Who said we can’t spice things up at 60? Women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond are turning to sex experts to help shrink the ‘pleasure gap’
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Talking about the ‘S’ word publicly doesn’t come with the same stigma it used to, but it’s still a very personal subject for most of us. Did you know, for example, that there are now male and female professionals known as ‘sexual intimacy coaches’?
In fact, there has been a significant increase in the number of midlife women turning to male sex experts to help them improve their sex lives, according to experts in the field.
Women in their 50s and 60s have been attending workshops and hiring somatic therapists in an effort to diminish the ‘pleasure gap’.
The ‘pleasure gap’ refers to the stark difference in the number of orgasms women experience in comparison to their male partners – and it’s a very real issue that’s evident in thousands of couples.
One man who works in the sexual intimacy field, Sebastian Wright, revealed that he sees three to four clients per week, with ages ranging from their early 20s to their late 50s. Mr Wright's sessions can last for four hours up to a whole week.
Women in their 60’s and 70’s are trying to tackle the ‘pleasure gap’. Image Credit: Saga
“You need to get a bit of background first, and what they’ve already tried to get proper guidance. Challenges can be related to a specific stage in life.” he detailed.
He added that struggling to orgasm isn’t an uncommon issue among the women that have reached out to him.
Mr Wright also explained that some of his clients who have experienced trauma or shame end up with a 'roadblock' in their bodies. Meanwhile, others who feared that they suffer from anorgasmia or the inability to achieve an orgasm, could have their issues easily fixed by increasing foreplay.
In addition, the coach stressed that fully informed consent is of the highest importance, saying: “Slowing a woman down before arousal is massively important. They often feel awkward or ashamed of their body.”
Some of his clients have admitted that they were becoming too reliant on sex toys or pornography to help them reach climax. Wright advised them to resist those forms of stimulation.
When asked why he opted for this job, he said: “The world of non-monogamy was in line with my curiosity; the more I experienced it, the more I loved it. I wanted to apply myself and learn about the sexual intimacy coaching side of it.”
Adam Wilder who is a 'champion of intimacy and human connection' vouched for the idea of Dr Betty Martin's ‘The Wheel of Consent’.
Image Credit: Starts at 60
The concept explores the three elements of pleasure: the stimulus (the touch), the context (where and when), and the meaning (why and who is touching you). Women need all of these to feel completely comfortable in bed, which in turn helps them experience pleasure to the fullest.
The creator of ‘Shhh Dating’ which is a speed dating company that replaces talking with eye gazing and non-verbal connection games, revealed what he picked up from workshops, retreats, and events.
His workshops incorporate techniques and activities that encourage slowing down and noticing sensations. This fosters a bond over shared experiences.
He said that there are more women in their 50s and 60s and beyond signing up for his sessions, with the majority confessing to worrying about the needs of others more than their own.
Do you agree with the claim that there is a ‘pleasure gap’ between couples? What are your thoughts on this article? Share them with us in the comments!
Learn more about exploring sex over 60 by watching the video below:
Video Credit: Sixty and Me
In fact, there has been a significant increase in the number of midlife women turning to male sex experts to help them improve their sex lives, according to experts in the field.
Women in their 50s and 60s have been attending workshops and hiring somatic therapists in an effort to diminish the ‘pleasure gap’.
The ‘pleasure gap’ refers to the stark difference in the number of orgasms women experience in comparison to their male partners – and it’s a very real issue that’s evident in thousands of couples.
One man who works in the sexual intimacy field, Sebastian Wright, revealed that he sees three to four clients per week, with ages ranging from their early 20s to their late 50s. Mr Wright's sessions can last for four hours up to a whole week.
Women in their 60’s and 70’s are trying to tackle the ‘pleasure gap’. Image Credit: Saga
“You need to get a bit of background first, and what they’ve already tried to get proper guidance. Challenges can be related to a specific stage in life.” he detailed.
He added that struggling to orgasm isn’t an uncommon issue among the women that have reached out to him.
Mr Wright also explained that some of his clients who have experienced trauma or shame end up with a 'roadblock' in their bodies. Meanwhile, others who feared that they suffer from anorgasmia or the inability to achieve an orgasm, could have their issues easily fixed by increasing foreplay.
In addition, the coach stressed that fully informed consent is of the highest importance, saying: “Slowing a woman down before arousal is massively important. They often feel awkward or ashamed of their body.”
Some of his clients have admitted that they were becoming too reliant on sex toys or pornography to help them reach climax. Wright advised them to resist those forms of stimulation.
When asked why he opted for this job, he said: “The world of non-monogamy was in line with my curiosity; the more I experienced it, the more I loved it. I wanted to apply myself and learn about the sexual intimacy coaching side of it.”
Adam Wilder who is a 'champion of intimacy and human connection' vouched for the idea of Dr Betty Martin's ‘The Wheel of Consent’.
Image Credit: Starts at 60
The concept explores the three elements of pleasure: the stimulus (the touch), the context (where and when), and the meaning (why and who is touching you). Women need all of these to feel completely comfortable in bed, which in turn helps them experience pleasure to the fullest.
The creator of ‘Shhh Dating’ which is a speed dating company that replaces talking with eye gazing and non-verbal connection games, revealed what he picked up from workshops, retreats, and events.
His workshops incorporate techniques and activities that encourage slowing down and noticing sensations. This fosters a bond over shared experiences.
He said that there are more women in their 50s and 60s and beyond signing up for his sessions, with the majority confessing to worrying about the needs of others more than their own.
Do you agree with the claim that there is a ‘pleasure gap’ between couples? What are your thoughts on this article? Share them with us in the comments!
Learn more about exploring sex over 60 by watching the video below:
Video Credit: Sixty and Me
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