[Suzanne rose]

Seperate Bedrooms On The Rise​

Having separate bedrooms has a stigma to it that many believe it is a sign to the end of a marriage, or could it actually be a way of either building your relationship or fixing it.

There are many different scenarios.

Are you kept awake by your partner snoring or tossing and turning.
Or maybe you are kept awake by the TV left on or lamp on while your partner is reading.
Maybe you get disturbed because of frequent bathroom visits . Or just tossing and turning

When we haven't had a good night sleep , our performance is down and we may be grumpy because of lack of sleep.

Though it may go undiscussed, this arrangement is anything but unusual. A 2017 survey from the National Sleep Foundation found that one in four married couples choose to sleep in separate rooms, and a 2012 survey from Better Sleep Council shared similar results., many couples who chose their own bedrooms do so in the name of better sleep—one partner may snore or use the bathroom frequently, the individuals may be on different schedules, or they may have conflicting preferences on things like noise, light, and temperature.

A separate bedroom arrangement can often lead to the assumption that something must be wrong in a relationship or signal emotional distance as a result of the physical distance. However, according to Dr. Shelby Harris, the director of sleep health for Sleepopolis and a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in behavioral sleep medicine, sleeping in separate rooms can actually bring couples closer together. “It lets go of any resentment related to poor sleep,” she explains, adding this also often leads to improved moods and a strengthened connection.

For me “We have our own rooms, we get to decorate and have things how we want. I have soft warm colours and flowers ect where hubby has more manly colours and his books ect around .
For us we decided to have our own rooms 3 years ago after I had surgery and needed my own space. This is something we would never have thought of doing before . With the stigma that your marriage is over once you have separate rooms.
Personally I wished we had done this years before , hubby snores and would make me angry as it kept me up for hours where at times I would go sleep on the lounge.

I love now that I have my own personal space

We can invite each other over at anytime .

I have since heard from a cousin and a friend that they now also have their own room and couldn't go back

Do you share your room ?

I would love to hear your views.

 

[Wandiwa]

Sounds expensive, I'd be replacing the carpet between the 2 rooms every 5 years.
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