[Athena E.]

AIBU 23.12.2024​

AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/LeoHyuuga:

Am I being unreasonable for accepting cake at my friend's birthday party?

'So this is a bit of a weird one. I (41M) was at a friend's birthday party on the weekend just past. There were 9 of us at the party including the birthday boy (which is surprisingly relevant). All fake names from here on out.'

'Amy (30ish F), one of the guests, baked a cake for the birthday boy. After the relevant party traditions of singing the birthday song, and the hip-hip-hooraying that happens after the birthday song here in Australia, I went back to talking to one of my friends when Amy came up to me and the other friend with 2 plates of cake and offered them to my friend and I. We both said yes, thanked her, and then she made a really odd face and walked away. My friend and I both said it was weird, and went back to chatting. I ate some of the cake and it had desiccated coconut inside it, which I don't particularly like, so after a couple of bites, I ignored it and then chucked it out when the party ended about an hour or so later.'

'About 45 minutes ago, Steven (30ish M), Amy's partner, sent me a series of angry texts (8am on a Monday morning is really not the best time to receive angry texts) saying how Amy spent last night crying about how she didn't get to eat any of her cake and that I took a slice of it only to throw it away and deprive her of her own cake, and that she only cut 8 slices since she knows I don't like coconut, but I took her slice and threw it away to spite her. I replied, "Why did she even offer me any cake if she knew there was coconut inside?" Steven said that she did it to be polite and not leave me out, and that I was an a****** for taking her slice and throwing it away.'

'I forwarded the message to my other friends that were there, and most of them have left me on read so far, except one who responded with a thumbs down emoji, and another who hasn't seen it yet (as of this writing). The fact that no one's responding to me is making me worry that I might have been unreasonable here.'

 

[Gazman]

You have some really stupid friends(?). How were you to know that it was laced with coconut inside? Why didn't she tell you? WTF

 

[BlackWolf]

You have some really stupid friends(?). How were you to know that it was laced with coconut inside? Why didn't she tell you? WTF

stupid her, for not saying that there was coconut inside and asking did you still want it.

 

[janj]

It's on her for not telling you and not enough cake to go round

 

[GrannyJA!]

Are you unreasonable for not being psychic? I don't think so.

 

[Aussie all the Way]

She is a drama queen, what an idiot for not telling you it had coconut in it. Actually if it had of been me who made the cake and I knew there were people who didn't like coconut I would have made another cake for those people. Your friends are dicks as well.

 

[marni]

Who in their right mind would not have enough cake for their visitors. She can make another cake if she feels she missed out. Her husband seems to be messed up as well. By all means sympathise but do not send stupid messages.

 

[Catherines]

She is a drama queen, what an idiot for not telling you it had coconut in it. Actually if it had of been me who made the cake and I knew there were people who didn't like coconut I would have made another cake for those people. Your friends are dicks as well.

Leave out the ‘of’ between “Actually if it had …. been me who made the cake. Incorrect to say ‘of’ in that spot.

 

[Veggiepatch]

Steven needs belting to the kerb and Amy needs a bitch slapping.

 

[DLHM]

Steven needs belting to the kerb and Amy needs a bitch slapping.

Maybe a tad harsh? Who needs “friends” like Amy and Steven? Better off without them.

 

[marni]

Leave out the ‘of’ between “Actually if it had …. been me who made the cake. Incorrect to say ‘of’ in that spot.

Wow

 

[Aussie all the Way]

Leave out the ‘of’ between “Actually if it had …. been me who made the cake. Incorrect to say ‘of’ in that spot.

OMG, I did not realise I was in an English class, been more than 40 years since school guess I have forgotten a couple of things. I'm not perfect and sure as hell bet you aren't either. Was that all correct.

 

[Catherines]

OMG, I did not realise I was in an English class, been more than 40 years since school guess I have forgotten a couple of things. I'm not perfect and sure as hell bet you aren't either. Was that all correct.

Not quite. What about the question mark at the end? And the odd comma - will let you figure out where you missed that one!

We might all be in Australia but there is no reason to be sloppy in our speech!

 

[Aussie all the Way]

Not quite. What about the question mark at the end? And the odd comma - will let you figure out where you missed that one!

We might all be in Australia but there is no reason to be sloppy in our speech!

Go away you are a waste of my time.

 

[Suzy Q]

Good on you, Aussie all the Way.

 

[Parrot]

Before offering this cake why not say to the person “ I am not sure You will like this cake it has Coconut in it “ I am sure the party concerned would have politely declined.

 

[Ezzy]

Not very good catering in my opinion. Normally l believe a caterer would have approx. 10% more food than needed for guests. Why not cut smaller slices & have something left over? Why cut 8 slices for 9 people even if she was of the assumption you would not want the cake? You were not to know the contents of the cake without being told.

This lady made the assumption you knew there was coconut, which you do not like, in the cake. Do you now what is said about people who assume? 'You make an ass of U & me'.

 

[Da Freddo]

"WOMEN" the mind boggles at how theirs works.

 

[Aussie all the Way]

Good on you, Aussie all the Way.

Thank you.

 

[Suzanne rose]

For one Amy is a Drama Queen and her partner is her whipping boy.

Seriously if there were 9 people why didn't she cut 9 pieces.

If she knew he didn't like coconut, why didn't she tell him and why just give it to him , he wouldn't have known it had coconut until he had taken a bite

If I was making a cake for a small gathering and knew someone didn't like a particular thing I wouldn't make it.

I think there is more to this story. Maybe she is his ex.

I think it might be time to get new friends.