Grandmother in disbelief as her daughter commits unthinkable act with grandchild's boyfriend
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In a tale that reads more like a soap opera than real life, a family has been left in tatters after a shocking revelation that has the community whispering and heads shaking in disbelief.
The story, which emerged from an anonymous plea for advice, has become a cautionary tale about the complexities of family dynamics and the boundaries that should never be crossed.
The heart of this family drama lies with a woman who, seeking solace and guidance, reached out to the online column Slate under the pseudonym 'Just Want a Peaceful Retirement'.
The details she provided were both intimate and distressing: her adult daughter, Mia, had engaged in an affair with her 20-year-old granddaughter’s boyfriend.
Her granddaughter Evelyn, who was attending a local college, had her world upended when she discovered the affair.
‘Evelyn moved out of her [mum's] home and in with me and has gone no contact with her [mum]. I am extremely disappointed and disturbed by my daughter's conduct,’ the grandmother said.
'But as mad and as disappointed as I am, I do want to continue to have a relationship with her, if only to get a clear answer as to why she did something so awful.'
However, the situation was further complicated by Evelyn's ultimatum to the rest of the family: side with her and cut off Mia, or be seen as an enemy.
This predicament left the grandmother in an unenviable position.
'She's very young, and she was grievously betrayed. But it rankles to have a guest in my home telling me who I can and cannot associate with,’ she said.
'On the other hand, I sort of agree with her. This is the worst thing Mia's ever done. But it's not the first time I've been taken aback by something my daughter has done.’
'If it was just a choice of who I want to spend time with, Evelyn is the clear choice, but I resent her putting me in this position.'
The response to this family crisis was measured and empathetic, which began by telling the grandmother not to ‘hold her breath’ waiting for an answer as to why Mia betrayed her own daughter.
'Of course, you are the only one who can decide whether to cut off your daughter, and your granddaughter shouldn't be demanding that you do so,’ the columnist replied.
'Tell Evelyn that you love her and are happy to have her stay with you, but you aren't prepared to become permanently estranged from your child, and that's your choice to make.'
The columnist also suggested talking with her granddaughter about why she was insistent on making her choose sides.
'You seem to think she's being vindictive, but could there be something else going on here?' the columnist said.
'Expecting people to cut off her [mum] as proof that they can be trusted might seem reactive and unreasonable.’
'But if it's really coming from a place of fear and insecurity regarding who she can trust, maybe you can talk about and try to address those underlying worries with Evelyn, even if you can't and don't want to cede your right to make your own decisions about being in contact with your daughter.'
In a similar story, a bride-to-be has been criticised online for her grandmother’s act, who accidentally made an act that made her furious.
She labelled the incident ‘absolute betrayal’ and banned her from attending her wedding.
What did the grandmother do? Read more about the story here.
What do you think of this story members? Do you agree with the columnist’s advice? Let us know in the comments below!
The story, which emerged from an anonymous plea for advice, has become a cautionary tale about the complexities of family dynamics and the boundaries that should never be crossed.
The heart of this family drama lies with a woman who, seeking solace and guidance, reached out to the online column Slate under the pseudonym 'Just Want a Peaceful Retirement'.
The details she provided were both intimate and distressing: her adult daughter, Mia, had engaged in an affair with her 20-year-old granddaughter’s boyfriend.
Mia’s daughter was betrayed by her own mum by engaging in an affair with her boyfriend. Credit: Shutterstock
Her granddaughter Evelyn, who was attending a local college, had her world upended when she discovered the affair.
‘Evelyn moved out of her [mum's] home and in with me and has gone no contact with her [mum]. I am extremely disappointed and disturbed by my daughter's conduct,’ the grandmother said.
'But as mad and as disappointed as I am, I do want to continue to have a relationship with her, if only to get a clear answer as to why she did something so awful.'
However, the situation was further complicated by Evelyn's ultimatum to the rest of the family: side with her and cut off Mia, or be seen as an enemy.
This predicament left the grandmother in an unenviable position.
'She's very young, and she was grievously betrayed. But it rankles to have a guest in my home telling me who I can and cannot associate with,’ she said.
'On the other hand, I sort of agree with her. This is the worst thing Mia's ever done. But it's not the first time I've been taken aback by something my daughter has done.’
'If it was just a choice of who I want to spend time with, Evelyn is the clear choice, but I resent her putting me in this position.'
The response to this family crisis was measured and empathetic, which began by telling the grandmother not to ‘hold her breath’ waiting for an answer as to why Mia betrayed her own daughter.
'Of course, you are the only one who can decide whether to cut off your daughter, and your granddaughter shouldn't be demanding that you do so,’ the columnist replied.
'Tell Evelyn that you love her and are happy to have her stay with you, but you aren't prepared to become permanently estranged from your child, and that's your choice to make.'
The columnist also suggested talking with her granddaughter about why she was insistent on making her choose sides.
'You seem to think she's being vindictive, but could there be something else going on here?' the columnist said.
'Expecting people to cut off her [mum] as proof that they can be trusted might seem reactive and unreasonable.’
'But if it's really coming from a place of fear and insecurity regarding who she can trust, maybe you can talk about and try to address those underlying worries with Evelyn, even if you can't and don't want to cede your right to make your own decisions about being in contact with your daughter.'
In a similar story, a bride-to-be has been criticised online for her grandmother’s act, who accidentally made an act that made her furious.
She labelled the incident ‘absolute betrayal’ and banned her from attending her wedding.
What did the grandmother do? Read more about the story here.
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