Avoid social faux pas! Etiquette experts reveal the 11 rudest things you're probably doing in someone else's home!

As we emerge from the cocoon of pandemic isolation and once again flutter into the social scene, it's important to remember that the wings of our social butterfly selves must be dusted with the fine powder of good manners, especially when we're guests in someone else's home. The Seniors Discount Club is here to guide you through the delicate dance of houseguest etiquette, ensuring you're remembered for all the right reasons.

The art of being a good guest is timeless, and as we rekindle our in-person connections, it's crucial to brush up on the dos and don'ts of visiting others' homes. We've consulted with etiquette experts to compile a list of the top 11 rude behaviors to avoid, ensuring your next visit is as smooth as a well-aged Merlot.



1. **Respect Personal Boundaries**
When a host says, 'Make yourself at home,' it's not an invitation to treat their space as your own. Keep your feet off the furniture and refrain from rummaging through the fridge or cabinets unless invited to do so. Remember, a home is not a showroom, so admire their treasures with your eyes, not your hands.


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2. **Don't Assume You'll Get the Grand Tour**
While some hosts may eagerly show off their abode, others prefer to keep certain areas private. Never demand a tour; patience is a virtue that could reward you with a gracious invitation to explore.



3. **Know When to Say Goodbye**
Lingering too long can turn a delightful evening sour. Watch for subtle cues from your host, like tidying up or a change into more comfortable attire, signaling it's time to wrap up the evening.

4. **Own Up to Accidents**
Accidents happen, but how you handle them speaks volumes. If you spill or break something, inform your host immediately. It's far better to face a little embarrassment than to leave them with a hidden surprise.

5. **Keep Curiosity in Check**
While it might be tempting to peek behind closed doors or into medicine cabinets, resist the urge. Your host's privacy should always be respected.



6. **Plus-Ones Need Pre-Approval**
Bringing an uninvited guest can put undue strain on your host's hospitality. Always confirm if it's acceptable to bring someone else along.

7. **Communicate Dietary Needs Early**
If you have dietary restrictions, inform your host well in advance of the meal. This courtesy allows them to prepare and ensures you won't go hungry.

8. **Don't Feed the Pets Without Permission**
Just like people, pets can have dietary restrictions and allergies. Always ask before offering a treat to your host's furry friend.



9. **Follow the House Shoe Policy**
Whether it's shoes on or off, abide by your host's preference. If you're uncomfortable going barefoot, bring along a pair of clean socks or indoor slippers.

10. **Respect the Host's Arrangements**
If you find yourself at a dinner party with place cards, don't rearrange the seating to suit your preferences. Trust that your host has thoughtfully planned the seating chart.

11. **Never Arrive Empty-Handed**
A small token of appreciation, like a bottle of wine or a bouquet of flowers, goes a long way in showing gratitude for your host's efforts.



Key Takeaways
  • Visiting someone's home requires respect for their space and items; it is impolite to touch or move things without permission.
  • Guests should avoid overstaying their welcome and pay attention to cues from hosts that it is time to leave.
  • It is considered rude and inappropriate to snoop in the host’s cabinets or bring unexpected plus-ones without prior approval.
  • Guests should inform hosts of any dietary restrictions in advance and bring a small gift as a token of gratitude for the invitation.

Remember, dear members, the essence of good etiquette is consideration for others. By avoiding these common faux pas, you'll ensure that your presence is a gift in itself. Have you ever experienced a guest committing one of these social sins? Or perhaps you have your own tips for impeccable houseguest behavior? Share your stories and advice in the comments below – we'd love to hear from you!
 

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I had a best friend in Perth who used to come in when I was still in bed and make herself breakfast while she waited for me to get up.
She always made herself at home and I loved it, I really miss her since I moved to Adelaide but we keep in touch on Facebook now and then.
 
If you unwrap something make sure all the packaging especially cellophane or other clear type is not left on the floor for somebody to have an accident on if they don't see it. Clear wrapping is very difficult to see on some floor surfaces.
Also it is very important not to feed the pets. Some food and drinks are dangerous for pets and can cause permanent damage
 
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Years ago I was at a gathering where the host went absolutely ballistic. Why?

Her friend's children were playing at a table which was supposedly a "family heirloom". The kid's left a couple of barely visible scores on the timber tabletop. Anybody would think it was the end of the world! A mammoth argument started between the two parties until I intervened with a "solution". I suggested the table be broken into pieces for firewood. That only served to inflame the situation!

I have never set foot into that house again.
 
Years ago I was at a gathering where the host went absolutely ballistic. Why?

Her friend's children were playing at a table which was supposedly a "family heirloom". The kid's left a couple of barely visible scores on the timber tabletop. Anybody would think it was the end of the world! A mammoth argument started between the two parties until I intervened with a "solution". I suggested the table be broken into pieces for firewood. That only served to inflame the situation!

I have never set foot into that house again.
I wouldn't like that, children should learn respect in someone else's house. I invited a neighbour in years ago for a cuppa . The first thing her child did was jump up and down on my sofa and she didn't tell him to stop.I did so no invites again
 
I agree I hate kidlets jumping on furniture it’s just not on 🌝

Years ago I was at a gathering where the host went absolutely ballistic. Why?

Her friend's children were playing at a table which was supposedly a "family heirloom". The kid's left a couple of barely visible scores on the timber tabletop. Anybody would think it was the end of the world! A mammoth argument started between the two parties until I intervened with a "solution". I suggested the table be broken into pieces for firewood. That only served to inflame the situation!

I have never set foot into that house again.

#9. Have a relative (through marriage) that has tiles on the floor throughout their house. They wear shoes but expect guests to take theirs off. Stuffed if I am going to polish their tiles with MY socks!

I wouldn't like that, children should learn respect in someone else's house. I invited a neighbour in years ago for a cuppa . The first thing her child did was jump up and down on my sofa and she didn't tell him to stop.I did so no invites again
Also jumping on beds
 
#9. Have a relative (through marriage) that has tiles on the floor throughout their house. They wear shoes but expect guests to take theirs off. Stuffed if I am going to polish their tiles with MY socks!
Hate tiles previous owner and the one who built our house put the wrong ones down in our bathroom and it's like a skating rink when wet.He also didn't put a drain in our en-suite bathroom
 
I wouldn't like that, children should learn respect in someone else's house. I invited a neighbour in years ago for a cuppa . The first thing her child did was jump up and down on my sofa and she didn't tell him to stop.I did so no invites again
Don't like children going into my fridge and pantry
 
I wouldn't like that, children should learn respect in someone else's house. I invited a neighbour in years ago for a cuppa . The first thing her child did was jump up and down on my sofa and she didn't tell him to stop.I did so no invites again
reminds me of a time years ago that I invited a neighbour in for a cuppa and she brought the child from hell with her! The kid was climbing over and under every piece of furniture in the room she (yes it was a girl) even brushed ornaments off one piece to give herself more room to slide along it, what was Mum doing in all the chaos, absolutely nothing, she apparently believed in "Free Expression" and encouraged her little monster to express herself in any way that she wanted at any time it suited her, needless to say it was a short visit and an invite that was never repeated.:oops:
 
reminds me of a time years ago that I invited a neighbour in for a cuppa and she brought the child from hell with her! The kid was climbing over and under every piece of furniture in the room she (yes it was a girl) even brushed ornaments off one piece to give herself more room to slide along it, what was Mum doing in all the chaos, absolutely nothing, she apparently believed in "Free Expression" and encouraged her little monster to express herself in any way that she wanted at any time it suited her, needless to say it was a short visit and an invite that was never repeated.:oops:
Makes you wonder what sort of a person she is today doesn’t it 🌝
 

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