If I were in her position, I would've wanted to make sure that the wife was satisfied with the arrangement and would have met with both of them before I went ahead with the procedure.
Regarding the video: So the person is not wearing a mask - other 'influencers' warn one that a mask must be worn at all times to prevent the cleaner inhaling the spores? Who's right?
Great that the mother wanted to make the party special and the children do look cute, but 'Bridgerton'?? I'm afraid this is yet another event to fulfil the mother's needs rather than those of the children...