Mum sparks debate by charging family $50 each for Christmas lunch—‘Is that fair?’

As the festive season approaches, many look forward to gathering with family and friends to celebrate and share a meal.

However, hosting Christmas lunch can be a costly affair, and one mum's solution to this has sparked a heated debate online.

Her unconventional approach to holiday expenses has generated mixed reactions and highlights the diverse ways families navigate the financial aspects of the festive season.


Abi Richards, a 35-year-old full-time working mum and content creator from the United Kingdom, has revealed that she intends to charge her family $50 each to attend her Christmas dinner.

This year, she's expecting to feed 10 people over the course of the holiday, from Christmas Eve to Boxing Day.

The idea of charging for a home-cooked meal may seem unusual to some, but Abi's approach has a practical reasoning behind it.


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Social media personality Abi Richards shared she plans to charge her family $50 each for a Christmas meal, hosting 10 people at her home. Credit: @abilourichards / Tiktok


She explained that her family members ‘always want to chip in’ with the costs, and she finds it ‘really hard to know what to ask them for’.

To ensure fairness, Abi decided to do all the shopping herself, visiting budget-friendly stores like ALDI and Tesco to stock up on festive essentials such as gammon, vegetables, and frozen Yorkshire puddings.


However, Abi's decision left people greatly divided, with some even labelling her as ‘tight’.

She shared, ‘I charge my family to come to Christmas dinner at my house—does everybody do this? I’m intrigued to know what you guys do.’

‘I’m very grateful that my family wants to contribute because it’s gonna be expensive.’

‘I don’t wanna overcharge or undercharge, so I’m gonna go do all of the shopping. I’m gonna go to ALDI and Tesco,’ the mum added.


Abi did a substantial Christmas shop at ALDI, purchasing items like carrots, parsnips, potatoes, turkey gravy, red cabbage, a smoked gammon joint, goose fat, cranberry sauce, and stuffing.

Knowing her family would be staying for a few days, she also stocked up on quiche, dips, bacon, crackers, and croissants.

In the frozen section, she picked up pigs in blankets, prawns, Brussels sprouts, and Yorkshire puddings, spending a total of $346.

She then went to Tesco for additional items, including drinks and snacks. After tallying her expenses, Abi found she had spent $469 in total.

‘I divided it by the adults because I feel like the kids barely eat anything, so I’ve divided it by eight adults, and it comes in at just under [$60] per person, which I actually don’t really think is that bad for three days worth of eating,’ Abi explained.

‘I might tell them it’s [$50] each…is that fair?’


The video has evidently astonished many, quickly amassing 103,600 views in just 14 hours.

Social media users were sharply divided by Abi's decision to charge her family for dinner—some thought it ‘made sense’, while others were far less approving.

‘I’d happily pay [$50] per person for two days to go to my family. [$50] is a bargain!’ one commented.

‘Makes the most sense! I’ve hosted twice, and it sure does tally up,’ another agreed.

‘I think it’s a great idea, stops you feeling resentful and the family feel relaxed because they have contributed,’ a third explained.

However, not everyone agreed with the idea.

‘That is weird,’ one remarked.

‘If you can’t afford to host, then don’t. I would be mortified to ask anybody for money!!!’ someone else argued.

You can watch Abi’s full video here:


Source: @abilourichards / Tiktok

While the debate over charging family members for Christmas lunch highlights the varied approaches to managing holiday expenses, it also brings to mind the different ways people experience the festive season.

Just as some families navigate financial contributions, others face unique challenges that can make the holidays less enjoyable.

This contrast is evident in the story of Princess Diana, who harboured a strong dislike for Christmas with the royal family, shedding light on the pressures and difficulties that can accompany even the most glamorous traditions.
Key Takeaways
  • A mum shared she intends to charge her family $50 each for a Christmas meal at her home, where she'll be hosting 10 people.
  • Abi Richards, the mum, has done her shopping at ALDI and Tesco for the festive season and calculated the cost per adult for the three-day event.
  • The content creator faced mixed reactions on social media, with some supporting her decision and others criticising her for charging family members.
  • Abi finds it challenging to balance the cost but concluded that $50 per head for two days’ food seems reasonable to her, although responses from others varied.
We'd love to hear from you, our valued members. Have you ever considered asking for contributions for a large family meal? What are your thoughts on Abi's approach? Share your experiences and opinions in the comments below, and let's navigate the complexities of hosting during the holiday season together.
 

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I think if you offer to host then you cover the cost.

If she is doing it every year because no one else either can or will then the $50 is fair.
I'm a bit confused in one sentence it says for Xmas and making the whole meal including FROZEN YORKSHIRE PUDDING ( yuck) then it says for 3 days.
So is she covering for Xmas day only or is it 3 days ??

Does she host every year or is it a one off 🤔
 
My daughter host Xmas breakfast and my son always does Xmas dinner.

We have a what's app group and everyone puts up what they will take eg fruit platters, muffins, juice ect.

My daughter and hubby bbq sausages, bacon and eggs ect.

Then for dinner my son bbq souvlaki and meat. And everyone takes a plate or two. Different salads, rice , potatoes ect and all my daughters take desert. I always do around 5 dishes.
 
We always do Christmas day at my daughters as she has a large outdoor area & a pool. There are usually about 20-25 people. Everyone (except children) brings a plate. My son-in-law does the pork & a friend does a brisket. This year I am bringing a cheese platter & a dessert. We always have plenty of food & it doesn't cost everyone an arm & a leg.
 
Many people don't take anything, even what is agreed to, then there is a shortage of food.
This way one person buys enough for everybody and you share the cost. Not too many people can afford the food, drinks etc for a group. Considering the people are going to be there Boxing Day too I think the charge is pretty reasonable.
 
When my late husband and I used to host Christmas dinner every year my family would contribute by bringing something towards it, their choice to do that. One family might bring salad another desert etc. we were happy to provide the dinner, usually an old traditional roast as my hubby loved to cook.
When you have a family of 4 who take nothing as they were supposed to and another who didn't shop because of sickness but had provided other food it stretches the small amount of food a bit too much
 
My daughter host Xmas breakfast and my son always does Xmas dinner.

We have a what's app group and everyone puts up what they will take eg fruit platters, muffins, juice ect.

My daughter and hubby bbq sausages, bacon and eggs ect.

Then for dinner my son bbq souvlaki and meat. And everyone takes a plate or two. Different salads, rice , potatoes ect and all my daughters take desert. I always do around 5 dishes.
Sounds lovely!
 
I think if you offer to host then you cover the cost.

If she is doing it every year because no one else either can or will then the $50 is fair.
I'm a bit confused in one sentence it says for Xmas and making the whole meal including FROZEN YORKSHIRE PUDDING ( yuck) then it says for 3 days.
So is she covering for Xmas day only or is it 3 days ??

Does she host every year or is it a one off 🤔
Don't knock Yorkshire Puddings Suzanne if they are made properly they are lovely.l'm from Yorkshire and my Y.Puds are great even if l say so myself One day they rose so much they stuck to the top of the oven l had to get my son to help take them out :ROFLMAO:
Just us family here no one coming for Christmas and even if they did they always bring something but l wouldn't care if they didn't. Christmas is a time of giving and if you can't give a good meal to your family without being paid for it then it's a poor do.
 
I think if you offer to host then you cover the cost.

If she is doing it every year because no one else either can or will then the $50 is fair.
I'm a bit confused in one sentence it says for Xmas and making the whole meal including FROZEN YORKSHIRE PUDDING ( yuck) then it says for 3 days.
So is she covering for Xmas day only or is it 3 days ??

Does she host every year or is it a one off 🤔
I see it they are coming for 3 days in total starting with Xmas. My family would bring food contributions. Can't see where that's different to cash in some ways. As one of the families became quite large. and others no kids, etc, it made it easier for the individuals to choose, come over and bake, give $ or bring something already prepared. Of course needed to be coordinated. No-one else would take on hosting due to cost, so why should one family have to put up the costs, decorating, making/baking etc. year after year with no contributions. Guess it's about how your family dynamics work, their relationships, expectations etc.
 
Our family always brings a plate of food to whoever hosts. We work out who is bringing what a couple of weeks before and it's always a great day. This year my daughter added a new custom by buying a fabric Christmas colour in tablecloth and coloured laundry markers. Almost everyone, adults and kids joined in and we all signed our artwork with our name and year. This table cloth will be around for a few more seasons. Such fun. Not sure where she bought it, probably at the reject shop or similar store.
Happy Christmas and a brighter New Year to all members and staff at SDC. Love from Margaret.
 
On the face of it, it might sound a bit mean. However, she is hosting them for three days. I think she is doing herself a disservice if she is only charging $50 each. Wake up people that's for THREE days food. Where would you be able to feed yourself for that amount of time for the paltry sum of $50! Give the girl a break. She is being practical in a very expensive world.
 
Don't knock Yorkshire Puddings Suzanne if they are made properly they are lovely.l'm from Yorkshire and my Y.Puds are great even if l say so myself One day they rose so much they stuck to the top of the oven l had to get my son to help take them out :ROFLMAO:
Just us family here no one coming for Christmas and even if they did they always bring something but l wouldn't care if they didn't. Christmas is a time of giving and if you can't give a good meal to your family without being paid for it then it's a poor do.
Suzanne was only knocking the frozen ones from a supermarket home made one are nice
 
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When you have a family of 4 who take nothing as they were supposed to and another who didn't shop because of sickness but had provided other food it stretches the small amount of food a bit too much
My family of 13 kids, me and hubby plus kids partners never have a problem with food
Everyone takes what they say they will and more. There is always lots left which we tell my son to put in the fridge and usually it dies him and his family for a few days
 
I see it they are coming for 3 days in total starting with Xmas. My family would bring food contributions. Can't see where that's different to cash in some ways. As one of the families became quite large. and others no kids, etc, it made it easier for the individuals to choose, come over and bake, give $ or bring something already prepared. Of course needed to be coordinated. No-one else would take on hosting due to cost, so why should one family have to put up the costs, decorating, making/baking etc. year after year with no contributions. Guess it's about how your family dynamics work, their relationships, expectations etc.
I hosted Xmas plus Easter for years but it was because I wanted to. My sister inlaw and her family plus hubby's cousin and his family always came with a ham and deserts.
When I was heavily pregnant and due on the 7th Jan and with high blood pressure. We said we couldn't do it that year. I was thinking one of the inlaws would offer but they didn't so we decided to pull the plug on hosting Xmas. After that we did it with just our kids.

We go to our sons in the afternoon and funny enough so does my sister inlaw and family
 
we alway assign each family to supply 1 sort of dish one do the meat one do the puddings 1 do chips and dip and drinks and crackers and serviettes and all provide 1 salad eg potato, cold slaw, and pasta. this works well and we have all contributed.
 
Well, first, you would be lucky to find a family where everyone is willing to take their turn. Shouldn't be left for one person, especially taking into account the cost of food, and unexpected guests. The stress factor also can be a huge drawback.
My last Xmas all expenses hosting was in 1980. That was the year I was laid up in bed with a massive migraine after cooking until 3am. I never got to enjoy the day.
The family saw the work I had to put in and even back in 1980, it cost hundreds of dollars.
So, we all agreed that hosting only means providing the meeting address.
ALL family members agreed to bring a food contribution.
The host is also responsible for checking that all meals are different. No double ups.
It works a treat. Also, there will be a sure thing that each person will have something on the buffet they like.
Putting on the Xmas meal this way has been a blessing for my family, and, the embarrassment of asking for money does not have to be faced.
Merry Christmas my SDC friends.
I'll be spending mine sitting beside my darling hubby's hospital bed. I would not want to be anywhere else.
 

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