[Danielle G.]

Is it unreasonable to ask for a fifth of my mum's inheritance?​

AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/SeekersChoice:

Am I being unreasonable for asking for a fifth of my mum's inheritance?

'I (32 F) have been living with my grandmother (95) with my partner for the last 3 years. She has been blind in one eye, deaf, and has poor mobility. We were doing so as a mutually beneficial aspect of us not needing to pay for rent as our house is paid off, and her having somebody around to clean the house, take care of the house, cook dinner, and handle medical emergencies. Until recently it was fairly balanced and fair.'

'However a week and a half ago she suffered from multiple strokes. She lost her vision completely, and her balance is also no longer great. She cannot walk to the bathroom herself, get on the toilet alone, or shower without assistance.'

'Now my mother lives only 5 minutes away and is retired. In the 5 days since my grandmother return from the hospital my mother has only been at the house to help a total of 8 hours out of 5 days. I realize this was going to be a rehash of when my aunt died, and I was left shouldering the majority of the care while my mum claimed to be a martyr.'

'The crux of the matter is when my aunt died she had a house that was left to all three of us. It has not yet been sold, but my mum and my grandmother share comes out to $80,000 each.'

'Well my grandmother has been diagnosed with a terminal illness, it is likely to take 12 to 24 months for her to pass away. My mother has expected me to take on the entirety of the care or at least the majority of the care while she plans on inheriting everything for my grandmother. My grandmother's house is valued at $550,000. I asked my mother for her and my grandmother to give up their share on my Aunt's house well my mother was still inherit my grandmother's house and everything in it. As I am not in her will.'

'I have been met with outrage on every side that I am "charging" them to take care of my grandmother. I have been told by all of my mother's friends who live in the area that I am monstrous and selfish. I wouldn't ask for anything if my grandmother didn't have anything. But as it is I feel like I'm being very reasonable to ask for around the 5th of what my mum is set to inherit.'

 

[Bill MacL]

Talk to a lawyer, not a public forum.

 

[deni67]

I don't think she's being unreasonable, after all it seems like she is her grandmothers full time carer and gets nothing for it.

 

[deni67]

Talk to a lawyer, not a public forum.

This is just an opinion piece, who ever she is I doubt she is a member here. Admin is just asking us our thoughts!

 

[gayle222]

I thinks it’s a loving thing you have been doing for your Nan, as it seems she doesn’t have any support else where. However it’s a shame your loving devotion to your Nan has now been swapped out for the almighty dollar. Shame on you ,poor Nan

 

[Phantom36]

I don't think she's being unreasonable, after all it seems like she is her grandmothers full time carer and gets nothing for it.

How can you say she receives nothing, if she is the full time carer she should at least receive the Carers pension or at the very least the Carer's allowance, if she is not receiving any benefit see social security, if that fails move back to your own house and let your mother sort it out.

 

[novezar]

Another family dilema over the mighty "$" of the property.
One just hopes that a proper will was organised with an appropriate solicitor while Nan still had her capabilities & understandings of matters of what her wishes are for the disposal of same of real estate & equities.
Nasty squabble times ahead.