Bride sacrifices her health to save for her partner’s perfect wedding and the internet is outraged - what do you think?
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For most of us, our wedding day is the biggest party we’ll ever throw. More than just the union of two people, it is also a celebration of love — a party that gathers a couple’s families and friends together.
Because of this, and probably also in no small part due to the prevalence of social media, couples these days often feel great pressure to throw an ‘epic’ wedding. Unfortunately, doing so often comes with great expense.
But should it come at the cost of your health?
Turning to the internet for advice, a woman innocently asked on social media how much other people have tucked away for their dream weddings.
But in posting, the bride to be also revealed that she has resorted to missing health appointments and cutting back on necessary medication to save money. According to her message, her fiancé has a clear idea of how their big day should go, and they need to aggressively save to make it a reality.
A member of a popular wedding Facebook group shared screenshots of the bride to be’s answers, which generated a great deal of interest and sympathy, but also some outrage. The woman, seeing the reactions from members, tried to justify her actions.
‘My future husband wanted a wedding, and he’s got way more family than I do. Someone has to pay for them. I don’t have a job due to my lupus and I’m very well not going to have my fiancé front everything,’ she said, defending her decisions on the social media platform.
The woman also told members that she could save $1200 in three months if she skipped her medication.
Determined to make the wedding come true, she added: ‘If it saves me money for the wedding he truly wants, I’ll do anything for him.’
Needless to say, the woman’s statement didn’t give other members a good impression of her fiancé. By encouraging this behaviour, her partner valued a ‘party’ more than her health, or so it seemed to the group.
‘It’s wild that she is seemingly willing to die for him to have the party he wants, and he doesn’t want to compromise his perfect party for his fiancée’s health. I mean, she’s not going to feel good at her wedding most likely, right?’ one member speculated.
Another person aghast at the woman’s situation said: ‘What the f**k has he done to her to make her feel so worthless and undeserving of treatment? It seems she’s trapped as many disabled people are in relationships.’
The bride-to-be gave another update trying to shrug off people’s concerns: ‘For everyone a little shocked — I’m sorry. It’s very hard to have lupus and fibro, with no job, but still want a wedding. It's like deciding whether you want to eat or pay your electric bill. It sounds crazy, yes. But I just want my future husband to be happy with this wedding. I want my in-laws to be happy and hopefully be more of a family to me than how they are now.’
But this worried people even more.
“Her in-laws aren’t gonna like her more just because she’s torturing herself for a wedding day. And the fact that her husband [to-be] is fine with her doing that just so he can have the day HE wants is disgusting, and such a massive red flag,” said one member.
‘This is what happens when your disease weighs heavily on you mentally. You start to think you can’t be loved without making major compromises often to your health to prove you’re worthy of spending time with or loving,’ someone else pointed out.
At present, there’s still no conclusion yet to the woman’s predicament. But weddings do break the bank for many couples.
According to a Moneysmart survey, weddings in Australia cost an average of $36,000. In order to meet the expenses, 82% of couples choose to dip into their savings, 60% took out a loan, and 18% used their credit card.
Moneysmart recommends couples decide on a budget that is comfortable for both parties, break down the wedding costs, and research to find great deals. The website also urges those planning their wedding to always negotiate prices.
Do you feel that the bride-to-be is risking too much for the perfect wedding? And are people spending too much on weddings these days? Let us know in the comments below.
Because of this, and probably also in no small part due to the prevalence of social media, couples these days often feel great pressure to throw an ‘epic’ wedding. Unfortunately, doing so often comes with great expense.
But should it come at the cost of your health?
Turning to the internet for advice, a woman innocently asked on social media how much other people have tucked away for their dream weddings.
But in posting, the bride to be also revealed that she has resorted to missing health appointments and cutting back on necessary medication to save money. According to her message, her fiancé has a clear idea of how their big day should go, and they need to aggressively save to make it a reality.
A member of a popular wedding Facebook group shared screenshots of the bride to be’s answers, which generated a great deal of interest and sympathy, but also some outrage. The woman, seeing the reactions from members, tried to justify her actions.
‘My future husband wanted a wedding, and he’s got way more family than I do. Someone has to pay for them. I don’t have a job due to my lupus and I’m very well not going to have my fiancé front everything,’ she said, defending her decisions on the social media platform.
The woman also told members that she could save $1200 in three months if she skipped her medication.
Determined to make the wedding come true, she added: ‘If it saves me money for the wedding he truly wants, I’ll do anything for him.’
Needless to say, the woman’s statement didn’t give other members a good impression of her fiancé. By encouraging this behaviour, her partner valued a ‘party’ more than her health, or so it seemed to the group.
‘It’s wild that she is seemingly willing to die for him to have the party he wants, and he doesn’t want to compromise his perfect party for his fiancée’s health. I mean, she’s not going to feel good at her wedding most likely, right?’ one member speculated.
Another person aghast at the woman’s situation said: ‘What the f**k has he done to her to make her feel so worthless and undeserving of treatment? It seems she’s trapped as many disabled people are in relationships.’
The bride-to-be gave another update trying to shrug off people’s concerns: ‘For everyone a little shocked — I’m sorry. It’s very hard to have lupus and fibro, with no job, but still want a wedding. It's like deciding whether you want to eat or pay your electric bill. It sounds crazy, yes. But I just want my future husband to be happy with this wedding. I want my in-laws to be happy and hopefully be more of a family to me than how they are now.’
But this worried people even more.
“Her in-laws aren’t gonna like her more just because she’s torturing herself for a wedding day. And the fact that her husband [to-be] is fine with her doing that just so he can have the day HE wants is disgusting, and such a massive red flag,” said one member.
‘This is what happens when your disease weighs heavily on you mentally. You start to think you can’t be loved without making major compromises often to your health to prove you’re worthy of spending time with or loving,’ someone else pointed out.
At present, there’s still no conclusion yet to the woman’s predicament. But weddings do break the bank for many couples.
According to a Moneysmart survey, weddings in Australia cost an average of $36,000. In order to meet the expenses, 82% of couples choose to dip into their savings, 60% took out a loan, and 18% used their credit card.
Moneysmart recommends couples decide on a budget that is comfortable for both parties, break down the wedding costs, and research to find great deals. The website also urges those planning their wedding to always negotiate prices.
Do you feel that the bride-to-be is risking too much for the perfect wedding? And are people spending too much on weddings these days? Let us know in the comments below.
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