‘Just lazy’: The wedding moment that many say should never happen
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Weddings are often full of unexpected moments, but some surprises spark more than just applause.
One recent celebration took a dramatic turn that’s now fuelling a heated debate about boundaries and respect.
What unfolded on the dance floor has divided millions and left social media in a frenzy.
A woman was left stunned when her partner unexpectedly proposed during her friend’s wedding reception—an act that quickly spiralled into a viral controversy.
The moment, captured in a video that has drawn over 2.5 million views online, reignited the age-old debate about wedding day etiquette.
Alyssa Fowler had been attending a friend’s wedding in Jacksonville, Florida, when her boyfriend, Josh Stepherson, suddenly dropped to one knee in the middle of the dance floor.
The bride was standing directly behind the couple and gasped as she realised what was unfolding.
Fowler immediately turned to her friend and asked if her boyfriend had received permission beforehand.
‘No, he didn’t, but it’s okay! Say yes!’ the bride replied.
Fowler accepted the proposal, and the pair embraced while the newlyweds applauded and shared a group hug.
She later posted the moment on social media, joining a trend titled ‘a moment that felt like Hozier’s yell’, set to Noah Kahan’s song ‘Northern Attitude’ featuring Hozier.
What she didn’t anticipate was the backlash that followed.
Some online labelled the proposal ‘f***** up’ and ‘disrespectful’, accusing the couple of stealing the spotlight.
Others criticised the move as unoriginal, calling it an attempt to benefit from the carefully crafted atmosphere without putting in any effort.
‘He didn’t plan it, he didn’t spend money on it. Just lazy,’ one person wrote.
Another added: ‘Your boyfriend is so uncreative he couldn’t find a unique way to do that for you? This feels so hillbilly trailer parkish.’
Supporters of Fowler were quick to express sympathy, with many saying she deserved a proposal that was all her own.
Some referred to the decision as an ‘ick’, arguing her partner should have created a moment that centred solely on their relationship.
However, not everyone agreed the proposal was inappropriate.
One person commented: ‘Always try having an open opinion, these two must be close friends … Nothing wrong with that.’
Another added: ‘Why does everyone think getting married is about being the centre of attention for the day? Marriages are about bringing people together and love. Love makes the world go round, folks.’
Fowler later explained that the proposal hadn’t been planned for that moment.
Stepherson had originally intended to propose the night before but hadn’t found the right opportunity, so he kept the ring in his wallet.
After catching the bouquet during the toss, he made a spontaneous decision to pop the question.
‘We acknowledge that it would have been more appropriate for Josh to have asked beforehand, but it was an in-the-moment decision. They were both very happy for us,’ she said.
‘All guests that I have spoken to since have said the timing couldn’t have been better, and everything played out perfectly,’ she added.
While Fowler admitted the proposal broke from traditional norms, she asked people not to rush to judgement.
‘Especially when they don’t know the full story,’ she said.
Watch the video of the proposal below.
Source: Tiktok/alyssa_ryannn
Do you think proposals should ever happen at someone else’s wedding, or is it always crossing the line? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.
One recent celebration took a dramatic turn that’s now fuelling a heated debate about boundaries and respect.
What unfolded on the dance floor has divided millions and left social media in a frenzy.
A woman was left stunned when her partner unexpectedly proposed during her friend’s wedding reception—an act that quickly spiralled into a viral controversy.
The moment, captured in a video that has drawn over 2.5 million views online, reignited the age-old debate about wedding day etiquette.
Alyssa Fowler had been attending a friend’s wedding in Jacksonville, Florida, when her boyfriend, Josh Stepherson, suddenly dropped to one knee in the middle of the dance floor.
The bride was standing directly behind the couple and gasped as she realised what was unfolding.
Fowler immediately turned to her friend and asked if her boyfriend had received permission beforehand.
‘No, he didn’t, but it’s okay! Say yes!’ the bride replied.
Fowler accepted the proposal, and the pair embraced while the newlyweds applauded and shared a group hug.
She later posted the moment on social media, joining a trend titled ‘a moment that felt like Hozier’s yell’, set to Noah Kahan’s song ‘Northern Attitude’ featuring Hozier.
What she didn’t anticipate was the backlash that followed.
Some online labelled the proposal ‘f***** up’ and ‘disrespectful’, accusing the couple of stealing the spotlight.
Others criticised the move as unoriginal, calling it an attempt to benefit from the carefully crafted atmosphere without putting in any effort.
‘He didn’t plan it, he didn’t spend money on it. Just lazy,’ one person wrote.
Another added: ‘Your boyfriend is so uncreative he couldn’t find a unique way to do that for you? This feels so hillbilly trailer parkish.’
Supporters of Fowler were quick to express sympathy, with many saying she deserved a proposal that was all her own.
Some referred to the decision as an ‘ick’, arguing her partner should have created a moment that centred solely on their relationship.
However, not everyone agreed the proposal was inappropriate.
One person commented: ‘Always try having an open opinion, these two must be close friends … Nothing wrong with that.’
Another added: ‘Why does everyone think getting married is about being the centre of attention for the day? Marriages are about bringing people together and love. Love makes the world go round, folks.’
Fowler later explained that the proposal hadn’t been planned for that moment.
Stepherson had originally intended to propose the night before but hadn’t found the right opportunity, so he kept the ring in his wallet.
After catching the bouquet during the toss, he made a spontaneous decision to pop the question.
‘We acknowledge that it would have been more appropriate for Josh to have asked beforehand, but it was an in-the-moment decision. They were both very happy for us,’ she said.
‘All guests that I have spoken to since have said the timing couldn’t have been better, and everything played out perfectly,’ she added.
While Fowler admitted the proposal broke from traditional norms, she asked people not to rush to judgement.
‘Especially when they don’t know the full story,’ she said.
Watch the video of the proposal below.
Source: Tiktok/alyssa_ryannn
Do you think proposals should ever happen at someone else’s wedding, or is it always crossing the line? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.
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