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AIBU 15.11.2024
AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/Head-Juggernaut-2730:
Am I being unreasonable for refusing to pay for a shared holiday with family that I'm no longer attending?
'Our family has been growing, and since last year, we started booking a holiday home in the countryside just before Christmas so we could all spend time together before celebrating separately with our own smaller families. Most of us live in small city apartments, so there's no space to host everyone. The house we rent is quite expensive but spacious, with a sauna, fireplace, and a chef's kitchen—perfect for a Christmas getaway. Each family also has their own room with an ensuite.'
'This year, we booked the same house right after last year’s stay and made the down payment at the beginning of the year. In May, I informed my family that we (my husband, kids, and I) were moving overseas. My cousin and her partner, who are expecting a baby, also decided not to go. Her parents said they'd cover her share of the cost.'
'Now, my sister is asking me to pay for my share, saying it's unfair for the rest of them to cover the extra cost. Dividing it among the others would only be about $15 more each, but my sister thinks it’s unfair for my cousin’s parents to pay for our share as well.'
'I’m really torn. Should I just pay to keep the peace? I’m upset because this feels unfair, especially since we’re tight on money after the big move. It’s also been harder to communicate with my family now that we’re on the other side of the world, though in some ways, being distant from family drama can be a relief. I miss them all and want to do the right thing, but I can’t help feeling this isn’t fair.'