[Danielle G.]

This man left his wife stranded after he got insulted—was he being unreasonable?​

AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/Desperate-Solid-2378:

Am I being unreasonable for leaving my wife at a restaurant after she insulted me?

'My wife and I were at a restaurant to celebrate a big milestone in my career. I was talking about my career in voice acting (which I absolutely love) before she decided to insult me by saying "you should be a mime instead so no one has to hear you talking anymore".'

'My wife always makes a lot of jokes like these, basically insulting me which I usually don't pay too much attention too. This "joke" in particular really hurt me because I used to be very self conscious about my voice due to being bullied for years about the way I used to speak so this hit me really hard. She also knows this was a hard point in my life and it was very hard to get past it. After she said this, I just said "are you serious?" before standing up abruptly and walking away.'

'I didn't tell her where I was going but I drove to my studio and have been here for the past few hours. She has been blowing up my phone with calls and messages about leaving her at the restaurant to pay the bill (it was an expensive restaurant and I usually pay for our outings as I make more money) and for leaving her 'stranded' as I took the car when I left.'

'I'm not sure if I'm overreacting as my wife always says this is just her sense of humour and I need to stop being a snowflake but she is blowing up my phone, calling me immature for leaving over a joke. Am I being unreasonable?'

 

[Username 1]

Grow up!

 

[Bazza boy]

yes grow up get a Life

 

[Stavo]

No. A bit of support would go a long way.
Sometimes enough, is enough.
I'm sure the husband supports the wife's career.
I'm sure the wife got the message.

 

[Marilynne]

I have a feeling this could be a "got Cah moment" for the world to make comment on. That said I cannot abide grown men {or women} who are so thin skinned and there seems to be a few around now days.

 

[Tors]

A bit more respect from both parties would be a good start orcendvyobybeit marriage
Maybe next time talk about how it hurts you , not just leave and sulk in silence, that will get no where & the offending words will continue

 

[electricblanket]

Your wife does not like you. Get a new one

 

[Veggiepatch]

I hope he left her with the bill.

 

[HelenB55]

I guess if the roll was reversed & he said the same to her, then I know everyone would be on the wife’s side. Some women are just not Sympathetic & when their sarcasm goes below the belt, they change their talk & say “I’m only joking”. This is because they know they have gone too far.
I also know some men do the same thing to their partner.
If it causes unpleasantness, then why do it?
Can’t people talk without sarcasm or insults?

 

[relljube]

Hurtful, disrespectful, unnecessary just some words that come to mind. I can understand why he is upset at her gaslighting - it wears you down and eventually you resent that person totally. Yes, he should have addressed this issue with her, but he probably knew that she would find another snide comment to push it back on him instead of taking ownership for her rudeness. This marriage is in big trouble if this is the only way the wife can show her "sense of humour" - more like nastiness and jealousy at his success.

 

[Morgans Orchard]

The old saying is if you can’t say something nice say nothing at all.

 

[magpie1]

Think you made your point, now ring her up and tell her you'll be there shortly to pick her up and pay for the meal. Good Luck with your Growing a pair...

 

[Luckyus]

Yes your an idiotic wanker, you seem to be like a brbers cat, full of piss and importance in short your a tosser.

 

[electricblanket]

Yes your an idiotic wanker, you seem to be like a brbers cat, full of piss and importance in short your a tosser.

there is no need for this kind of diatribe, especially as you can't even spell

 

[Clancieblue]

I think she is a passive aggressive bully, with no respect for him at all.

 

[Luckyus]

there is no need for this kind of diatribe, especially as you can't even spell

Sounds like you also, are a barbers cat? or just a tosser?

 

[marni]

Think you made your point, now ring her up and tell her you'll be there shortly to pick her up and pay for the meal. Good Luck with your Growing a pair...

Think you made your point, now ring her up and tell her you'll be there shortly to pick her up and pay for the meal. Good Luck with your Growing a pair...

I think he has already grown the pair. It is good to show people you will not be a door mat. He could not have told her his feelings jn a restaurant, let her catch a Taxi and have it out at home. No way should he have to put up with that in public

 

[Nicnat]

No. What your wife is doing is a form of bullying. It needs to be addressed.

 

[Veggiepatch]

there is no need for this kind of diatribe, especially as you can't even spell

Did you wet your electric blanket?

 

[Leeta069]

She sounds like a bitch, he sounds like he has had enough.