Knock, knock: Dropping-in etiquette sparks debate on social norms among Aussies!
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In an age where digital communication reigns supreme, the concept of someone ‘dropping in’ unannounced can evoke a variety of emotions.
The spontaneous visit, a staple of social interaction in times past, has become a polarising topic among Australians, especially those over 60 who remember when it was the norm.
After delving into the etiquette of unannounced visits, people revealed a fascinating split in opinion.
The discussion around drop-in visits is more than just a matter of preference; it's a reflection of changing social norms and the pace of contemporary life.
It raises questions about how we balance the need for privacy with the benefits of spontaneous social interaction.
In today’s modern world, the views vary regarding the matter of unexpected visits, with some finding them a delightful means of staying connected, while others perceive them as anxiety-inducing.
For some, the unexpected knock on the door is a delightful surprise, a throwback to a time when community ties were stronger and more personal.
Angus, a resident hailing from the bush, shared that he can't imagine it any other way.
‘We expected everyone driving past to drop in for a cuppa. Our door is always open to anyone who wants to drop in. I find it weird that others don't do this. It's part of being a community,’ he said, highlighting the warmth and inclusivity of rural hospitality.
Another reader, Paula, expressed that ‘I get more anxious knowing about a visit ahead of time. I love my many visitors, and the best visits have been the unexpected.’
Meanwhile, Ronda believes that ‘Too much social etiquette actually stifles friendships. The best friendships are with those who don't knock. The kettle goes on, the washing gets moved over, and the conversation is effortless.’
Additionally, Simon said, ‘Real friends pop round when they know you aren't at your best—to see if you are OK or need a hand or friendly ear—and I would offer the same.’
On the flip side, there are those who find the idea of a drop-in visit nothing short of stressful, suggesting that a prior notification could alleviate the situation.
According to Jess, ‘I find unannounced drop-ins so stressful. Most of the time my house is a mess, I'm in my worst clothes, I haven't had time to check the basics (like a clean toilet and bathroom), there's no snacks, and sometimes no milk for a cuppa.’
Sam echoed this sentiment, saying, ‘You should never just drop in on someone unless it is an emergency. Always message ahead and get a response to the message. Don't use it as an excuse to then come over. Respect people's privacy. They could be skinny-dipping in the pool.’
Felicity added to this point, suggesting, ‘Give me a five-minute warning. Amazing how much housework I can achieve in that time.’
While the concept isn't necessarily objectionable in theory for some individuals, it simply doesn't align with their daily routines.
One of them is Beth, who said, ‘I'm so busy trying to survive with work, study and kids that at home I just want to be alone and chill out, or I'm doing chores.’
Matt also asserted he is too busy for drop-ins. ‘Who the hell in today's world has time for people to just “drop in for a cuppa”? I get it was the done thing at one time and I remember it fondly. But, it just isn't a thing in a world where everyone needs to work full time,’ he argued.
Finally, for those who dread being caught off-guard, Louise offered a clever tip: ‘Simply put your jacket on before answering the front door. If it's someone you don't want to see, you can say you are on your way out. In the unlikely event it's someone you do want to see, you can simply say you have just arrived home.’
As opinions diverge on the topic of unexpected visits, readers share their perspectives on the joys and challenges of drop-in guests.
While some cherish the spontaneity as a means of fostering connections, others find themselves grappling with the stress it can induce.
Amidst these differing views, guidance on making such visits enjoyable and pleasant for all parties involved becomes invaluable.
For those considering a spontaneous visit, practical tips and friendly advice offer insight into creating meaningful and enjoyable interactions during unexpected social calls.
Where do you stand on the matter? Do you relish the thought of a friend or neighbour popping by for a chat, or does the idea fill you with dread? Have you found a middle ground that respects both your need for solitude and your desire for community? Share your experiences and tips in the comments below.
The spontaneous visit, a staple of social interaction in times past, has become a polarising topic among Australians, especially those over 60 who remember when it was the norm.
After delving into the etiquette of unannounced visits, people revealed a fascinating split in opinion.
The discussion around drop-in visits is more than just a matter of preference; it's a reflection of changing social norms and the pace of contemporary life.
It raises questions about how we balance the need for privacy with the benefits of spontaneous social interaction.
In today’s modern world, the views vary regarding the matter of unexpected visits, with some finding them a delightful means of staying connected, while others perceive them as anxiety-inducing.
People shared their varying opinions on unexpected drop-in visits. Credits: Shutterstock
For some, the unexpected knock on the door is a delightful surprise, a throwback to a time when community ties were stronger and more personal.
Angus, a resident hailing from the bush, shared that he can't imagine it any other way.
‘We expected everyone driving past to drop in for a cuppa. Our door is always open to anyone who wants to drop in. I find it weird that others don't do this. It's part of being a community,’ he said, highlighting the warmth and inclusivity of rural hospitality.
Another reader, Paula, expressed that ‘I get more anxious knowing about a visit ahead of time. I love my many visitors, and the best visits have been the unexpected.’
Meanwhile, Ronda believes that ‘Too much social etiquette actually stifles friendships. The best friendships are with those who don't knock. The kettle goes on, the washing gets moved over, and the conversation is effortless.’
Additionally, Simon said, ‘Real friends pop round when they know you aren't at your best—to see if you are OK or need a hand or friendly ear—and I would offer the same.’
On the flip side, there are those who find the idea of a drop-in visit nothing short of stressful, suggesting that a prior notification could alleviate the situation.
According to Jess, ‘I find unannounced drop-ins so stressful. Most of the time my house is a mess, I'm in my worst clothes, I haven't had time to check the basics (like a clean toilet and bathroom), there's no snacks, and sometimes no milk for a cuppa.’
Sam echoed this sentiment, saying, ‘You should never just drop in on someone unless it is an emergency. Always message ahead and get a response to the message. Don't use it as an excuse to then come over. Respect people's privacy. They could be skinny-dipping in the pool.’
Felicity added to this point, suggesting, ‘Give me a five-minute warning. Amazing how much housework I can achieve in that time.’
While the concept isn't necessarily objectionable in theory for some individuals, it simply doesn't align with their daily routines.
One of them is Beth, who said, ‘I'm so busy trying to survive with work, study and kids that at home I just want to be alone and chill out, or I'm doing chores.’
Matt also asserted he is too busy for drop-ins. ‘Who the hell in today's world has time for people to just “drop in for a cuppa”? I get it was the done thing at one time and I remember it fondly. But, it just isn't a thing in a world where everyone needs to work full time,’ he argued.
Finally, for those who dread being caught off-guard, Louise offered a clever tip: ‘Simply put your jacket on before answering the front door. If it's someone you don't want to see, you can say you are on your way out. In the unlikely event it's someone you do want to see, you can simply say you have just arrived home.’
As opinions diverge on the topic of unexpected visits, readers share their perspectives on the joys and challenges of drop-in guests.
While some cherish the spontaneity as a means of fostering connections, others find themselves grappling with the stress it can induce.
Amidst these differing views, guidance on making such visits enjoyable and pleasant for all parties involved becomes invaluable.
For those considering a spontaneous visit, practical tips and friendly advice offer insight into creating meaningful and enjoyable interactions during unexpected social calls.
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