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Is saying 'toilet' gross? This American expat says so

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1757050897359.png Is saying 'toilet' gross? This American expat says so
American expat criticises Australians over 'toilet' term. Image source: TikTok/howsweethesound

Grace Harris thought moving from Nashville to Australia would be a breeze.


She expected a few cultural quirks, maybe some slang to learn.


What she did not expect was to spark a national debate over a single word: toilet.




Her social media rant quickly went viral after she labelled the word 'toilet' as 'gross' and demanded Australians 'learn some manners.'


Harris’s preference for American euphemisms like 'restroom' and 'bathroom' clashed with Australia’s straightforward approach, igniting a conversation about language, culture, and the unique flavour of Australian English.



The roots of this linguistic clash run deep.


Australian English began forming when the First Fleet arrived in 1788, heavily influenced by British English, while American English evolved from the Pilgrims’ arrival in 1620 and adapted rapidly to the New World.


This two-century gap explains why Australian English retained more British structure, while American English diverged with different pronunciations, spellings, and a culture of euphemism.




'Australian English developed primarily from British English due to the historical colonization of Australia by the British'

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Harris’s objection to 'toilet' highlights the cultural divide between directness and euphemism.


The word originates from the French 'toilette,' referring to washing and grooming, and has been acceptable in polite English since the 17th century.


American English’s turn to terms like 'restroom' or 'bathroom' reflects a social preference for indirect language.




Common vocabulary clashes between Australian and American English


Toilet vs Restroom/Bathroom


Car park vs Parking lot


Shopping trolley vs Shopping cart


Bin vs Trash can


Capsicum vs Bell pepper


Thongs vs Flip-flops


Jumper vs Sweater


Boot (of car) vs Trunk


Bonnet (of car) vs Hood




Many Australians defended their terminology, citing practical reasons.


One commenter pointed out, 'It's not a bathroom either because there's no bath or shower in most public toilets.'


This directness is emblematic of Australian communication—clear, unpretentious, and historically grounded.




Harris’s struggles extended beyond toilets.


Words like 'bin,' 'trolley,' and 'car park' revealed how deeply ingrained local vocabulary is and how small missteps can magnify feelings of cultural difference.


Misunderstandings around 'thongs' versus 'flip-flops' or 'jumper' versus 'sweater' illustrated how identical words can carry entirely different meanings across borders.



Accent and pronunciation differences also play a role.


Americans pronounce the letter 'r' distinctly, while Australians often drop the 'r' sound if it follows a vowel.


Words like bar, bear, jar, form, and bird sound noticeably different depending on the accent.




Cultural adaptation tips for expats



  • Accept that linguistic differences reflect cultural history, not rudeness

  • Focus on communication rather than 'correct' terminology

  • Learn local phrases gradually rather than forcing change

  • Understand that directness in language doesn't equal impoliteness

  • Ask for clarification when confused rather than criticising local customs




Harris’s minor conflicts at work over saying 'what' instead of 'pardon' show that politeness expectations are culturally embedded.


In Australia, tone often matters more than precise wording, illustrating that direct language does not equate to impoliteness.


Everyday cultural quirks intertwine with language, such as the flat white versus drip coffee debate reflecting broader lifestyle differences.


Similarly, Harris’s confusion over the term 'fortnight' demonstrates how cultural references influence comprehension.




Harris’s comments remind us that adjusting to a new linguistic environment takes patience.


Australians may view American euphemisms as overly elaborate, while Americans might perceive Australian directness as blunt.


Both approaches are valid, reflecting cultural norms rather than manners.


Australians are adept at linguistic flexibility, mixing terms from both American and British English.


Whether saying gas or petrol, takeaway or takeout, locals can communicate effortlessly while maintaining clarity and cultural identity.


Australian English is a recognised endonormative variety, formalised in publications like the 1981 first edition of the #Macquarie Dictionary.


Speaking Australian English is not 'wrong'—it has a rich history and cultural significance.


Harris’s view that Australians need to 'learn some manners' overlooks the importance of linguistic diversity and the cultural stories behind our words.



Did you know?


Did You Know? What are today regarded as American spellings were popular in Australia throughout the late 19th and early 20th centuries, with the Victorian Department of Education endorsing them into the 1970s and The Age newspaper until the 1990s.



What This Means For You


Linguistic differences between American and Australian English reflect historical development rather than manners, showing that what might seem abrupt or unusual to an outsider often has deep cultural roots.


Australian directness is grounded in practicality and British English traditions, not a lack of politeness, which explains why terms like 'toilet' are used so matter-of-factly.


Vocabulary clashes—such as 'toilet' versus 'restroom' or 'jumper' versus 'sweater'—can easily confuse expats or international visitors navigating everyday conversations.


Successfully adapting to these differences relies on patience, careful observation, and respect for local language norms.


Recognising these nuances can make travel, working with international colleagues, or interacting with visitors far smoother and more enjoyable, while also fostering a greater appreciation for the rich history and charm of Australian English.




Have you ever felt lost in translation when travelling abroad, or struggled to explain local terms to visitors?

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I know in Asia, if you gesture for someone to come, such as opening a door for a lady and extending your hand facing upwards and moving your fingers backwards, it is a rude gesture to them.
I found out that you must extend your hand downwards and move your fingers backwards.
 
Gender specific TOILETS could be called PRICKS and PUSSIES....
I’m not too sure how gender specific that would be. I’ve heard of some males being called a “prick” and a “pussy”. 😉
 
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While most, if not all, of us disagree with pronunciation by one race or another, because we have come from overseas or were brought up by parents who came from overseas we just deal with it.

My husband and I might disagree with ‘your way and my way’ of pronunciation but we do not go to the extent of criticising another to their face in their own country. For example, the common way here of pronouncing ‘cardamoM’ is ‘cardamoN’, as is the incorrect pronunciation of the word ‘anaesthetist’. It is not ‘ane-thist’ or ‘ane-the-tist’. There is another ‘s’ in that word and the correct pronunciation should be ‘an-es-the-tist ’. But each to his own.

We do not correct people to their faces and neither should this yank. She is just plain rude and, I’m sorry, but I will not go down the road of saying a yank should pronounce words the Australian way, just as she should not be asking us, or any other culture to pronounce words the Yankee way. If you visit another country, do as the saying goes - ‘when in Rome, do as the Romans do’. GET OVER IT, YANKEE. For whatever reason, you are here so you should not be criticising or ask us to do things your way.
 
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@MariaG has the right idea when she says,
“Storm in a teacup. Anything to get the face on social media. Absolute load of twaddle.”

Americans or anyone who goes on social media generally is craving attention, especially when they know what they say will offend people.

And as @wildroseforever says, “Does it really matter what one random young American woman thinks? she is a nobody”.

Yep, I go along with that too.
 
I doubt you will hear anywhere that "I need to defecate or urinate"
More than likely it would be... "Be right back. Need to go for a shit or a piss"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
 
I doubt you will hear anywhere that "I need to defecate or urinate"
More than likely it would be... "Be right back. Need to go for a shit or a piss"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
"Just going to give birth to a *insert nationality*"

That you don't like....
 
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"Just going to give birth to a *insert nationality*"

That you don't like....
I used to say that I need to go sit down, think of someone I hate, then let it all happen 🤣🤣🤣🤣 or.... just going to the loo to get a load off of my mind 🤣🤣🤣🤣
 
I used to say that I need to go sit down, think of someone I hate, then let it all happen 🤣🤣🤣🤣 or.... just going to the loo to get a load off of my mind 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I forget how often someone has called me a shifferbrains 🤣🤣🤣
 
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The Australias common term for toilet, is the word toilet, and not bathroom. However, I believe even in Australia, when one is perhaps amongst the elite society, you may hear the word bathroom rather than toilet. It's almost as thought the elite fear saying the word toilet, in fear that the word will dirty their mouth for saying the word toilet. This woman clearly wanted her 5 minutes of fame, and sadly, she had to use the word toilet to get recognition on social media. Now that's definately a sign of desperation for "Hey look at me, look at me, it's not toilet, it's bathroom". 🙏🦋
 
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The Australias common term for toilet, is the word toilet, and not bathroom. However, I believe even in Australia, when one is perhaps amongst the elite society, you may hear the word bathroom rather than toilet. It's almost as thought the elite fear saying the word toilet, with fear that the word will dirty their mouth for saying the word toilet. This woman clearly wanted her 5 minutes of fame, and sadly, she had to use the word toilet to get recognition on social media. Now that's definately a sign of desperation for "Hey look at me, look at me, it's not toilet, it's bathroom". 🙏🦋
Elite? In Australia?
 
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The Australias common term for toilet, is the word toilet, and not bathroom. However, I believe even in Australia, when one is perhaps amongst the elite society, you may hear the word bathroom rather than toilet. It's almost as thought the elite fear saying the word toilet, with fear that the word will dirty their mouth for saying the word toilet. This woman clearly wanted her 5 minutes of fame, and sadly, she had to use the word toilet to get recognition on social media. Now that's definately a sign of desperation for "Hey look at me, look at me, it's not toilet, it's bathroom". 🙏🦋
If memory serves correct, I believe its proper name is a 'water closet'.
That's where you get the term WC from on housing plans
 
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If memory serves correct, I believe its proper name is a 'water closet'.
That's where you get the term WC from on housing plans
Good evening dear member Observer, thankyou for your post. I agree with you. Actually you appear to be the only member who posted the proper name that comes from house plans. Thankyou for making this clarification. I guess everyone has their own way of specifying the word toilet. But to call it a bathroom, well thats exactly where one will be sent to, if they ask for the bathroom. They will get a bath tub and shower cubical, and that's when they will say, hey but where's the toilet. 🙏🦋
 
Good evening dear member Observer, thankyou for your post. I agree with you. Actually you appear to be the only member who posted the proper name that comes from house plans. Thankyou for making this clarification. I guess everyone has their own way of specifying the word toilet. But to call it a bathroom, well thats exactly where one will be sent to, if they ask for the bathroom. They will get a bath tub and shower cubical, and that's when they will say, hey but where's the toilet. 🙏🦋
A reality is that today, a lot of toilets ARE actually located in bathrooms.
So to me, it is neither here nor there.
Call it what you want, we all know what it means 😊
 
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Elite? In Australia?
Good evening dear member GrannyJA, thankyou for your post. Yes the elite, those who drive a Porche, BMW or Ferrari, those who dine daily in the Hilton, those who go on annual holidays to Dubai, those who can afford to gamble in the Oaks room at the Casino, those who live in Pink, Blue, Yellow and Green multimillion dollar mansions on the Gold Coast and those who have inherited mega dollars and don't have to work but just live the life. Yes those elite, who reside here in Australia , who like to use the word bathroom and not toilet. But we rarely see these people, primarily because they like to keep to themselves, and sadly, keep their distance from common, honest and hard working people. Have a beautiful evening. 🙏🦋
 
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If you do not like the way we speak….please leave and go back to where you came from!!
You have had your 15 minutes of fame..goodbye!!!
 
My hubby calls the toilet “ the shi*ter.
Who am I to disagree? 🤭
 
I usually call it the loo anything wrong with that
 
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When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
 
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