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AIBU for refusing to help my sister financially?
Let me give you the relevant background: me(32F) and my twin sister have a great-uncle, he and his husband are childfree and we are the only kids in the whole family.
When we were high school freshmen he sat us down and told us that he would like to leave his practice (orthodontics) to us if we want to.
I agreed and worked hard for it. My sister on the other hand always wanted to be a homemaker, nothing wrong with that.
When we were accepted to college he paid for mine, and gave an equal amount to her that she used on a big wedding and a grand honeymoon.
Her husband has a great job but they have always been deep in debt because they like to keep up with the Joneses (new car each year, grand vacations, kids in private school, and a ton of extracurriculars)
Two years ago I finally was able to join my uncle's practice, so he transferred everything to my name and left his huge paid-off house in a gated community to my sister. Then he and his husband moved to Florida to live the life.
It was just bad luck that a few months later COVID hit and the practice started suffering. And that's when my sister started on the gloating, about how she was the smarter twin in the end, how she ended up with a paid-for house and a great family while I was an old maid with a worthless practice.
I ignored her remarks the same as I have been doing for years. Then restrictions eased and I started making money. I just bought a condo and a Tesla.
2 days ago she visited me, then she asked me for 20k. Apparently, they took a mortgage on their house because her husband lost his job, and now they are behind on their house payments, car payments, all the bills, and the kids' tuition.
I was sympathetic, offered to help her budget, said that if they gave back their cars I could pay the difference and get them a used one. Also that I would get them current on essential bills and get them food but that was that.
She got angry, said I was a bad sister and that I was lording the fact that I was a successful doctor over her, that I wanted to see her brought low.
I couldn't accept the disrespect in my own house so I asked her to leave and to only contact me when she was ready to apologize and act rationally about her situation. She called me a bitch and left. Then she blocked me from everywhere and went whining to our parents.
I still think that I am in the right, but I don't want to see my nephews and niece become homeless. So AIBU?
Source: www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/qsktyk/
