Are you a grandparent or a caregiver of young children?

Has it become more difficult to raise children nowadays compared to before?

If so, you might want to read up on this nanny’s controversial child-rearing ideas, which she believes can nurture children nowadays more effectively.

Having extensively studied child development and psychology, Isla Collins believes in adopting a ‘gentle’ and ‘respectful’ approach to caregiving.

Collins' tips, which go against traditional norms, instantly struck a chord with her followers.

A nanny shares five controversial things she does as a nanny and believes every parent and grandparent should do the same. Image source: TikTok/@isla.collins.

1. Supporting Nap-Time Autonomy

While traditional wisdom regards schedule and structure as pivotal in a child's life, Collins recommends a unique approach to nap times.

Disregarding traditional norms, she allows children to nap anywhere and everywhere—be it the carrier, their bed, the pram, or even on herself.

In her mind, there is 'no real routine’ to napping, and children should be able to sleep wherever they need to.

2. Discarding Food Rules

Remember those gruelling childhood memories of being forced to eat your greens or not leaving the table until everything on the plate was gone?

Collins tends to adopt a more flexible approach to meal times.

'I don't make children finish their food or tell them how much they need to eat, no “three more bites”,' Collins said.

'I want to teach children to listen to their bodies and their own hunger cues.'

Collins allows children to nap anywhere and does not force children to finish their food. Image source: TikTok/@isla.collins.

3. Fostering Independent Play

Another tip from her unconventional childcare to-do list is her reluctance to play with children while they are playing with their toys, a stark contrast to the typical nanny-child interaction.

Independent play, she advocates, can effectively nurture creativity and self-reliance within young ones.

She believes connections can be forged through alternative channels such as reading books, engaging in rough and tumble play, doing activities together, and participating in daily life tasks.

'I feel the ability to play alone is invaluable,' the nanny emphasised.

4. Serving Desserts with Main Meal

Contradicting the general practice of offering desserts post-meals as rewards, she often serves the sweets simultaneously with the main course.

She wants to erase the unhealthy interpretation of sweets as luxury items that ought to be earned.

'Food is not a reward, all food is good food and sweet things are not something to put on a pedestal,' she explained.

Collins also shared that she does not play with them and their toys, serves dessert with their main meal, and never punishes or puts them in time outs. Image source: TikTok/@isla.collins.

5. Saying No to Punishments

Finally, she raised eyebrows by stressing her staunch refusal to punish children for their behaviour.

Every emotion, she advocates, is valid for children learning to process the world around them.

According to her, children labelled as 'bad' are often just too young to understand how to react appropriately to certain emotions. Instead of punishing, she gives them understanding and validation.

'I never punish children with time outs or take away screen time because of a certain behaviour,' Collins explained.

'I never send them to their room or put them on the “naughty” step. All feelings are valid and seen.'

'You are not “bad” because you're too young to understand how to process a certain emotion.'

Her approach did not go unnoticed. Her post has been viewed over 130,000 times, and most of the comments lauded Collins for her ‘incredible’ and 'really good' ideas.

'I love all of these so much,' one user commented.

'More people need to be like this,' another added.

While a third said: 'I do all of these too!'

However, not everyone agreed to Collins' methods with one asking: 'But how you deal with a child who is deliberately doing dangerous things?'

'We don't have time out but I'm taking things away. It doesn't work, I hate it,' they added.

Isla maintained her philosophy by emphasising the importance of teaching children about safety and natural consequences instead of resorting to punishment.

Other nannies joined the discussion with one saying: 'I don't see these as controversial at all, I see this as being a kind human being! In my circle of nanny friends, we all do these with the kids.'

Collins responded saying: 'I love that! Sadly a lot of this is the opposite of what a lot of parents and caregivers are doing, especially the food and punishments ones.'

While another nanny said: 'Nanny here and I am the same! These precious angels feel such big emotions as such tiny people. We have to hug them through it.'

Key Takeaways

• A nanny has shared five childcare techniques she utilises which are considered controversial.
  
• The nanny, known as Isla Collins, recommended letting children nap anywhere, not enforcing food rules, encouraging independent play, serving dessert with main meals, and not punishing the children.
  
• The video, which has been viewed by over 130,000 people, has garnered a largely positive response with many praising the nanny's approach to childcare.
  
• Despite the general praise, there were concerns raised and a discussion opened up about how to deal with children who engage in deliberately dangerous behaviour.
  

Members, what are your thoughts on her methods? Would you consider integrating any of these into your own grandparenting or caregiving style? Let us know in the comments below!

 

[Suzanne rose]

I raised my kids like Suzanne Rose did. Structure,discipline,consequences. I think I slapped my daughter once in her life and I stand by it to this day. My son was a monster child,bless him,with countless behavioural issues but we persevered and now have two of the nicest young adults you’d ever meet. I’m so proud of them.
im still in shock over this new thing trending about ASKING PERMISSION before changing a baby’s nappy???? What the hell??? Who comes up with this nonsense? SMH. I’m too old for this crap

Funny , I asked my daughter the same thing , who came up with this nonsense

 

[goatwhisperer]

What a crock…the problem with kids these days they get away with MURDER an because and they will the do not now right from wron..EVERY ANIMAL IN THE WORLD CHASTISES THERE CHILDREN…accept a human …HOW DUMB ARE WE

Depends on your definition or interpretation of Chastise. It's not with physical or psychological punishment either..A firm "no" with appropriate tone of voice and facial expression works well..I did that, 4 well adjusted adult children who have their own well behaved and well adjusted children of their own. One of those has ADHD, but managed well without any verbal or physical abuse from the parents. .

 

[SGH]

This is why there is no respect in the year's gone by no responsibility either so what's in store for the human race one only knows it an't going to be good

No respect no responsibility what's the world coming to bloody pathetic

There was a movie that came out years ago and my husband reckons that is exactly the way the world is going IDIOCRACY (2006) it might be a B grade movie but somethings that are happening these days certainly make sense.

 

[Brody]

What a crock…the problem with kids these days they get away with MURDER an because and they will the do not now right from wron..EVERY ANIMAL IN THE WORLD CHASTISES THERE CHILDREN…accept a human …HOW DUMB ARE WE

On one occasion my Mother said to me " Why do you give them a reason when you want them to do something ? "
I replied "if there is a reason,then they
should know what it is, it lets them
understand what I am asking and why"
Of course there are times when you have to say, you need to do what I say".
End of Story.
There are certainly times when no reason is possible, and you have to say"Because I say so ".
Mostly it worked, some times not.

 

[Supernan1950]

Are you a grandparent or a caregiver of young children?

Has it become more difficult to raise children nowadays compared to before?

If so, you might want to read up on this nanny’s controversial child-rearing ideas, which she believes can nurture children nowadays more effectively.

Having extensively studied child development and psychology, Isla Collins believes in adopting a ‘gentle’ and ‘respectful’ approach to caregiving.

Collins' tips, which go against traditional norms, instantly struck a chord with her followers.

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A nanny shares five controversial things she does as a nanny and believes every parent and grandparent should do the same. Image source: TikTok/@isla.collins.

1. Supporting Nap-Time Autonomy

While traditional wisdom regards schedule and structure as pivotal in a child's life, Collins recommends a unique approach to nap times.

Disregarding traditional norms, she allows children to nap anywhere and everywhere—be it the carrier, their bed, the pram, or even on herself.

In her mind, there is 'no real routine’ to napping, and children should be able to sleep wherever they need to.

2. Discarding Food Rules

Remember those gruelling childhood memories of being forced to eat your greens or not leaving the table until everything on the plate was gone?

Collins tends to adopt a more flexible approach to meal times.

'I don't make children finish their food or tell them how much they need to eat, no “three more bites”,' Collins said.

'I want to teach children to listen to their bodies and their own hunger cues.'

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Collins allows children to nap anywhere and does not force children to finish their food. Image source: TikTok/@isla.collins.

3. Fostering Independent Play

Another tip from her unconventional childcare to-do list is her reluctance to play with children while they are playing with their toys, a stark contrast to the typical nanny-child interaction.

Independent play, she advocates, can effectively nurture creativity and self-reliance within young ones.

She believes connections can be forged through alternative channels such as reading books, engaging in rough and tumble play, doing activities together, and participating in daily life tasks.

'I feel the ability to play alone is invaluable,' the nanny emphasised.

4. Serving Desserts with Main Meal

Contradicting the general practice of offering desserts post-meals as rewards, she often serves the sweets simultaneously with the main course.

She wants to erase the unhealthy interpretation of sweets as luxury items that ought to be earned.

'Food is not a reward, all food is good food and sweet things are not something to put on a pedestal,' she explained.

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Collins also shared that she does not play with them and their toys, serves dessert with their main meal, and never punishes or puts them in time outs. Image source: TikTok/@isla.collins.

5. Saying No to Punishments

Finally, she raised eyebrows by stressing her staunch refusal to punish children for their behaviour.

Every emotion, she advocates, is valid for children learning to process the world around them.

According to her, children labelled as 'bad' are often just too young to understand how to react appropriately to certain emotions. Instead of punishing, she gives them understanding and validation.

'I never punish children with time outs or take away screen time because of a certain behaviour,' Collins explained.

'I never send them to their room or put them on the “naughty” step. All feelings are valid and seen.'

'You are not “bad” because you're too young to understand how to process a certain emotion.'

Her approach did not go unnoticed. Her post has been viewed over 130,000 times, and most of the comments lauded Collins for her ‘incredible’ and 'really good' ideas.

'I love all of these so much,' one user commented.

'More people need to be like this,' another added.

While a third said: 'I do all of these too!'

However, not everyone agreed to Collins' methods with one asking: 'But how you deal with a child who is deliberately doing dangerous things?'

'We don't have time out but I'm taking things away. It doesn't work, I hate it,' they added.

Isla maintained her philosophy by emphasising the importance of teaching children about safety and natural consequences instead of resorting to punishment.

Other nannies joined the discussion with one saying: 'I don't see these as controversial at all, I see this as being a kind human being! In my circle of nanny friends, we all do these with the kids.'

Collins responded saying: 'I love that! Sadly a lot of this is the opposite of what a lot of parents and caregivers are doing, especially the food and punishments ones.'

While another nanny said: 'Nanny here and I am the same! These precious angels feel such big emotions as such tiny people. We have to hug them through it.'

Key Takeaways

• A nanny has shared five childcare techniques she utilises which are considered controversial.
• The nanny, known as Isla Collins, recommended letting children nap anywhere, not enforcing food rules, encouraging independent play, serving dessert with main meals, and not punishing the children.
• The video, which has been viewed by over 130,000 people, has garnered a largely positive response with many praising the nanny's approach to childcare.
• Despite the general praise, there were concerns raised and a discussion opened up about how to deal with children who engage in deliberately dangerous behaviour.

Members, what are your thoughts on her methods? Would you consider integrating any of these into your own grandparenting or caregiving style? Let us know in the comments below!

While I agree with some of your methods I do not agree with all of them. My sister believed in a Dr’s method she read about when they put on a tantrum just ignore it and they will get over it. We had a rule when we went shopping that my daughter and my nephew could have a treat at the end but every time for 3 weeks my nephew through himself on the ground screaming and kicking because he wanted the treat before shopping. I had had enough of this behaviour and said to my sister are you going to do something or am I and as you can guess it was me who gave him 3 smacks on his bottom and told him if he behaved he could still have his treat. From the day on he was a perfect little boy when we went shopping and he told me years later that I was the only person who loved him enough to smack him and show him what he was doing was wrong.