[Athena E.]

AIBU 04.11.2024​

AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/Training-Baby2:

Am I being unreasonable for refusing to host family dinners after everyone bailed on mine?

'I (24, Female) come from a family that loves big Sunday dinners, and we’ve always taken turns hosting. Lately, though, it feels like I’m the only one actually holding up my end of the bargain.'

'Every time it’s my turn to host, my siblings and even my parents seem to come up with last-minute excuses to skip. The last time I prepared a full meal, my sister cancelled an hour before because she “wasn’t feeling well,” and my brother had “work stuff.” I spent hours prepping and even made special dishes that everyone usually loves. This has happened several times now, and I’m starting to feel like my effort isn’t being appreciated.'

'Last week, it was my mum’s turn to host, and everyone showed up—no excuses, no last-minute cancellations. Now, my turn is coming up again, and I don’t feel like going through all the effort when no one ever shows up.'

'When I told my family that I was thinking of skipping my turn and letting someone else host, they got upset. My dad said I was being dramatic and that it’s just how family is sometimes, but I can’t help but feel like I’m always the one getting the short end of the stick.'

'Am I unreasonable for refusing to host family dinners when no one ever shows up to mine?'

 

[Noon]

No, you're not being unreasonable, if they're disrespectful to you, then you are entitled not to do dinners again.

 

[Hollingworthlake]

Well it’s difficult to say. Have you asked why no one turned up last time. Or could it be you are being dramatic? It’s a question only you can answer. Personally I would go ahead and do it preferring not to burn all my bridges and stay happy with your family. (you only have one family)You could make a statement if no one turns up that you will not do it again and try to find out why they didn’t support you.

 

[Hollingworthlake]

I would ask each family member what they would like when it is your turn to cook then don't do any of it, when they ask you when your dinner is on give them an excuse that's better than theirs.

Many years ago my wife and I invited her sister and new boyfriend around for dinner at 8 pm, at 11 pm they turned up drunk as sailors on payday. My wife and I had changed into our PJ's and sat at the table waiting, we had already eaten, we told them dinner was over and cold in the fridge, btw they both had a Maccas chip box in their hands. To add insult to injury two days later my sister-in-law phones me and says "By the way when are you having that dinner you told me about?"

 

[Hollingworthlake]

Somebody has a serious drinking problem!!!