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AIBU For telling my husband that he emasculates himself?
For context, I was raised by my single father. He raised me to be totally self-serving, where I learn not only to cook, clean, etc but to be my own ‘handyman’. This has lead me to be very independent especially around my house. My husband on the other hand was raised to expect everything done for him and never really learn any self-sustaining skills. But also raised to believe that the male is always right.
Fast forward to last week, I needed to buy a new line trimmer as my old faithful finally gave up on life. I was busy with the kids and my husband said he would go pick it up for me. I told him which one I wanted and what brand all my power tools are. He said he understood but when he came back, he had purchased one from a different brand. When I asked about it he said he thought it was better and it was also cheaper than the one I wanted. This annoyed me but I thought "Whatever. He tried. Move on."
It wasn’t until I looked at it I realised he hadn’t brought the battery pack to go with it. When I asked he told me I could just use the batteries from my other tools. I tried to explain to him that this wasn’t possible and why but he didn’t want a bar of it. A few moments later he said ‘ok my brothers coming over and we can go back to the hardware store’. I thought we would either be exchanging it or buying the battery pack. But I was so wrong…
When we got there he walked straight up to the tool shack and ask the tool specialist to explain to me how my Ryobi batteries would work perfectly fine in my new Makita line trimmer. Well let’s just say that this didn’t go well, the tool guy sided with me and explained when you committed to a tool brand you stay with it due to a few aspects about the batteries. He was embarrassed but quickly did the exchange when finding out the battery/charger pack cost more than the line trimmer itself.
When we got home, it started. He was yelling at me about how I embarrassed him, how I’m constantly emasculating him and how I should be a good wife and just stick to doing things appropriate for females. Well this got to me and I snapped, I replied with ‘the only person that’s emasculating you is yourself. It’s not my fault you never learnt to be what you call a man’ and I walked off.
It’s been a week now and he only speaks to me through the kids. It’s got me thinking AIBU?
