AIBU for not knowing how to run the house like my wife did for almost 50 years?
My wife and I are 68, I retired about 3 years ago, and my wife is/was a nurse who went back to work for a “change of pace”. So for the first time ever I’m out of work, and she’s working. This has created a bit of an awkward dynamic since I have 0 experience doing chores (we got married and moved in together when we were 18, and before that, I lived with my mom). So I legitimately have never had to lift a finger at home till recently.
My wife packed my lunch and kissed me goodbye for 47 years. She was a bit shocked to discover I won’t be doing the same. She’s had to teach me how to cook since I had very little experience doing it (none actually), now the only thing I can do well is clean. So that is not an issue. But everything else that she used to do I’m just not capable of. She’s been less than understanding…
I feel that we should maybe split the chores
We recently got into an argument because I haven’t been able to, “do what I (she) did for almost 50 years” Which she’s right, but like I said….I have no experience with any of this stuff. I didn’t even want to retire since my dad and grandpa worked till the day they died, but she convinced me too. And now I’m stuck here. I’m doing my best.
Edit(s):
She got retrained before going back to work
I was not expected to help in any way before this. She was always a very meticulous housekeeper, and even now she didn’t expect me to help, up until I showed a willingness to help her take care of the house.
She was a Stay At Home Mum/Stay At Home Wife for a huge majority of our 50-year marriage and 55-year relationship. I’d say she worked for about 7 years total in that time.