Spice up your sex life with ‘outercourse’!

When it comes to intimacy, we often associate sex with intercourse.

But did you know there's a whole exciting world of pleasure to be found beyond penetration?

That's where outercourse comes in.



Outercourse is a term for any form of sexual activity that doesn’t involve penetration, like kissing, using sex toys, mutual masturbation, erotic massage and so on.

The beauty of it is that it focuses more on the journey rather than just the expected endpoint of orgasm.



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Outercourse may be a new way to spice up your sex life. Credit: Unsplash



Becoming more familiar with outercourse can help you and your partner understand what feels good and deepen your shared emotional connection. Plus, it's a great way to spice things up in the bedroom and keep them fresh and exciting.

It's also a fantastic form of safer sex that reduces the risk of STIs, making it an ideal option for older couples who may have concerns. The bonus is that since people of all sexual orientations and genders can do it, it is an incredibly inclusive practice.

Outercourse is also less pressure to attain a certain outcome, and it helps us veer from goal-oriented sex, which can be a relief, especially for those who deal with sexual dysfunctions.

On top of being one of the best alternatives, outercourse can lead to more intense orgasms. Plus, it can help you learn more about your body and your partner’s body, improving your sexual experiences overall.



If you're wondering how to start, it's all about communication. You and your partner should speak openly about your likes, dislikes, and boundaries before exploring and experimenting.

You can try different techniques or activities like oral sex, sensual massages, or mutual masturbation. You can also use props like lube, sex toys, such as a clitoral vibrator like We-Vibe’s Touch X or Arcwave’s Pow male masturbator, and nipple clamps to increase the pleasure.

Plus, many informative and inspiring books, podcasts, and blogs can provide more ideas and guidance.

The bottom line is that outercourse is all about being present and enjoying the moment with your partner. Focus on the connection and sensation rather than the end goal of orgasm.

And lastly, don't forget to prioritise aftercare, such as cuddling or gentle conversation post-outercourse. This will help maintain your connection and intimacy—not to mention give you a chance to plan for your next sexual encounter!



Scientists earlier revealed that sex is crucial for seniors–even in their 90s! In a previous story, research showed that sex is a great workout and can improve your cognitive functioning in later life. You can read more about it here.

Key Takeaways

  • Outercourse, defined as any sexual activity not involving vaginal or anal penetration, provides numerous opportunities for pleasure, intimacy and safety.
  • It encourages open communication and deeper emotional connections between partners, fostering creativity and exploration.
  • The practice of outercourse can also help those dealing with sexual dysfunctions by reducing the pressure to perform or achieve a certain outcome.
  • Tools to enhance an outercourse experience range from lubricants and sex toys to materials such as books or podcasts and can be enjoyed at any age or health level.
What do you think about this new way of having sex? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
 
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I’m sure this has been around forever. Just wasn’t given a specific name. Probably weren’t as many weird and wacky sex toys that people could use years ago either.
 
I’m sure this has been around forever. Just wasn’t given a specific name. Probably weren’t as many weird and wacky sex toys that people could use years ago either.
The coming of the Ni-Cad and Lithium Batteries was the Great Leap Forward.
In the old days, one had to rely on much bulkier equipment and the odd bolt of lightning.....1704935731833.png
 
I’m sure this has been around forever. Just wasn’t given a specific name. Probably weren’t as many weird and wacky sex toys that people could use years ago either.
I can't understand the unfounded fear that some males have about sex toys. Do they make you feel inadequate?

Grow some balls.... literally! They can be an enhancement to the pleasure of both parties. My advice comes free of charge.
 
The coming of the Ni-Cad and Lithium Batteries was the Great Leap Forward.
In the old days, one had to rely on much bulkier equipment and the odd bolt of lightning.....View attachment 39016
Well said Staffordshire Whippet. Life is so much easier today with all the mod cons, including great improvements in sex aids I’d imagine, never bothered to check.
 
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Well said Staffordshire Whippet. Life is so much easier today with all the mod cons, including great improvements in sex aids I’d imagine, never bothered to check.
Yep think you are right Gsr......especially when you think of just Kitchen electrical items for example that the lady of the house needs these days and all of the new electrical tools that us lads need for the backyard shed, then you can only dare to imagine what new gear that they buy for the bedroom. 🤣🤣
 
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Yep think you are right Gsr......especially when you think of just Kitchen electrical items for example that the lady of the house needs these days and all of the new electrical tools that us lads need for the backyard shed, then you can only dare to imagine what new gear that they buy for the bedroom. 🤣🤣
Not to mention a common rechargeable bathroom item....
 
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