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When finances collide with family milestones, what's the best way to respond to this predicament?
AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/waffles_r_lyfe:
'I (32F) have an older brother (45M), we used to be very close when i was younger, but drifted apart in the last 5 years when i moved out of state with my husband.'
'We both moved to having job offers and couldn't say no. While i was getting my things in order when i was moving out of state, i noticed that i was still attached to a credit card that my brother had with both our names on it.'
'And it had a balance of $5400, he said he would take care of it and i would be able to remove my name from it. CC company said til the balance is paid off, my name will still be attached.'
'Well fast forward 5 years later and the balance is now over $8,000!! my credit scored has gone from 802 to 612!'
'I work hard and pay my bills to maintain a good credit score. He on the other hand HAD a great job, and was left with an inheritance of 250k when his first wife passed away in 2019. He could've paid it off back then, a long time ago!'
'He told me that he is getting married about 3 days ago, and I haven't responded to him, I don't even know his fiancee, never met the lady.'
'But now my mom is telling me that i am an a hole for not congratulating him, when he is so happy after losing his wife. So am i the a hole for that?? I think he's the bigger one to be fair.'
'He told he closed the account and settled with cc comp to make small payments and that was 2 months ago. My score decreased again today.'
'He has not responded to my text or calls. I bought a new house and new car in 2023 when my score was around 775, so things didn't start to get s***** til end of last year when he decided to stop paying this card.'