Bride demands divorce just 24 hours after wedding—the shocking reason will leave you speechless!
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When we say ‘I do,’ it's with the hope that our partner will respect our wishes and boundaries.
But what happens when they don't?
For one bride, her husband's disregard for her one ‘unbreakable’ rule was enough to call it quits on their marriage—just 24 hours after saying their vows.
The bride said, ‘We each took on about half the responsibility for organising the wedding, but I think I was pretty reasonable about compromise when he really wanted something.’
‘My only hard-and-fast rule was that he would not rub cake in my face at the reception.’
It's a tradition that some find amusing, but for her, it was a hard no, especially given her history of claustrophobia stemming from a traumatic car accident.
She communicated this to her partner, who agreed to her terms. Or so she thought.
On the day that was meant to be the happiest of her life, her husband broke that one 'unbreakable' rule.
‘He grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it,’ she recounted.
The act seemed premeditated to the bride as he had a ‘bunch of cupcakes as backup’.
This act, which some might dismiss as a harmless prank, was a clear violation of her trust and a blatant disregard for her well-being.
The bride's reaction was swift and decisive. She wanted a divorce.
While friends urged her to reconsider, she stood her ground, knowing that this breach of trust was a red flag she couldn't ignore.
She wrote to a magazine’s advice column asking for advice, and they supported her decision, reminding her—and all of us—that it's essential to surround ourselves with people who value our happiness.
The magazine said, ‘Continue with your divorce.’ And persuaded her against following her friend’s advice when they said they weren’t the ones ‘who have to wake up every day with a man whose behaviour massively turns them off.’
‘Make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness, and continue with your divorce.’
The broader community also rallied behind her, recognising that her husband's actions were not just a breach of a wedding day agreement but a sign of deeper disrespect.
One person commented saying, ‘I feel like if you set a hard line with your partner, especially about something physical, and they flagrantly and deliberately violate it in front of a crowd of people, that is what is known as a red flag.’
‘It seems to me like him stating from the start that he doesn't care about how she feels or what she asks for, so I'm team divorce for sure!’ another added.
For those wondering about the legal side of things, in Australia, you can't just snap your fingers and be divorced.
There's a process to follow, which includes a mandatory 12-month separation period before you can file for divorce.
This means that this bride has a long wait ahead of her before she can legally dissolve her marriage.
On the other hand, an annulment is a different ordeal.
It's a declaration that the marriage was never valid, and there are specific grounds for pursuing one. Unlike divorce, there's no set waiting period, but it's a more complex legal process.
While this bride set clear boundaries and acted decisively when those boundaries weren't respected, many struggle to set clear boundaries and resolve conflict when it arises.
Fortunately, one of our members, a retired psychologist @Joy Straw, wrote an informative article on conflict resolution.
You can read the article here.
Have you ever had a partner disrespect a boundary you set? How did you handle it? Let us know in the comments below!
But what happens when they don't?
For one bride, her husband's disregard for her one ‘unbreakable’ rule was enough to call it quits on their marriage—just 24 hours after saying their vows.
The bride said, ‘We each took on about half the responsibility for organising the wedding, but I think I was pretty reasonable about compromise when he really wanted something.’
‘My only hard-and-fast rule was that he would not rub cake in my face at the reception.’
It's a tradition that some find amusing, but for her, it was a hard no, especially given her history of claustrophobia stemming from a traumatic car accident.
She communicated this to her partner, who agreed to her terms. Or so she thought.
While cake smashing is a tradition that many find amusing, the bride did not want cake rubbed on her face at the reception. Image Source: Pexels / Luis Quintero
On the day that was meant to be the happiest of her life, her husband broke that one 'unbreakable' rule.
‘He grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it,’ she recounted.
The act seemed premeditated to the bride as he had a ‘bunch of cupcakes as backup’.
This act, which some might dismiss as a harmless prank, was a clear violation of her trust and a blatant disregard for her well-being.
The bride's reaction was swift and decisive. She wanted a divorce.
While friends urged her to reconsider, she stood her ground, knowing that this breach of trust was a red flag she couldn't ignore.
She wrote to a magazine’s advice column asking for advice, and they supported her decision, reminding her—and all of us—that it's essential to surround ourselves with people who value our happiness.
The magazine said, ‘Continue with your divorce.’ And persuaded her against following her friend’s advice when they said they weren’t the ones ‘who have to wake up every day with a man whose behaviour massively turns them off.’
‘Make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness, and continue with your divorce.’
The broader community also rallied behind her, recognising that her husband's actions were not just a breach of a wedding day agreement but a sign of deeper disrespect.
One person commented saying, ‘I feel like if you set a hard line with your partner, especially about something physical, and they flagrantly and deliberately violate it in front of a crowd of people, that is what is known as a red flag.’
‘It seems to me like him stating from the start that he doesn't care about how she feels or what she asks for, so I'm team divorce for sure!’ another added.
For those wondering about the legal side of things, in Australia, you can't just snap your fingers and be divorced.
There's a process to follow, which includes a mandatory 12-month separation period before you can file for divorce.
This means that this bride has a long wait ahead of her before she can legally dissolve her marriage.
On the other hand, an annulment is a different ordeal.
It's a declaration that the marriage was never valid, and there are specific grounds for pursuing one. Unlike divorce, there's no set waiting period, but it's a more complex legal process.
While this bride set clear boundaries and acted decisively when those boundaries weren't respected, many struggle to set clear boundaries and resolve conflict when it arises.
Fortunately, one of our members, a retired psychologist @Joy Straw, wrote an informative article on conflict resolution.
You can read the article here.
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