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Is it unreasonable to exclude one friend from my party?​

AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/LuckyPersonality6548:

Am I being unreasonable for telling my friend that I was done inviting her to parties?

'I (22, Female) throw a lot of dinner parties (like a ton). I LOVE to cook, so I always put food on the table, and I'm a pretty good chef, I'd say. One of my friends comes to all of them. The problem is, she takes all the leftovers. Every single time that there's a scrap left, she takes it. And I appreciate that she doesn't wanna waste food. That's not the problem. The thing is: I want some leftovers, too! So, I told her when we were eating this time, "Hey, don't take the leftovers, ok?" And she was like, "Yeah, sounds good."'

'Fast forward to the end of the party. She takes the leftovers. When I noticed later that night, I texted her, "Hey, if you can't stop taking the leftovers, I'm not gonna invite you anymore." She says ok.'

'Next time that she comes over for a party, I remind her when we're eating, don't take the leftovers. She says okay. When she was about to leave, I was sitting near the table. Guess what I see: SHE'S TAKING THE LEFTOVERS. So I told her that if she couldn't listen to a boundary I set, the clear consequence that I discussed with her was that she would not be invited to any more parties. She said that it wasn't fair that she couldn't have some, and she was only taking a bit this time. I'm not sure if that's true, but I told her I didn't want her to take any. She says okay and puts them back.'

'Fast forward to the next time, I hosted a party. She isn't invited. Apparently, she found out through the grapevine (makes sense, we share quite a few friends), and she got pissed, saying that she put them back and I should have invited her again. I think she might be right. Am I the unreasonable one in this scenario?'