This 'tacky' detail in a wedding invitation sparks outrage: ‘I don’t want to sound rude at all’
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Weddings are a time of joy, celebration, and the coming together of loved ones. They are also an event steeped in tradition and etiquette, which can sometimes lead to a bit of a conundrum for modern couples looking to tie the knot in their unique way.
This is especially true when it comes to the delicate matter of wedding gifts and how to navigate the waters of financial contributions without coming across as, well, tacky.
A bride-to-be found herself at the centre of a heated debate after seeking advice on a budget wedding group on social media.
She and her fiancé, who have an ‘established life together’ for six years and share a three-year-old child, are planning a wedding with a 'great Gatsby meets dark fairy forest theme' on a farm in mid-October in Alabama, United States.
‘We just skipped around with the steps and left getting married last, so we don’t need wedding gifts,’ she said.
The bride has been sending the invitations to her guests four months before the wedding, but she has been struggling of wording details on the card.
‘One issue is how to ask that we don’t need wedding gifts but would prefer gifts in the honeymoon fund,’ she said.
‘Please help, I’m so lost and don’t want to sound rude at all.’
The bride shared a draft of her wedding invitation which included the line: 'In lieu of traditional wedding gifts, the bride and groom have asked for gifts to their honeymoon fund.'
While some might see this as a practical solution, her post was later re-shared in a wedding shaming group on social media, sparking a divide among readers.
‘Don’t ask for money or gifts. There is no non-tacky way to ask for money or gifts. The end,’ one commented.
‘This is so easy; you don’t say anything. You just put a card with the invitation that includes a link and a QR code to your honeymoon fund,’ another said.
A third added, ‘It’s so easy to “ask” for money though without being tacky. You either don’t make a registry at all and people read between the lines, or you make a registry that has like two things you actually need on it.’
On the flip side, some people defended the bride's approach, sharing their experiences of tactfully asking for monetary gifts.
‘We just told everyone we had all we needed in life, so anything they wanted to donate to a present, they could put in our six-year-old son’s bank account...No awkwardness about money as it was going to our son’s uni, driving and house deposit fund for when he’s 18. Who needs presents when you have everything and everyone you need?’ a mum explained.
In a previous story, another bride-to-be was frustrated when a family friend RSVP'd for five guests for her wedding reception instead of the agreed-upon four guests.
Social media users were surprised by the guest's audacity and suggested the bride should clarify who was invited.
Who was the additional guest at the wedding? Read more about this story here to find out.
Have you ever encountered a similar situation? How did you handle it, and what advice would you give the bride? Share your experiences and insights in the comments below.
This is especially true when it comes to the delicate matter of wedding gifts and how to navigate the waters of financial contributions without coming across as, well, tacky.
A bride-to-be found herself at the centre of a heated debate after seeking advice on a budget wedding group on social media.
She and her fiancé, who have an ‘established life together’ for six years and share a three-year-old child, are planning a wedding with a 'great Gatsby meets dark fairy forest theme' on a farm in mid-October in Alabama, United States.
‘We just skipped around with the steps and left getting married last, so we don’t need wedding gifts,’ she said.
A bride-to-be needed advice on how to ask for honeymoon funds. Credit: Facebook
The bride has been sending the invitations to her guests four months before the wedding, but she has been struggling of wording details on the card.
‘One issue is how to ask that we don’t need wedding gifts but would prefer gifts in the honeymoon fund,’ she said.
‘Please help, I’m so lost and don’t want to sound rude at all.’
The bride shared a draft of her wedding invitation which included the line: 'In lieu of traditional wedding gifts, the bride and groom have asked for gifts to their honeymoon fund.'
While some might see this as a practical solution, her post was later re-shared in a wedding shaming group on social media, sparking a divide among readers.
‘Don’t ask for money or gifts. There is no non-tacky way to ask for money or gifts. The end,’ one commented.
‘This is so easy; you don’t say anything. You just put a card with the invitation that includes a link and a QR code to your honeymoon fund,’ another said.
A third added, ‘It’s so easy to “ask” for money though without being tacky. You either don’t make a registry at all and people read between the lines, or you make a registry that has like two things you actually need on it.’
On the flip side, some people defended the bride's approach, sharing their experiences of tactfully asking for monetary gifts.
‘We just told everyone we had all we needed in life, so anything they wanted to donate to a present, they could put in our six-year-old son’s bank account...No awkwardness about money as it was going to our son’s uni, driving and house deposit fund for when he’s 18. Who needs presents when you have everything and everyone you need?’ a mum explained.
In a previous story, another bride-to-be was frustrated when a family friend RSVP'd for five guests for her wedding reception instead of the agreed-upon four guests.
Social media users were surprised by the guest's audacity and suggested the bride should clarify who was invited.
Who was the additional guest at the wedding? Read more about this story here to find out.
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