a little luxury like new car, holidays, etc. in later years. The younger generation tend to buy the very best of everything from day one, putting things on time payment and credit. We, in our youth, made do with second hand pretty much everything when we started out until we were in a position to pay cash and certainly did without luxury things like meals out and takeaway, maybe fish and chips once a week if we were lucky. Seems like young people these days want to live the high life and have the very best of everything from the beginning.
 
Worked hard for their money, so spend it like they feel fit, enjoy, relax, and have a great time. Some kids these days are so entitled..
 
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If the younger generation got off their pedestals by expecting everything to be given to them and get to work, skimping on essentials and starting off small then they will know the struggles we faced to get where we are now and definitely entitled to enjoy our saving that we worked so hard for.
 
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If the younger generation got off their pedestals by expecting everything to be given to them and get to work, skimping on essentials and starting off small then they will know the struggles we faced to get where we are now and definitely entitled to enjoy our saving that we worked so hard for.
So agree, in the 60,s I would go to the butcher and he just put mince and sausage meat on the counter without me even asking.
 
I don't own my own home or have any money. Just my pension and I don't have life insurance but I have all my bills paid in advance and managed to pay my credit cards off. So don't owe anyone anything but I do have funeral insurance so they won't have to fork out money for that after I'm gone. Took a bit but feel happy I'm not leaving them to pay out anything on me when I'm gone
 
I don't own my own home or have any money. Just my pension and I don't have life insurance but I have all my bills paid in advance and managed to pay my credit cards off. So don't owe anyone anything but I do have funeral insurance so they won't have to fork out money for that after I'm gone. Took a bit but feel happy I'm not leaving them to pay out anything on me when I'm gone
That’s a nice parent good for you
 
I don't own my own home or have any money. Just my pension and I don't have life insurance but I have all my bills paid in advance and managed to pay my credit cards off. So don't owe anyone anything but I do have funeral insurance so they won't have to fork out money for that after I'm gone. Took a bit but feel happy I'm not leaving them to pay out anything on me when I'm gone
Good on you, that's quite an effort on the pension.
Some parents are greedy too.
I have a friend who isn't exactly broke, not loaded but comfortable.
We were talking about funerals recently and I asked her if she had a prepaid funeral or insurance.
Her answer was "I won't be here, that's the kids problem".
What a terrible attitude. She has money to go overseas every year, buy new clothes, etc but is too lousy to make sure her kids, who are all struggling with mortgages, etc are not saddled with her funeral expenses.
I guess it's not always the kids that are selfish.
 
Good on you, that's quite an effort on the pension.
Some parents are greedy too.
I have a friend who isn't exactly broke, not loaded but comfortable.
We were talking about funerals recently and I asked her if she had a prepaid funeral or insurance.
Her answer was "I won't be here, that's the kids problem".
What a terrible attitude. She has money to go overseas every year, buy new clothes, etc but is too lousy to make sure her kids, who are all struggling with mortgages, etc are not saddled with her funeral expenses.
I guess it's not always the kids that are selfish.
You can say that again. All my kids have done it hard an now are struggling to pay their mortgages. Why make it harder on them
 
I’ve noticed the growing belief that the younger generations are “owed” something by their parents.
Unless you were born into generational wealth, the idea of “passing on” property or money only became a possibility from the late 1940’s when there was a growing affluence. Even then, it was only from bloody hard work & frugal living that there was anything to leave.
It was the remainder of the war generation that introduced such things as social security, something that the millennials take for granted.
Expect nothing & hope for the best but, work kids….WORK! If you wait to be given everything, you may be sadly disappointed.
 
For heavens sake, the parents earned it so the should get to use it however they feel fit. Let the family earn their own.
For myself I have funeral fund so the kids don't worry on that score.
I love my family so I won't leave them with a bill of any sort.r
When my husband passed away two years ago l didn't have much money for a fancy funeral so we all decided to have him cremated and have a gathering of friends and family at the house with his ashes.We had a Welsh minister come to say prayers and everything went well. l was at my ANZ bank not long after and he said the ANZ would pay for the funeral but l had already received a payment through my pension department.Just to let everyone know it need not be too expensive. l only have my house to leave for my children grand-children and great grand-children which they will all get their
 
what a stupid article. my kids are right behind their Mum to enjoy life first. What is wrong with these parents who can't tell their kids to in other words shut up. what's mine is yours does not cut the mustard.
 
People should be entitled to spend their own money how they please and not have greedy entitled children feeling put out because it is reducing their inheritance.
It is not"theirs".
I am comfortable, but not overly wealthy. I do like to help out now, when I can, rather than the kids having to wait until I fall off the perch.
One third of my home I put in my daughter's name many years ago to ensure she is taken care of.
The rest I intend to leave to my youngest son, who is a good worker and provider for his family, and also an inheritance for each of my grandchildren which they will not have access to until they reach the age of 30.
By that age I hope they will be sensible enough to use it wisely, to give them a good start in life.
At the same time, I do not intend to spend my old age scrimping and saving and going without.
I know they will be grateful for whatever they receive.
you are a smart "lady"???
 
I don't get this entitled attitude, its not their inheritance unless we leave it to them. I don't know about anyone else but my parents worked hard all their lives to raise us, give us a good home, feed us and had no savings. Sure, when they passed we got the Family home but we weren't expecting it.
I remember my in laws having the attitude that they had to leave an inheritance so much so that we had to literally force them to buy a decent car as they aged, which was just wrong. They, as we, worked hard for what little money they had and shouldn't have had to think that way.
We help our kids as much as we can when they need it and provide childminding, rent free board when needed but they earn more than we ever did.
Yes, costs are so much higher but we survived on second hand everything until we could afford to buy new, people these days don't want that, they want everything brand new.
It baffles me how the cost of housing is so high yet people are out there buying, are they depending on inheritance to pay it off? Don't live beyond your means if you don't have the money to do so.
Having said that, this country should take a leaf out of other countries books and stop overseas people from buying up our housing. You are not allowed to buy land or housing in places like China, Greece, Denmark if you are not native citizens so why do we allow it?
when I see these young ones bidding on Million dollars plus houses, I just think of how they will gag later on. Society has a heap of stupid people.
 

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