A man's jaw-dropping find in a secret women's safety group on Facebook will leave you stunned!

In the digital age, social media has become a powerful tool for community and support, particularly among those seeking safety and solidarity. However, the same platforms that offer refuge can also become grounds for unexpected confrontations and accusations. This was the stark reality faced by an Australian man who stumbled upon a shocking post about himself in a private Facebook group dedicated to keeping women safe from dangerous men.



The group, named 'Sis Is This Your Man?', was established as a proactive measure to inform its users about men who may pose a threat, particularly in the context of online dating where background checks are not always possible. The intention behind such groups is noble, aiming to create a space where women can share experiences and warnings to protect one another from harm.


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A man was shocked to find a post about him in a private group on social media. Credit: Shutterstock


However, the man in question was left reeling when he discovered that his ex-partner, against whom he had a restraining order, had used the group to publish false accusations against him. The post was a stark reminder of how these well-intentioned platforms can be misused for personal vendettas, leading to serious implications for those wrongly accused.



Maro Kovo, the admin of the page, acknowledged the challenges faced by the group, admitting that it had been targeted by individuals seeking revenge against former partners. 'We had one guy whose ex was posting him on multiple social media sites. She posted him in our group asking if anyone had any info about him,' Ms. Kovo explained. The situation escalated when the woman began accusing the man of various offenses in the comments section.

Upon being contacted by the distressed man, Ms. Kovo took responsible action. She demanded proof of the allegations to allow the comments to remain on the page. This approach underscores the delicate balance group administrators must maintain between protecting their members and preventing the spread of unfounded claims.

The incident highlights a broader issue within social media groups that aim to safeguard their members. While the administrators of 'Sis Is This Your Man?' work diligently to screen posts and consult with legal experts to mitigate the risk of defamation, not all groups exercise the same level of caution. The potential for reputational damage is significant, and the line between cautionary sharing and slander can be perilously thin.



Ms. Kovo and her team, comprised of professionals in psychology, counseling, family and domestic violence support, and nursing, are well-versed in the complexities of managing such a group. They are acutely aware of the horrors some women face daily, with statistics from Our Watch revealing that two in five Australian women have experienced violence since the age of 15.

The proliferation of social media groups warning about dangerous individuals is a response to a real and pressing concern. Convicted criminals, including paedophiles, can easily access popular dating apps, leaving unsuspecting women vulnerable. These groups serve as an informal line of defense, sharing information that could potentially save someone from harm.

Yet, the case of the falsely accused man serves as a cautionary tale about the power of social media and the importance of verifying information before it is shared. It is a reminder that while these groups play a critical role in women's safety, they must also safeguard against becoming platforms for false accusations that can destroy lives.



Key Takeaways
  • An Australian man was shocked to discover his ex-partner had posted false accusations about him to a private Facebook group aimed at protecting women from dangerous men.
  • The group, 'Sis Is This Your Man?', is designed to warn women about men who pose a potential threat, particularly in online dating contexts.
  • The group administrators, including Maro Kovo, screen posts to prevent the platform from being used for revenge and work with lawyers to mitigate legal risks.
  • False accusations can lead to defamation and damage to an individual's reputation, highlighting the balance required in operating protective social media groups responsibly.

Members of the Seniors Discount Club, we invite you to share your thoughts on this delicate issue. Have you or someone you know ever encountered a similar situation? How do you think such groups should balance the need for safety with the rights of individuals to protect their reputation? Join the conversation in the comments below and let us know your perspective.
 

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Are we sure he is as innocent as he claims to be? Some men are quick to blame a ‘crazy ex’ for ‘spreading lies to get back at them’ but sometimes the man can be the one at fault and he’s just trying to turn consequences for his bad behaviour back onto an ex partner.
 
Are we sure he is as innocent as he claims to be? Some men are quick to blame a ‘crazy ex’ for ‘spreading lies to get back at them’ but sometimes the man can be the one at fault and he’s just trying to turn consequences for his bad behaviour back onto an ex partner.
He does have a restraining order against her
 
Are we sure he is as innocent as he claims to be? Some men are quick to blame a ‘crazy ex’ for ‘spreading lies to get back at them’ but sometimes the man can be the one at fault and he’s just trying to turn consequences for his bad behaviour back onto an ex partner.
Sounds to me like the woman is psychotic. He wouldn't have been given an AVO against her if it was him
 
There can be vindictive bitches out there - especially when there are children in the mix. Not unusual for a woman to deny access to children out of bloody mindedness when a relationship breaks down. Regardless of the ultimate reason for failure of a relationship, it is usually a combination of many things on both sides that contribute sometimes over many months/years. Why people can't just shrug it off and get on with life is beyond me. I do know what I am talking about as I have been in that situation with a child to consider. Never did I denigrate his father to him (truth only told to him when he was in his 30's and could understand both sides of the story.) Too often the bitterness is visited on the children.
 
There can be vindictive bitches out there - especially when there are children in the mix. Not unusual for a woman to deny access to children out of bloody mindedness when a relationship breaks down. Regardless of the ultimate reason for failure of a relationship, it is usually a combination of many things on both sides that contribute sometimes over many months/years. Why people can't just shrug it off and get on with life is beyond me. I do know what I am talking about as I have been in that situation with a child to consider. Never did I denigrate his father to him (truth only told to him when he was in his 30's and could understand both sides of the story.) Too often the bitterness is visited on the children.
My son has two girls and his ex told him to move back with us for awhile. She was angry because he took the credit card off her and refused to do anymore overseas trips until they saved for a house.

Cut a story short, she never let him go back and next thing she had a new man, wouldn't let my son see his girls, then divorced him and new man moved in.

He went nearly a year before she let him see them. Now he gets them every second weekend but if she ask him for extra money ( my son pays child support, private school fees, uniforms). If she wants extra money and he doesn't give it then she won't let him have tge girls for a few weeks. If she wants him to take them on a Saturday his off week and he can't because his working then she will stop him seeing the girls for a few weeks.
Going through the family court takes nearly two years and will end up costing him over $50,000.
It's like she uses the girls against him.

In the beginning when he went to pick the girls up , she refused to let him take them because her new partner felt they needed to get use to him first. My son and his ex got unto an argument and she actually pinched him in the face then kicked him in the knee. My son then walked away. My daughter was in her car and filmed it all. I told my son to go and report it to the police just so it was on record. They convinced him to take out an AVO. That was a Friday night. Sunday she was taken in to the police station but the AVO was dropped by the police. Wednesday morning 3am the police knocked on our door and took my son away in the paddy wagon.
Lucky I wasn't arrested after what I said to the police.
Turns out she got an avo against my son for 2 years. 11 months later it went to court and the judge laughed and dismissed the avo.

Now it's back to see how much she can use my son for his money.

I know as soon as the girls are old enough they will want to live with their dad.
They are now only 6 and 8
 
Are we sure he is as innocent as he claims to be? Some men are quick to blame a ‘crazy ex’ for ‘spreading lies to get back at them’ but sometimes the man can be the one at fault and he’s just trying to turn consequences for his bad behaviour back onto an ex partner.
I would think the fact he has a restraining order against her says quite a lot, don't you? These are not handed out lightly.
 
Whilst I do not condone domestic violence in any form I do have some sympathy for men nowadays. They must have to walk on eggshells around women in case they are accused of sexual harassment for any minor comment they may make.
 
Whilst I do not condone domestic violence in any form I do have some sympathy for men nowadays. They must have to walk on eggshells around women in case they are accused of sexual harassment for any minor comment they may make.
It is an unpublished fact that there are nearly as many men bashed by their wives/girlfriends as women bashed by men. No-one talks about that.
 
Are we sure he is as innocent as he claims to be? Some men are quick to blame a ‘crazy ex’ for ‘spreading lies to get back at them’ but sometimes the man can be the one at fault and he’s just trying to turn consequences for his bad behaviour back onto an ex partner.
Hi Dollydame,
That is exactly what I was referring too. i.e. That he was honestly completely innocent of the accusations.
 
My son has two girls and his ex told him to move back with us for awhile. She was angry because he took the credit card off her and refused to do anymore overseas trips until they saved for a house.

Cut a story short, she never let him go back and next thing she had a new man, wouldn't let my son see his girls, then divorced him and new man moved in.

He went nearly a year before she let him see them. Now he gets them every second weekend but if she ask him for extra money ( my son pays child support, private school fees, uniforms). If she wants extra money and he doesn't give it then she won't let him have tge girls for a few weeks. If she wants him to take them on a Saturday his off week and he can't because his working then she will stop him seeing the girls for a few weeks.
Going through the family court takes nearly two years and will end up costing him over $50,000.
It's like she uses the girls against him.

In the beginning when he went to pick the girls up , she refused to let him take them because her new partner felt they needed to get use to him first. My son and his ex got unto an argument and she actually pinched him in the face then kicked him in the knee. My son then walked away. My daughter was in her car and filmed it all. I told my son to go and report it to the police just so it was on record. They convinced him to take out an AVO. That was a Friday night. Sunday she was taken in to the police station but the AVO was dropped by the police. Wednesday morning 3am the police knocked on our door and took my son away in the paddy wagon.
Lucky I wasn't arrested after what I said to the police.
Turns out she got an avo against my son for 2 years. 11 months later it went to court and the judge laughed and dismissed the avo.

Now it's back to see how much she can use my son for his money.

I know as soon as the girls are old enough they will want to live with their dad.
They are now only 6 and 8
Hi "SR",
The only advice I could offer, is, make sure your son gives her absolutely no extra money at all, FULL STOP.
My eldest stepson went through a similar situation, ( as probably with many other dads) where his ex wife has absolutely poisoned their daughter against him.
This daughter is now 18 & subsequently doesn't want anything to do with him.
This has also had a detrimental affect on my wife as she is her grandmother. We always went to see her on her birthdays when at the time, he had her for the weekend.
No doubt what-so-ever, I reckon that is what your sons' ex will do the same. The ex will only use their daughters as a threatening pawn against him until they reach 18.
The next 10 & 12 years will be a very hard road for him to navigate with huge boulders at every turn to block him.
One can only hope that he can keep his contact & assurances with his daughters.
If I may ask, what about the house where they were/are living ?
Were they buying it or not? If so, how long have they had it ?
If they were buying it between themselves , your son certainly has equity in the property.
Don't let the "NEW" bloke take advantage of the situation at all costs. Which is what he's doing now. He's found a "NEW HOME" to live in.
Tell him not to be scared, if need be, have the property valued & sell to save him many grievances.
An extremely strong advice I'd like to offer, is, make sure your son receives real good legal advice from a qualified Family Law/Divorce specialist solicitor, "IMPERATIVE" that he does. Make sure he places all facts to him on the table. There are many legal & financial obligations which have to be sorted out correctly.
I had to do the same when I was going through my divorce proceedings etc. I had 3 children to worry about & pay child maintenance etc., which I gladly did.
The initial costs hurt, but had to be done.
Don't worry, your son will survive as I did. He has to look after himself.
No doubt, everyone will be offering their bit of advice to him, especially from his work mates etc.

I wish your son all the very best for himself.
Good luck.
 
Hi "SR",
The only advice I could offer, is, make sure your son gives her absolutely no extra money at all, FULL STOP.
My eldest stepson went through a similar situation, ( as probably with many other dads) where his ex wife has absolutely poisoned their daughter against him.
This daughter is now 18 & subsequently doesn't want anything to do with him.
This has also had a detrimental affect on my wife as she is her grandmother. We always went to see her on her birthdays when at the time, he had her for the weekend.
No doubt what-so-ever, I reckon that is what your sons' ex will do the same. The ex will only use their daughters as a threatening pawn against him until they reach 18.
The next 10 & 12 years will be a very hard road for him to navigate with huge boulders at every turn to block him.
One can only hope that he can keep his contact & assurances with his daughters.
If I may ask, what about the house where they were/are living ?
Were they buying it or not? If so, how long have they had it ?
If they were buying it between themselves , your son certainly has equity in the property.
Don't let the "NEW" bloke take advantage of the situation at all costs. Which is what he's doing now. He's found a "NEW HOME" to live in.
Tell him not to be scared, if need be, have the property valued & sell to save him many grievances.
An extremely strong advice I'd like to offer, is, make sure your son receives real good legal advice from a qualified Family Law/Divorce specialist solicitor, "IMPERATIVE" that he does. Make sure he places all facts to him on the table. There are many legal & financial obligations which have to be sorted out correctly.
I had to do the same when I was going through my divorce proceedings etc. I had 3 children to worry about & pay child maintenance etc., which I gladly did.
The initial costs hurt, but had to be done.
Don't worry, your son will survive as I did. He has to look after himself.
No doubt, everyone will be offering their bit of advice to him, especially from his work mates etc.

I wish your son all the very best for himself.
Good luck.
The property they were in was rented . That's where the problems started as my son said no more overseas holidays and he took her credit card of her. He said they couldn't save a deposit for a house with her spending.

When they divorced he left her with the expensive car which he paid for, he said it was for his girls. And he paid off all their debt.

Afterwards and when she first started seeing the new guy she had the hide to ask my son for money as she was having surgery. He was ready to give it when her best friend called him and told him it was to get breast enlargement done 😡
 

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