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AIBU 14.06.2024

AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/WorriedRedPickle:

Am I being unreasonable for denying a woman a seat next to me on the bus?



I ride a pretty sparsely ridden bus from my work to my college. When I say sparse, I mean it’s never even close to half-full. There are always rows of empty seats at the time that I ride it in the afternoon.

I use a light linen bag for work, and I don’t want to put it on the floor or on my lap, so I put it on the seat next to me (all the seats are pairs, two seats next to each other). I don’t mind anyone sitting next to me, but the bus is never close to full, so I use the space for my bag.

Yesterday, during my commute, a lady got on the bus and grimaced at me. She gestured for me to remove my bag so she could sit next to me. As usual, there were so many empty seats. I wasn’t sitting in a disabled/reserved area — there were seats closer to the door. But whatever, I’m not confrontational; I removed my bag so she could sit.

I sort of rolled my eyes when she sat down next to me and sighed. Not to be obvious, but just because I got off an 8-hour shift, I was tired and wanted my own space, and SHE DIDN'T HAVE TO SIT NEXT TO ME. She clearly noticed—she then said, 'You need to learn some manners.'

After that, I got up and moved to another seat, but the whole thing had been bothering me for a day. Did I really lack manners? It just feels like she sat there to teach me a lesson when she could’ve sat anywhere else…



We're eager to hear your perspectives, members! Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.
 
No, you did not lack manners. Some people are a bit "uppity" and think that they can say whatever they like, particularly to younger people. Generally they have a demeanour of superiority and self importance and, delight in taking almost "anything" out on people just to make themselves feel better. You did the right thing, holding the urge to say something back to such a rude person. Moving seats, as you did, was the perfect thing to do to that person and, would have (just maybe) made her question her remarks to you.
I'm an older male in my 80's. Chin - chin, chin up and carry on. Wayne.
 
If there weren't any vacant seats I would have asked you to move your bag.
That wasn't the case though.
Think she was being a bit of a todger..😁
I just looked up “todger” because I have no idea what it is,it said it’s a “penis” so wtf would you call her a penis🤣
 
Not a nice person at all. Make sure you sit next to her even if it means moving your place, then sit so you are sitting in her lap .... Bitch that she is
 
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I often sit in the older person/disabled seat as I have a disability that is not noticeable until I stand up. I am also a senior person. A lady gets on the bus one stop after I do and one day she asked me if I am senior. I said yes and her response was “you don’t look it, you don’t have grey hair.” I burst out laughing. I obviously was sitting in the seat she wanted. She has asked others too if they were a senior because if not “you are sitting in a seat reserved for older people.” Lots of empty seats on the bus too. I call her the Bus Seat Police.
 
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I often sit in the older person/disabled seat as I have a disability that is not noticeable until I stand up. I am also a senior person. A lady gets on the bus one stop after I do and one day she asked me if I am senior. I said yes and her response was “you don’t look it, you don’t have grey hair.” I burst out laughing. I obviously was sitting in the seat she wanted. She has asked others too if they were a senior because if not “you are sitting in a seat reserved for older people.” Lots of empty seats on the bus too. I call her the Bus Seat Police.
🤣🤣I haven’t caught a 🚌 in donkeys years and I probably wouldn’t be able to get up the stairs these days.
 

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