Woman asks the internet: Should you be embarrassed if your partner is a 'cheapskate'?
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We’ve all heard the expression ‘love makes us do crazy things’–but should it mean having to tolerate your partner’s quirky budgeting habits?
That’s the dilemma faced by one woman who recently took to social media to ask if she was in the wrong for being embarrassed by her partner’s ‘cheapskate’ behaviour.
‘We’ve been dating for about 4 months, and mostly it’s been good. He’s cute, smart, and very successful,’ she began in the post.
‘The only downside is that he’s almost addicted to buying things that are on sale or have coupons despite being a Vice President (VP) at his company. I’m not talking about sometimes or even most of the time, I would be alright with that. He never buys anything at full price. NEVER!’ the woman wrote.
The woman gave examples of how her partner displays this behaviour: from planning meals around what’s on sale at the grocery stores to eating at restaurants using coupons.
'Last week we were at my friend’s house for dinner and she commented on his shirt,’ she shared. ‘He proudly said he got it on clearance last year for $20. I was mortified.’
Things worsened when they recently went out to dinner, and the restaurant’s computer didn’t recognise his digital coupon.
She said she was ‘so embarrassed’ she left him standing in line by himself and went to the car.
‘He had a digital coupon for buy one get one free. For some reason, the restaurant’s computer didn’t recognise the deal, and the poor cashier couldn’t make it work,’ she explained.
‘We held up the crowded line because he refused to pay for both dinners. Finally, the cashier called the manager, but he was busy somewhere else in the restaurant.’
She mentioned they argued the entire drive home and didn’t communicate the next day.
The post received mixed reactions from internet users.
For some, it was all down to a simple fact.
‘You are just not compatible,’ said one user.
But for others, the boyfriend was being reasonable. Another comment read: ‘What's so terrible about that? As long as he's never rude or demanding to retail staff, he's smart to chase the best deal on everything.’
‘Why didn't you just pay for the dinner if you were so worried about the line of annoyed folks?’ a third pointed out.
And then there were also those who took on the middle ground.
‘Being thrifty is fine, but when it’s an around-the-clock obsession with deals and pinching pennies, it becomes exhausting, especially when it affects you as the partner,’ stressed another commenter.
To be fair, there's nothing wrong with wanting to save money where possible–but it's also important to be aware of how this affects you and your other half and talk openly about it.
You can read the full post and comments here.
Members, do you have a ‘cheapskate’ story of your own? At what point do you think someone can cross the line into being too budget-conscious? Share your thoughts in the comments section below–we’d love to hear your stories!
That’s the dilemma faced by one woman who recently took to social media to ask if she was in the wrong for being embarrassed by her partner’s ‘cheapskate’ behaviour.
‘We’ve been dating for about 4 months, and mostly it’s been good. He’s cute, smart, and very successful,’ she began in the post.
‘The only downside is that he’s almost addicted to buying things that are on sale or have coupons despite being a Vice President (VP) at his company. I’m not talking about sometimes or even most of the time, I would be alright with that. He never buys anything at full price. NEVER!’ the woman wrote.
A woman asked social media if she should feel embarrassed about her ‘cheapskate’ partner. Credit: Shift Drive/Shutterstock
The woman gave examples of how her partner displays this behaviour: from planning meals around what’s on sale at the grocery stores to eating at restaurants using coupons.
'Last week we were at my friend’s house for dinner and she commented on his shirt,’ she shared. ‘He proudly said he got it on clearance last year for $20. I was mortified.’
Things worsened when they recently went out to dinner, and the restaurant’s computer didn’t recognise his digital coupon.
She said she was ‘so embarrassed’ she left him standing in line by himself and went to the car.
‘He had a digital coupon for buy one get one free. For some reason, the restaurant’s computer didn’t recognise the deal, and the poor cashier couldn’t make it work,’ she explained.
‘We held up the crowded line because he refused to pay for both dinners. Finally, the cashier called the manager, but he was busy somewhere else in the restaurant.’
She mentioned they argued the entire drive home and didn’t communicate the next day.
The post received mixed reactions from internet users.
For some, it was all down to a simple fact.
‘You are just not compatible,’ said one user.
But for others, the boyfriend was being reasonable. Another comment read: ‘What's so terrible about that? As long as he's never rude or demanding to retail staff, he's smart to chase the best deal on everything.’
‘Why didn't you just pay for the dinner if you were so worried about the line of annoyed folks?’ a third pointed out.
And then there were also those who took on the middle ground.
‘Being thrifty is fine, but when it’s an around-the-clock obsession with deals and pinching pennies, it becomes exhausting, especially when it affects you as the partner,’ stressed another commenter.
To be fair, there's nothing wrong with wanting to save money where possible–but it's also important to be aware of how this affects you and your other half and talk openly about it.
You can read the full post and comments here.
Members, do you have a ‘cheapskate’ story of your own? At what point do you think someone can cross the line into being too budget-conscious? Share your thoughts in the comments section below–we’d love to hear your stories!
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