She Broke My ONE Wedding Rule - Why I Had No Choice But To Kick My Sister Out

Weddings are a time of joy, celebration, and often, meticulous planning. Every couple dreams of a perfect day to mark the beginning of their lives together, and sometimes, that dream includes a specific vision that they hope their guests will help bring to life. But what happens when someone close to you, someone you consider family, blatantly disregards your wishes on your special day? This is the dilemma one bride faced, leading to a decision that has since sparked a whirlwind of opinions.



The bride, a 25-year-old newlywed, took to the popular AITA (Am I The Asshole) Reddit forum to share her story. She grew up with an adopted sister, 'Jen', who was given special treatment due to her rough start in life. The bride understood and supported this, even though it meant that Jen often got her way, and she, by comparison, felt like she came second.


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A bride expressed frustration over her adopted sister for not granting her wedding wish. Credit: Shutterstock


Fast forward to adulthood, and the bride is now independent, successful, and ready to tie the knot with her fiancé 'Kip'. They planned a big, joyful wedding with a unique twist: a color scheme that reflected their favorite colors. Guests were asked to wear yellow, blue, or green, depending on their relationship to the bride or groom. The bride even chose a dress with green embroidered details to fit the theme.



However, Jen was not on board. She despised yellow and flatly refused to wear it, prompting the bride to warn her that non-compliance would result in her being asked to leave. It seemed like a straightforward rule, yet on the wedding day, Jen arrived in a purple dress, completely disregarding the agreed-upon color scheme.

The bride felt she had no choice but to ask Jen to leave, a decision that was met with resistance until the threat of security was made. While the rest of the wedding proceeded without a hitch, the aftermath was anything but smooth. The bride's parents were furious, accusing her of cruelty over something they perceived as trivial. The bride stood her ground, asserting that it was her wedding and her right to enforce the rules she had set.

The bride's fiancé, Kip, supported her decision, pointing out the favoritism that had been shown to Jen over the years. The incident has divided family and friends, with some saying they wouldn't have invited Jen in the first place, while others believe the bride should have been more lenient.



The Reddit community weighed in, with many siding with the bride, noting that Jen's choice to wear purple seemed like an act of spite, especially since all other guests had managed to adhere to the color scheme. Others criticized the parents for their ongoing favoritism and suggested it was time for the bride to confront them and her sister about their behavior.

However, some questioned the importance of the color scheme, arguing that the focus should be on the people and the marriage itself, rather than the aesthetics. They wondered if the strict rules were worth the potential fallout and whether the bride's priorities were misplaced.

As the debate rages on, one thing is clear: weddings can bring out the best and worst in people. The bride's story is a reminder that while it's important to respect the wishes of the couple, it's equally important to consider the lasting impact of the decisions made on such a significant day.



Key Takeaways
  • A woman shares her story on a Reddit forum about kicking her sister out of her wedding for not following the colour scheme dress code.
  • The woman explained her decision, stating she had made it clear to her sister that she would be asked to leave if she didn't wear yellow.
  • Online reactions to the woman's story were mixed, with some supporting her right to uphold her wedding rules and others criticising the importance placed on aesthetic.
  • The narrative reveals ongoing family tensions and favouritism, sparking discussions about the complex dynamics between siblings and their parents.

At the Seniors Discount Club, we understand the complexities of family dynamics, especially when it comes to events as emotionally charged as weddings. We invite our readers to share their thoughts and experiences. Have you ever had to enforce a difficult rule at a family event? How did you handle the situation, and what was the outcome? Let's discuss the delicate balance between standing up for oneself and maintaining family harmony.
 

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Well there would be no way I could have worn yellow, it just doesn't suit me, but in this case, if the colour did suit the sister, she was just being defiant & deserved to be told to leave.
 
At first I was going to sit on the fence with this one.
I get the idea of a colour theme and it probably looked great on the day. You hear quite often where people ask attendees to wear a certain colour at a funeral without all this fuss rubbish.
Then, the sister felt she had to take a stand, and, I get that.
In analysis, my opinion is that a happy compromise could easily have been achieved.
There are so many shades of yellow out there, it would not have taken much to modify the colour to suit the specific skin tone.
I think this is an argument nobody will win.
Just go the honeymoon and forget about this rubbish.
Sis can don the purple that suits her so well and go partying.
 
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I have to support the bride & groom in this regard. The guidelines were set & all guests, except one, were able to comply with the bride's wishes. Afterall it was her special day.

It almost seems that her sister was out to ruin the couple's day by going against the trend, a defiance, a rebellious statement which would have made her an 'ugly duckling', standing out in the crowd because she bucked the wishes of the bride.
Oui, je suis d'accord avec toi sur ce point. 👍
 
I went to a wedding where we were requested to wear black or white. All the guests complied as the bride wore red and it looked spectacular.
 
I think this goes a lot deeper than the dress colour. I think the sister feels entitled because she is adopted and has been treated specially. She thought she could get away with it and the parents would be on her side, which they were. It was the bride's special day and she made the rules. Everyone else abided by them, but the sister purposely disregarded her wishes, meaning she did not have love or respect for the bride.
 
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People should have been given the choice of those colours - not distinguishing the standing with the bride. That would feel like snobbery to me. Had the sister chosen one of the other colours that would have been fair enough in my opinion. Was her sister a bridesmaid?? I agree that yellow makes some people sick. Even our friendly GP commented about that. He was going to order special blood tests until he realised that was the problem. It can make your skin look yellow - a sign of liver problems.
 
I totally stand with the bride, the sister most definitely have adhered to her sister's wishes. What a spiteful thing to do to try and railroad the wedding. Kick her to the kerb
Why not give everybody a choice of those colours, not according to the relationship to the bride??? Why make distinctions??? I wonder how the average guest felt about that.
 
I, being the groom would have not invited her in the first place. She is not family. She is just a spoilt little bitch.
Whether she is liked or not legally she is part of the family. I wonder at what age she was adopted
 

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