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AIBU for refusing to let my parents move in and reminding them that they backed the wrong horse?
My (37-year-old male) family comes from a long line of doctors. Being a doctor is the only acceptable profession in their eyes and anything aside from that is met with literal abandonment, which is what happened to me when I turned 17 and told my family I was NOT going to be a doctor but to build an acting career / social media career (youtube wasn't huge then) and supplement my income with small business endeavours. When I told my family this they kicked me out and we subsequently lost contact for 17 years.
During that time they moved to the UK and my sister became a doctor and my older brother got into a very competitive stream for surgery (neurosurgery specialising in spinal tumour diagnosis and removal), which he has now finished. We reconnected when COVID hit and they told me they were moving back to Sydney for lifestyle reasons and because my brother has found a $750k a year job.
During the last 2 years they never asked me how my acting career / social media stuff went, and basically assumed I was just slumming in it Sydney. To their credit, they were correct in that I didn't "make it big" in acting, or make it at all. I did, however, "make it big" as an investment banker and recently made partner at the bank I work.
This came to head on Friday when I met them for house shopping (I walked to meet them, and when they asked about my car, I just said I preferred to walk), and they realised the areas they wanted to live; despite being highly paid medical professionals, simply wasn't going to be happening, as the houses cost north of $20m. When we decided to call it a day and regroup they suggested going to my place before going out to dinner.
When we arrived at my house they thought I was renting a room and enquired how much rent was, I informed them that I wasn't renting and that this was my house. They got really mad, accusing me of lying to them for years and only meeting up to rub their face in my "probably illegally gained" wealth, and capped it off by informing me that they'll be living with me now instead of with my oldest brother, since they can't be seen living in a worse house then their son.
I laughed at them and reminded them that they bet on my brother and sister, not me and that they have a better chance of living with my neighbours than me. At that point, they threatened to "cut me out of their will", to which I reminded them of the fact that they can't even afford to buy in my area, so their will and assets don't really matter to me.
Now they aren't talking to me, and my brother and sister are saying I should have been proactive in letting them know of my success (I have a public LinkedIn profile, so they literally never googled me). Am I being unreasonable?
Source: www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/r4lk04/
