Heartbreaking loss: Woman loses $50,000 after online boyfriend disappears

Disclaimer: The names in asterisks (*) were changed for privacy.

In the digital age, looking for love and companionship has transcended the traditional boundaries of physical interaction.

This led many people to explore the uncharted waters of online dating.

While the internet has successfully matched countless couples, it has also become a breeding ground for deception and heartache.


Karen* shared her cautionary tale, echoing the experiences of many who were left not only emotionally shattered but also financially devastated.

Karen's story began after a promise of love from a man who claimed to live overseas.

After weeks of conversation and building trust, her online beau asked if he could borrow $50,000 to fund his education.

Trusting that she was helping her partner, Karen compiled and sent the money.


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Karen* believed she was helping her online partner with their education, but ended up losing a huge sum of money. Image Credit: Pexels/Andrea Piacquadio


As Karen set out overseas to meet her online partner, he never showed up and duped Karen both emotionally and financially.

The toll of such scams is immeasurable, and Karen's situation is just one of many reports.

South Australia Police (SAPOL) Cybercrime Division's Sergeant David Mitchell warned about these romance scams.

'Scammers typically create fake online profiles designed to lure you in,' Sergeant Mitchell shared.

Some of these scammers assume the identities of real individuals living abroad.

'They have even been known to phone their victims as a first introduction. These scams are also known as "catfishing",' he added.


As part of Scams Awareness Week, SAPOL also shared that South Australians alone lost about $2.1 million in 2023 through romance scams.

Australians, in general, have been swindled out of more than $40 million through the same scheme.

According to additional data, these scammers often target people over 55 years old and reach out to them via social media or dating website platforms.

Romance baiting is a technique where scammers cultivate a relationship before luring victims into fraudulent investments.

Telltale signs of these scams include swift declarations of love, promises of commitment, excuses for malfunctioning webcams, and postponed meetings.

Scammers also tell their victims what to tell bank tellers to avoid suspicion.


Authorities advised not to send money to anonymous online accounts.

They also reminded citizens about maintaining a healthy scepticism and making decisions without emotional influence.

Always verify the identity of an online admirer through image search and be wary of inconsistencies in their stories.

Lastly, stay cautious with personal information and do not give them out to anyone.

The rise of online dating has expanded the horizons for finding love, but it also increased the risk of falling victim to scams.

It's essential to approach online relationships with caution, awareness, and a strong sense of self-preservation.
Key Takeaways

  • An Adelaide woman named Karen lost $50,000 to a romance scammer who she met online.
  • Romance scams cost Australians $40 million in 2023, with South Australians losing $2.1 million.
  • Scammers often target older individuals over 55 and create elaborate stories to ask for money.
  • Police advised to never send money to someone you haven't met in person and conduct an image search to verify online identities.
Have you or someone you know experienced a romance scam? Share your experiences and online safety tips in the comments below to help others recognise the warning signs.
 
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Oh dear won't people ever learn. If you are lonely there are clubs,groups for seniors and other active events run either through your shire like Share and Care communities or even church and independent groups
Sorry but churches are in the same job
 
I post some of my art on my Facebook page and I receive friend requests from many other artists. I now look at the person's profile page and look at how many posts, and when those posts were created. Most scammers create a page with few if any posts. However, some of these scammers have changed tactics by creating a dozen or more posts. I now look at the dates they were posted. I find most of these scammers post articles a day or a few days apart, this is a red flag. I often see two or three posts per day over a few days just to try to give the perception of a well-established Facebook user.
WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND ACCEPTS FRIENDS THEY DO NOT KNOW??
 
Loneliness is no excuse for stupidity. There is so much information about scammers, and to be careful of something that looks suspicious, and never send money to people you don't know. I'm sorry, but I can't feel sympathy for someone who was willingly duped. Surely there had to be a niggle of doubt in her mind. Where was her commonsense?
Clouded by hormones?
 
I have lived on my own for nearly 8 years since my wife passed away, I rely a lot on my computer but anyone asking to be a friend is immediately cut off, you never know how many other friends they are bringing in with them. after my English football club SDC is my favorite entry on my computer and I enjoy adding my jokes morning and afternoon, I know some of them are a bit

weak but you have to take the bad with the good. Cheers Dennis.
Dennis your jokes are always appreciated so keep
them coming and if it makes you happy so be it Cheers Ebby
 
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A few of my best friends are from America, but iv'e known them for years, they are not all bad, it's just weeding out the bad ones.
True my brother-law married an American and we used to communicate through f/book until l got a scam mail from someone pretending to be her saying l should claim for some money like she had .l mean really as if an American company would give me money in Australia and l also smelt a rat when the beginning of the mail differed to what she usually wrote.l told her and l have never heard from her since.
 
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I have a current challenge, unfortunately, I opened a Facebook link to view it and then dismissed it - as I wasn't interested as it appeared to be too cheap (looking at a rental for my niece). I went to open my FB messages today only to find I had been "Shut Out" The link had attached itself to my profile and was being shared if someone opened my profile, and Meta-FB advises that "It looks like you trick to gather sensitive information from others" - This goes against our community standards of our Cyber Security" I agree and understand the reasoning for this, however, I couldn't contact Meta-FB Support by Online, calling them or email to explain what had happened. I'll just have to wait until they resolve the issue. My anti-virus is always running, and scanning for viruses, malware, phishing, etc.... It's annoying, however, a few days without FB isn't going to hurt me.
 
II have just had an email supposedly from myGov Team which is another scam as it came from ASSAS which was sent to "undisclosed recipients" These people must think we are all stupid:


You have a new payment update in your myGov inbox

Click here to view and update refund details

Regards,

myGov Team.
So how many have clicked on "here to view" to find out what you were refering to???????????????????
 

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