[Seia Ibanez]

He wants to be a better husband, but he's trying to treat me like a child...​

AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Similar_Hunter_7841:


'My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. For most of those 20 years he has been absent. We have always just done our own thing and it has just worked. He has decided in the past year he wants to be a better husband. However I feel that he has start to try to treat me like a child.

He wants to know every detail of what I am doing and if I don't share every detail without him asking questions he says I am not communicating and it starts a fight. He thinks I am hiding things but I feel they are just not important.

For instance- I picked my son up at school one day because he called and asked me to. We got home prior to my husband getting home. He thought I should have texted him and told him I did that. Another time I went to the dentist at noon and he said I should have told him that too.

Things I never even thought about telling him in the past. Is this unreasonable of me?'

 

[Lesley Colclough]

I’m sorry but to me he is just making mountains out of mole Hills and being pedantic about everything. Is he telling you everything that he is doing and where his going and with whom? Maybe you need to put the shoe on the other foot and put the pressure on him !

 

[Viellarde]

He's misunderstood the concept of sharing as a couple.

 

[Veggiepatch]

She wants to be a better wife, but she's trying to treat me like a child...
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Corrected for authenicity.

From experience.

 

[Suzanne rose]

I think he is either cheating or had cheated on her !!

After being married for 20 years then go from doing your own thing to the complete opposite is very strange . Yep he is a cheater !!

 

[Towing]

I think he is either cheating or had cheated on her !!

After being married for 20 years then go from doing your own thing to the complete opposite is very strange . Yep he is a cheater !!

He has suddenly become a control freak?

 

[Luckyus]

The couple was watching television at night.
The husband says, "Can I know why you've been sulking since I arrived?" And, angrily, the wife responds, "Today we celebrate 25 years of marriage, and here we are, standing in front of this television."

"MY GOD! I was so busy that I completely forgot! Forgive me, my dear. Go put on your best evening dress; we're going out! You'll have an unforgettable night!" "Oh, darling, I knew you weren't a heartless monster."

At the entrance of the restaurant, the maître, very attentive, says, "Prepare the table for Mr. Bob Smith." The woman remarks, "It seems they know you well here, dear." "Oh, really!... I think I came here for lunch with some clients."

They just finished dinner, and the husband suggests going to a nightclub. At the entrance, there's a huge line. The husband tells the wife he'll take care of everything and approaches the doorman: "Hey, Big Joe!!! How's it going? And Big Joe replies, "Doing very well, Mr. Smith. You can go in!"

Inside the nightclub, the owner comes to greet them, "Good evening, Mr. Smith!" And then says, "Clear Mr. Smith's table!!" The suspicious wife asks, "Do you come here often?" "Oh, no! The owner is a client from the company."

Once at the table, the waitress comes and says, "The usual, Mr. Smith?" Meanwhile, a woman finishing a strip-tease on stage shouts, "And the panties, who are they for, folks?!!" The entire nightclub cheers, "BOB SMITH!!! BOB SMITH!!! BOB SMITH!!!"

The furious wife leaves the nightclub; the husband follows, and they get into a taxi together. The husband tries to calm things down, "Darling, let's not ruin this wonderful night. They surely mistook me for another Bob Smith." "Do you think I'm some idiot? Scoundrel! Don't touch me anymore!!! Blah, blah, blah... I am really a fool, blah, blah, blah... You big son of a bitch, blah, blah, blah..."

At this point, the taxi driver turns around and says, "Bob, do you want me to kick the hooker out

 

[Suzanne rose]

He has suddenly become a control freak?

They also did their own thing for 20 years before he became a control freak. That doesn't happen for no reason.
I believe he cheated, and a lot of cheaters turn their guilt on their partner. They make themselves believe or want to believe that their partner is also cheating

 

[Suzanne rose]

The couple was watching television at night.
The husband says, "Can I know why you've been sulking since I arrived?" And, angrily, the wife responds, "Today we celebrate 25 years of marriage, and here we are, standing in front of this television."

"MY GOD! I was so busy that I completely forgot! Forgive me, my dear. Go put on your best evening dress; we're going out! You'll have an unforgettable night!" "Oh, darling, I knew you weren't a heartless monster."

At the entrance of the restaurant, the maître, very attentive, says, "Prepare the table for Mr. Bob Smith." The woman remarks, "It seems they know you well here, dear." "Oh, really!... I think I came here for lunch with some clients."

They just finished dinner, and the husband suggests going to a nightclub. At the entrance, there's a huge line. The husband tells the wife he'll take care of everything and approaches the doorman: "Hey, Big Joe!!! How's it going? And Big Joe replies, "Doing very well, Mr. Smith. You can go in!"

Inside the nightclub, the owner comes to greet them, "Good evening, Mr. Smith!" And then says, "Clear Mr. Smith's table!!" The suspicious wife asks, "Do you come here often?" "Oh, no! The owner is a client from the company."

Once at the table, the waitress comes and says, "The usual, Mr. Smith?" Meanwhile, a woman finishing a strip-tease on stage shouts, "And the panties, who are they for, folks?!!" The entire nightclub cheers, "BOB SMITH!!! BOB SMITH!!! BOB SMITH!!!"

The furious wife leaves the nightclub; the husband follows, and they get into a taxi together. The husband tries to calm things down, "Darling, let's not ruin this wonderful night. They surely mistook me for another Bob Smith." "Do you think I'm some idiot? Scoundrel! Don't touch me anymore!!! Blah, blah, blah... I am really a fool, blah, blah, blah... You big son of a bitch, blah, blah, blah..."

At this point, the taxi driver turns around and says, "Bob, do you want me to kick the hooker out

I knew the husband was cheating

 

[7777]

It appears that the husband doesn't want his wife to have a chance to be free, to do what he so easily did, which was cheating. Or, he wants to know her every move, because he is still cheating, and doesn't want to be caught out.

 

[Suzanne rose]

It appears that the husband doesn't want his wife to have a chance to be free, to do what he so easily did, which was cheating. Or, he wants to know her every move, because he is still cheating, and doesn't want to be caught out.

Exactly

 

[Littleboy8]

The couple was watching television at night.
The husband says, "Can I know why you've been sulking since I arrived?" And, angrily, the wife responds, "Today we celebrate 25 years of marriage, and here we are, standing in front of this television."

"MY GOD! I was so busy that I completely forgot! Forgive me, my dear. Go put on your best evening dress; we're going out! You'll have an unforgettable night!" "Oh, darling, I knew you weren't a heartless monster."

At the entrance of the restaurant, the maître, very attentive, says, "Prepare the table for Mr. Bob Smith." The woman remarks, "It seems they know you well here, dear." "Oh, really!... I think I came here for lunch with some clients."

They just finished dinner, and the husband suggests going to a nightclub. At the entrance, there's a huge line. The husband tells the wife he'll take care of everything and approaches the doorman: "Hey, Big Joe!!! How's it going? And Big Joe replies, "Doing very well, Mr. Smith. You can go in!"

Inside the nightclub, the owner comes to greet them, "Good evening, Mr. Smith!" And then says, "Clear Mr. Smith's table!!" The suspicious wife asks, "Do you come here often?" "Oh, no! The owner is a client from the company."

Once at the table, the waitress comes and says, "The usual, Mr. Smith?" Meanwhile, a woman finishing a strip-tease on stage shouts, "And the panties, who are they for, folks?!!" The entire nightclub cheers, "BOB SMITH!!! BOB SMITH!!! BOB SMITH!!!"

The furious wife leaves the nightclub; the husband follows, and they get into a taxi together. The husband tries to calm things down, "Darling, let's not ruin this wonderful night. They surely mistook me for another Bob Smith." "Do you think I'm some idiot? Scoundrel! Don't touch me anymore!!! Blah, blah, blah... I am really a fool, blah, blah, blah... You big son of a bitch, blah, blah, blah..."

At this point, the taxi driver turns around and says, "Bob, do you want me to kick the hooker out

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