A sensational life between the sheets isn't just for the young - seniors can have a steamy love life, too! At the Seniors Discount Club, we believe life's greatest pleasures can and should be enjoyed well into our golden years. In our two-and-a-half years of existence, we’ve published a lot of content on a range of topics, but one topic that we have barely broached is the sex life of older Australians, and through research conducted online by our team, we’ve found that we are indeed not alone. There are very few websites out there that talk about sex when you’re over sixty, and we want to break that stigma.

Keep the fire alive. Image source: Shutterstock.

Now, we know talking about sex isn’t for everyone. So, if this type of content just isn’t for you, in every newsletter, if we write about expert tips and tricks to help seniors keep their love lives sizzling, we will, of course, give a warning so you don’t click and read an article if it’s not in line with your values! So take this as your final warning, members. If you don’t want to read about sex, I recommend reading some other content we’ve produced this week. There’s a bunch of fascinating lifestyle content out at the moment, so why don’t you head over to our lifestyle forum here?

Now, let’s dive into it, shall we? Rediscovering intimacy is essential for maintaining happiness and connection between two people. So, it's no wonder that a whopping 76% of adults aged 65 to 80 consider romantic relationships and sex an essential part of their lives, according to the National Poll on Healthy Ageing.

Please note, members: The above national poll is actually an American one because, funnily enough, we couldn’t find ANY up-to-date surveys on the sex life of Australians over sixty… The most updated content on sex in your senior years was an article about ‘Getting on and still getting it on: a guide to older singles, dating and sex’ by The Sydney Morning Herald in 2015. So I guess, all the more reason I should be writing this.

I know you folks will agree that with age comes wisdom, and seniors boast a wealth of experience to draw on in their everyday lives, but perhaps, their bedroom lives are a little less golden and maybe a little more olden than they’d like them to be. So below, I’m going to explore some essential factors in maintaining a healthy, exciting sex life into your 60s, 70s and beyond.

Embracing physical changes and overcoming challenges

Our bodies naturally undergo various changes as we age, and our health is likely to encounter a few bumps along the road. However, it's crucial to remember that many physical issues can be managed or even conquered to ensure satisfying intimate relationships.

For both men and women, a decline in hormone levels, reduced stamina, and other health conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease can impact their intimate lives. But fear not! By staying in regular communication with your doctor, getting recommendations for medication or supplements, and following a healthy lifestyle with a well-balanced diet and exercise, you can work to overcome these challenges.

For men, supplements like vitamin D, red ginseng, l-arginine, and l-carnitine are great natural supplements for erectile dysfunction symptoms. However, as with everything, we recommend talking to a doctor before stocking up.

As for women, there are so many different kinds of lubricants on the market to help with the hormonal changes you have experienced and the difficulty that comes with natural lubrication. It’s best to avoid all the fancy lubricants (unless they are what you prefer!) and stick to more organic, natural lubricants. You can find these at Chemist Warehouse and even Coles for under $15.

It’s true, couples that communicate can conquer (the bedroom)

An open, honest, and playful approach to communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Discuss your concerns, anxieties, desires, and boundaries with your sexual partner, making sure to listen with understanding and without judgement.

Sex doesn’t have to be serious. You can laugh together and make communication an ongoing, enjoyable aspect of your relationship. After all, it’s one of the most natural things humans are made to do, and just because you’re a little older doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy reaching the finish line (if you know what I mean).

Spice it up: Variety is the spice of life

We've all heard the saying, 'familiarity breeds contempt,' and the same can be true for the bedroom! Keep things fresh by changing your routine, trying new sexual positions or locations, experimenting with role-playing, or exploring other forms of physical touch and pleasure.

There is so much information out there about the best sexual positions for someone who is ageing, so don’t be afraid to do some research, and if this article goes well, and you’d like to hear more, I will write a lot more about what the experts recommend when it comes to well, positioning yourself, and making sure no-one gets injured.

Safety first

Now, as I said above that there is very little content out there that speaks about the sex life of Australians over sixty, the exception to that is a recently published study that revealed cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis are increasing among older women in Australia at a faster rate than among younger women. According to Jean Hailes for Women’s Health, ‘The issues are that many older women don’t see themselves at risk of STIs… They also probably missed out on the safer sex messages of the ‘80s and ‘90s because they might have been in long-term relationships at the time.’

Sex may be wonderful for your health, but ensuring the well-being of yourself and your partner is at the heart of a truly fulfilling intimacy. Be sure to always practise safe sex, use protection, engage in regular check-ups, and of course, stay honest with your partner and your doctor. I promise condoms have come a long way, and there are surprisingly some fun ones out there, members.

One thing I loved when reading through the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health website when they were discussing the increase in STIs in older women, was this:

‘Instead of moving into an asexual [the experience of no sexual feelings or desires] old age – as society has always assumed older people would do – these women have carried the sexual freedom from their youth into middle and older age.’

‘When you add divorce, death of a partner, online dating as well as erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra into the mix, today’s older women find themselves living in an entirely new sexual landscape to that of their mothers or grandmothers.’

So, folks, there’s no doubt times have changed. If you aren’t having monogamous sex with a single partner and instead are engaging in a more casual sex setting, it is crucial to practice safe sex.

Our golden years should be a time to cherish and enjoy all aspects of life, including the bond that comes with a passionate and intimate connection. So, members, keep that fire burning - you've earned it!

If you enjoyed or strongly disliked reading this article, I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments below. Perhaps there’s a reason this topic isn’t written about often; we were just hoping we could break the stigma.

If we do get some positive feedback, then keep your eyes peeled as we dive into more in-depth discussions of these tips because there is so much more we could all learn about maintaining a sizzling and satisfying relationship well into our senior years!

 

[Grant andrew heard]

A sensational life between the sheets isn't just for the young - seniors can have a steamy love life, too! At the Seniors Discount Club, we believe life's greatest pleasures can and should be enjoyed well into our golden years. In our two-and-a-half years of existence, we’ve published a lot of content on a range of topics, but one topic that we have barely broached is the sex life of older Australians, and through research conducted online by our team, we’ve found that we are indeed not alone. There are very few websites out there that talk about sex when you’re over sixty, and we want to break that stigma.

View attachment 18903

Keep the fire alive. Image source: Shutterstock.

Now, we know talking about sex isn’t for everyone. So, if this type of content just isn’t for you, in every newsletter, if we write about expert tips and tricks to help seniors keep their love lives sizzling, we will, of course, give a warning so you don’t click and read an article if it’s not in line with your values! So take this as your final warning, members. If you don’t want to read about sex, I recommend reading some other content we’ve produced this week. There’s a bunch of fascinating lifestyle content out at the moment, so why don’t you head over to our lifestyle forum here?

Now, let’s dive into it, shall we? Rediscovering intimacy is essential for maintaining happiness and connection between two people. So, it's no wonder that a whopping 76% of adults aged 65 to 80 consider romantic relationships and sex an essential part of their lives, according to the National Poll on Healthy Ageing.

Please note, members: The above national poll is actually an American one because, funnily enough, we couldn’t find ANY up-to-date surveys on the sex life of Australians over sixty… The most updated content on sex in your senior years was an article about ‘Getting on and still getting it on: a guide to older singles, dating and sex’ by The Sydney Morning Herald in 2015. So I guess, all the more reason I should be writing this.

I know you folks will agree that with age comes wisdom, and seniors boast a wealth of experience to draw on in their everyday lives, but perhaps, their bedroom lives are a little less golden and maybe a little more olden than they’d like them to be. So below, I’m going to explore some essential factors in maintaining a healthy, exciting sex life into your 60s, 70s and beyond.

Embracing physical changes and overcoming challenges

Our bodies naturally undergo various changes as we age, and our health is likely to encounter a few bumps along the road. However, it's crucial to remember that many physical issues can be managed or even conquered to ensure satisfying intimate relationships.

For both men and women, a decline in hormone levels, reduced stamina, and other health conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease can impact their intimate lives. But fear not! By staying in regular communication with your doctor, getting recommendations for medication or supplements, and following a healthy lifestyle with a well-balanced diet and exercise, you can work to overcome these challenges.

For men, supplements like vitamin D, red ginseng, l-arginine, and l-carnitine are great natural supplements for erectile dysfunction symptoms. However, as with everything, we recommend talking to a doctor before stocking up.

As for women, there are so many different kinds of lubricants on the market to help with the hormonal changes you have experienced and the difficulty that comes with natural lubrication. It’s best to avoid all the fancy lubricants (unless they are what you prefer!) and stick to more organic, natural lubricants. You can find these at Chemist Warehouse and even Coles for under $15.

It’s true, couples that communicate can conquer (the bedroom)

An open, honest, and playful approach to communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Discuss your concerns, anxieties, desires, and boundaries with your sexual partner, making sure to listen with understanding and without judgement.

Sex doesn’t have to be serious. You can laugh together and make communication an ongoing, enjoyable aspect of your relationship. After all, it’s one of the most natural things humans are made to do, and just because you’re a little older doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy reaching the finish line (if you know what I mean).

Spice it up: Variety is the spice of life

We've all heard the saying, 'familiarity breeds contempt,' and the same can be true for the bedroom! Keep things fresh by changing your routine, trying new sexual positions or locations, experimenting with role-playing, or exploring other forms of physical touch and pleasure.

There is so much information out there about the best sexual positions for someone who is ageing, so don’t be afraid to do some research, and if this article goes well, and you’d like to hear more, I will write a lot more about what the experts recommend when it comes to well, positioning yourself, and making sure no-one gets injured.

Safety first

Now, as I said above that there is very little content out there that speaks about the sex life of Australians over sixty, the exception to that is a recently published study that revealed cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis are increasing among older women in Australia at a faster rate than among younger women. According to Jean Hailes for Women’s Health, ‘The issues are that many older women don’t see themselves at risk of STIs… They also probably missed out on the safer sex messages of the ‘80s and ‘90s because they might have been in long-term relationships at the time.’

Sex may be wonderful for your health, but ensuring the well-being of yourself and your partner is at the heart of a truly fulfilling intimacy. Be sure to always practise safe sex, use protection, engage in regular check-ups, and of course, stay honest with your partner and your doctor. I promise condoms have come a long way, and there are surprisingly some fun ones out there, members.

One thing I loved when reading through the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health website when they were discussing the increase in STIs in older women, was this:

‘Instead of moving into an asexual [the experience of no sexual feelings or desires] old age – as society has always assumed older people would do – these women have carried the sexual freedom from their youth into middle and older age.’

‘When you add divorce, death of a partner, online dating as well as erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra into the mix, today’s older women find themselves living in an entirely new sexual landscape to that of their mothers or grandmothers.’

So, folks, there’s no doubt times have changed. If you aren’t having monogamous sex with a single partner and instead are engaging in a more casual sex setting, it is crucial to practice safe sex.

Our golden years should be a time to cherish and enjoy all aspects of life, including the bond that comes with a passionate and intimate connection. So, members, keep that fire burning - you've earned it!

If you enjoyed or strongly disliked reading this article, I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments below. Perhaps there’s a reason this topic isn’t written about often; we were just hoping we could break the stigma.

If we do get some positive feedback, then keep your eyes peeled as we dive into more in-depth discussions of these tips because there is so much more we could all learn about maintaining a sizzling and satisfying relationship well into our senior years!

I have not had sexual for some years now I have been hurt too many times and I just do not trust women add to it the current pronoun woke attitudes I ask why I should I bother. I have had accusations by older women that it is always about sex and I have not even brought it up. I was a very dedicated sexual partner with the women in my life , only been married once with three lovely children but have been divorced for many years, I think that too many women these days want to be men rather than the beautiful females they are meant to be . Please do not use my name .
I would love nothing more than to have a sexual partner but I have tried a few sites and have been ripped off financially and emotionally.

Yes I would like more info.
Thanks for caring about my emotional health withinfo about sex.

 

[Rosiebitz]

A sensational life between the sheets isn't just for the young - seniors can have a steamy love life, too! At the Seniors Discount Club, we believe life's greatest pleasures can and should be enjoyed well into our golden years. In our two-and-a-half years of existence, we’ve published a lot of content on a range of topics, but one topic that we have barely broached is the sex life of older Australians, and through research conducted online by our team, we’ve found that we are indeed not alone. There are very few websites out there that talk about sex when you’re over sixty, and we want to break that stigma.

View attachment 18903

Keep the fire alive. Image source: Shutterstock.

Now, we know talking about sex isn’t for everyone. So, if this type of content just isn’t for you, in every newsletter, if we write about expert tips and tricks to help seniors keep their love lives sizzling, we will, of course, give a warning so you don’t click and read an article if it’s not in line with your values! So take this as your final warning, members. If you don’t want to read about sex, I recommend reading some other content we’ve produced this week. There’s a bunch of fascinating lifestyle content out at the moment, so why don’t you head over to our lifestyle forum here?

Now, let’s dive into it, shall we? Rediscovering intimacy is essential for maintaining happiness and connection between two people. So, it's no wonder that a whopping 76% of adults aged 65 to 80 consider romantic relationships and sex an essential part of their lives, according to the National Poll on Healthy Ageing.

Please note, members: The above national poll is actually an American one because, funnily enough, we couldn’t find ANY up-to-date surveys on the sex life of Australians over sixty… The most updated content on sex in your senior years was an article about ‘Getting on and still getting it on: a guide to older singles, dating and sex’ by The Sydney Morning Herald in 2015. So I guess, all the more reason I should be writing this.

I know you folks will agree that with age comes wisdom, and seniors boast a wealth of experience to draw on in their everyday lives, but perhaps, their bedroom lives are a little less golden and maybe a little more olden than they’d like them to be. So below, I’m going to explore some essential factors in maintaining a healthy, exciting sex life into your 60s, 70s and beyond.

Embracing physical changes and overcoming challenges

Our bodies naturally undergo various changes as we age, and our health is likely to encounter a few bumps along the road. However, it's crucial to remember that many physical issues can be managed or even conquered to ensure satisfying intimate relationships.

For both men and women, a decline in hormone levels, reduced stamina, and other health conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease can impact their intimate lives. But fear not! By staying in regular communication with your doctor, getting recommendations for medication or supplements, and following a healthy lifestyle with a well-balanced diet and exercise, you can work to overcome these challenges.

For men, supplements like vitamin D, red ginseng, l-arginine, and l-carnitine are great natural supplements for erectile dysfunction symptoms. However, as with everything, we recommend talking to a doctor before stocking up.

As for women, there are so many different kinds of lubricants on the market to help with the hormonal changes you have experienced and the difficulty that comes with natural lubrication. It’s best to avoid all the fancy lubricants (unless they are what you prefer!) and stick to more organic, natural lubricants. You can find these at Chemist Warehouse and even Coles for under $15.

It’s true, couples that communicate can conquer (the bedroom)

An open, honest, and playful approach to communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Discuss your concerns, anxieties, desires, and boundaries with your sexual partner, making sure to listen with understanding and without judgement.

Sex doesn’t have to be serious. You can laugh together and make communication an ongoing, enjoyable aspect of your relationship. After all, it’s one of the most natural things humans are made to do, and just because you’re a little older doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy reaching the finish line (if you know what I mean).

Spice it up: Variety is the spice of life

We've all heard the saying, 'familiarity breeds contempt,' and the same can be true for the bedroom! Keep things fresh by changing your routine, trying new sexual positions or locations, experimenting with role-playing, or exploring other forms of physical touch and pleasure.

There is so much information out there about the best sexual positions for someone who is ageing, so don’t be afraid to do some research, and if this article goes well, and you’d like to hear more, I will write a lot more about what the experts recommend when it comes to well, positioning yourself, and making sure no-one gets injured.

Safety first

Now, as I said above that there is very little content out there that speaks about the sex life of Australians over sixty, the exception to that is a recently published study that revealed cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis are increasing among older women in Australia at a faster rate than among younger women. According to Jean Hailes for Women’s Health, ‘The issues are that many older women don’t see themselves at risk of STIs… They also probably missed out on the safer sex messages of the ‘80s and ‘90s because they might have been in long-term relationships at the time.’

Sex may be wonderful for your health, but ensuring the well-being of yourself and your partner is at the heart of a truly fulfilling intimacy. Be sure to always practise safe sex, use protection, engage in regular check-ups, and of course, stay honest with your partner and your doctor. I promise condoms have come a long way, and there are surprisingly some fun ones out there, members.

One thing I loved when reading through the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health website when they were discussing the increase in STIs in older women, was this:

‘Instead of moving into an asexual [the experience of no sexual feelings or desires] old age – as society has always assumed older people would do – these women have carried the sexual freedom from their youth into middle and older age.’

‘When you add divorce, death of a partner, online dating as well as erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra into the mix, today’s older women find themselves living in an entirely new sexual landscape to that of their mothers or grandmothers.’

So, folks, there’s no doubt times have changed. If you aren’t having monogamous sex with a single partner and instead are engaging in a more casual sex setting, it is crucial to practice safe sex.

Our golden years should be a time to cherish and enjoy all aspects of life, including the bond that comes with a passionate and intimate connection. So, members, keep that fire burning - you've earned it!

If you enjoyed or strongly disliked reading this article, I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments below. Perhaps there’s a reason this topic isn’t written about often; we were just hoping we could break the stigma.

If we do get some positive feedback, then keep your eyes peeled as we dive into more in-depth discussions of these tips because there is so much more we could all learn about maintaining a sizzling and satisfying relationship well into our senior years!

It was great to read this article about a topic that has been pushed aside by most other people and not spoken about. Just because our bodies get older doesn’t mean that we are not attractive to the opposite sex. Beauty comes from within. To have a healthy sex life is so important to our wellbeing, mentally & physically.
I, myself, will be looking out for more articles on this subject. Well done team!

 

[Cool Bat]

I wish, can't even get a lady to go fo a coffee or chat

 

[aussie24460]

More articles on this subject please

 

[Bernice S]

Great article

A sensational life between the sheets isn't just for the young - seniors can have a steamy love life, too! At the Seniors Discount Club, we believe life's greatest pleasures can and should be enjoyed well into our golden years. In our two-and-a-half years of existence, we’ve published a lot of content on a range of topics, but one topic that we have barely broached is the sex life of older Australians, and through research conducted online by our team, we’ve found that we are indeed not alone. There are very few websites out there that talk about sex when you’re over sixty, and we want to break that stigma.

View attachment 18903

Keep the fire alive. Image source: Shutterstock.

Now, we know talking about sex isn’t for everyone. So, if this type of content just isn’t for you, in every newsletter, if we write about expert tips and tricks to help seniors keep their love lives sizzling, we will, of course, give a warning so you don’t click and read an article if it’s not in line with your values! So take this as your final warning, members. If you don’t want to read about sex, I recommend reading some other content we’ve produced this week. There’s a bunch of fascinating lifestyle content out at the moment, so why don’t you head over to our lifestyle forum here?

Now, let’s dive into it, shall we? Rediscovering intimacy is essential for maintaining happiness and connection between two people. So, it's no wonder that a whopping 76% of adults aged 65 to 80 consider romantic relationships and sex an essential part of their lives, according to the National Poll on Healthy Ageing.

Please note, members: The above national poll is actually an American one because, funnily enough, we couldn’t find ANY up-to-date surveys on the sex life of Australians over sixty… The most updated content on sex in your senior years was an article about ‘Getting on and still getting it on: a guide to older singles, dating and sex’ by The Sydney Morning Herald in 2015. So I guess, all the more reason I should be writing this.

I know you folks will agree that with age comes wisdom, and seniors boast a wealth of experience to draw on in their everyday lives, but perhaps, their bedroom lives are a little less golden and maybe a little more olden than they’d like them to be. So below, I’m going to explore some essential factors in maintaining a healthy, exciting sex life into your 60s, 70s and beyond.

Embracing physical changes and overcoming challenges

Our bodies naturally undergo various changes as we age, and our health is likely to encounter a few bumps along the road. However, it's crucial to remember that many physical issues can be managed or even conquered to ensure satisfying intimate relationships.

For both men and women, a decline in hormone levels, reduced stamina, and other health conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease can impact their intimate lives. But fear not! By staying in regular communication with your doctor, getting recommendations for medication or supplements, and following a healthy lifestyle with a well-balanced diet and exercise, you can work to overcome these challenges.

For men, supplements like vitamin D, red ginseng, l-arginine, and l-carnitine are great natural supplements for erectile dysfunction symptoms. However, as with everything, we recommend talking to a doctor before stocking up.

As for women, there are so many different kinds of lubricants on the market to help with the hormonal changes you have experienced and the difficulty that comes with natural lubrication. It’s best to avoid all the fancy lubricants (unless they are what you prefer!) and stick to more organic, natural lubricants. You can find these at Chemist Warehouse and even Coles for under $15.

It’s true, couples that communicate can conquer (the bedroom)

An open, honest, and playful approach to communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Discuss your concerns, anxieties, desires, and boundaries with your sexual partner, making sure to listen with understanding and without judgement.

Sex doesn’t have to be serious. You can laugh together and make communication an ongoing, enjoyable aspect of your relationship. After all, it’s one of the most natural things humans are made to do, and just because you’re a little older doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy reaching the finish line (if you know what I mean).

Spice it up: Variety is the spice of life

We've all heard the saying, 'familiarity breeds contempt,' and the same can be true for the bedroom! Keep things fresh by changing your routine, trying new sexual positions or locations, experimenting with role-playing, or exploring other forms of physical touch and pleasure.

There is so much information out there about the best sexual positions for someone who is ageing, so don’t be afraid to do some research, and if this article goes well, and you’d like to hear more, I will write a lot more about what the experts recommend when it comes to well, positioning yourself, and making sure no-one gets injured.

Safety first

Now, as I said above that there is very little content out there that speaks about the sex life of Australians over sixty, the exception to that is a recently published study that revealed cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis are increasing among older women in Australia at a faster rate than among younger women. According to Jean Hailes for Women’s Health, ‘The issues are that many older women don’t see themselves at risk of STIs… They also probably missed out on the safer sex messages of the ‘80s and ‘90s because they might have been in long-term relationships at the time.’

Sex may be wonderful for your health, but ensuring the well-being of yourself and your partner is at the heart of a truly fulfilling intimacy. Be sure to always practise safe sex, use protection, engage in regular check-ups, and of course, stay honest with your partner and your doctor. I promise condoms have come a long way, and there are surprisingly some fun ones out there, members.

One thing I loved when reading through the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health website when they were discussing the increase in STIs in older women, was this:

‘Instead of moving into an asexual [the experience of no sexual feelings or desires] old age – as society has always assumed older people would do – these women have carried the sexual freedom from their youth into middle and older age.’

‘When you add divorce, death of a partner, online dating as well as erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra into the mix, today’s older women find themselves living in an entirely new sexual landscape to that of their mothers or grandmothers.’

So, folks, there’s no doubt times have changed. If you aren’t having monogamous sex with a single partner and instead are engaging in a more casual sex setting, it is crucial to practice safe sex.

Our golden years should be a time to cherish and enjoy all aspects of life, including the bond that comes with a passionate and intimate connection. So, members, keep that fire burning - you've earned it!

If you enjoyed or strongly disliked reading this article, I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments below. Perhaps there’s a reason this topic isn’t written about often; we were just hoping we could break the stigma.

If we do get some positive feedback, then keep your eyes peeled as we dive into more in-depth discussions of these tips because there is so much more we could all learn about maintaining a sizzling and satisfying relationship well into our senior years!

Great article. Vert true. Why should only young ones have fun when sex can be great later on in life. Look forward to reading more like this.

 

[Stina]

A sensational life between the sheets isn't just for the young - seniors can have a steamy love life, too! At the Seniors Discount Club, we believe life's greatest pleasures can and should be enjoyed well into our golden years. In our two-and-a-half years of existence, we’ve published a lot of content on a range of topics, but one topic that we have barely broached is the sex life of older Australians, and through research conducted online by our team, we’ve found that we are indeed not alone. There are very few websites out there that talk about sex when you’re over sixty, and we want to break that stigma.

View attachment 18903

Keep the fire alive. Image source: Shutterstock.

Now, we know talking about sex isn’t for everyone. So, if this type of content just isn’t for you, in every newsletter, if we write about expert tips and tricks to help seniors keep their love lives sizzling, we will, of course, give a warning so you don’t click and read an article if it’s not in line with your values! So take this as your final warning, members. If you don’t want to read about sex, I recommend reading some other content we’ve produced this week. There’s a bunch of fascinating lifestyle content out at the moment, so why don’t you head over to our lifestyle forum here?

Now, let’s dive into it, shall we? Rediscovering intimacy is essential for maintaining happiness and connection between two people. So, it's no wonder that a whopping 76% of adults aged 65 to 80 consider romantic relationships and sex an essential part of their lives, according to the National Poll on Healthy Ageing.

Please note, members: The above national poll is actually an American one because, funnily enough, we couldn’t find ANY up-to-date surveys on the sex life of Australians over sixty… The most updated content on sex in your senior years was an article about ‘Getting on and still getting it on: a guide to older singles, dating and sex’ by The Sydney Morning Herald in 2015. So I guess, all the more reason I should be writing this.

I know you folks will agree that with age comes wisdom, and seniors boast a wealth of experience to draw on in their everyday lives, but perhaps, their bedroom lives are a little less golden and maybe a little more olden than they’d like them to be. So below, I’m going to explore some essential factors in maintaining a healthy, exciting sex life into your 60s, 70s and beyond.

Embracing physical changes and overcoming challenges

Our bodies naturally undergo various changes as we age, and our health is likely to encounter a few bumps along the road. However, it's crucial to remember that many physical issues can be managed or even conquered to ensure satisfying intimate relationships.

For both men and women, a decline in hormone levels, reduced stamina, and other health conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease can impact their intimate lives. But fear not! By staying in regular communication with your doctor, getting recommendations for medication or supplements, and following a healthy lifestyle with a well-balanced diet and exercise, you can work to overcome these challenges.

For men, supplements like vitamin D, red ginseng, l-arginine, and l-carnitine are great natural supplements for erectile dysfunction symptoms. However, as with everything, we recommend talking to a doctor before stocking up.

As for women, there are so many different kinds of lubricants on the market to help with the hormonal changes you have experienced and the difficulty that comes with natural lubrication. It’s best to avoid all the fancy lubricants (unless they are what you prefer!) and stick to more organic, natural lubricants. You can find these at Chemist Warehouse and even Coles for under $15.

It’s true, couples that communicate can conquer (the bedroom)

An open, honest, and playful approach to communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Discuss your concerns, anxieties, desires, and boundaries with your sexual partner, making sure to listen with understanding and without judgement.

Sex doesn’t have to be serious. You can laugh together and make communication an ongoing, enjoyable aspect of your relationship. After all, it’s one of the most natural things humans are made to do, and just because you’re a little older doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy reaching the finish line (if you know what I mean).

Spice it up: Variety is the spice of life

We've all heard the saying, 'familiarity breeds contempt,' and the same can be true for the bedroom! Keep things fresh by changing your routine, trying new sexual positions or locations, experimenting with role-playing, or exploring other forms of physical touch and pleasure.

There is so much information out there about the best sexual positions for someone who is ageing, so don’t be afraid to do some research, and if this article goes well, and you’d like to hear more, I will write a lot more about what the experts recommend when it comes to well, positioning yourself, and making sure no-one gets injured.

Safety first

Now, as I said above that there is very little content out there that speaks about the sex life of Australians over sixty, the exception to that is a recently published study that revealed cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis are increasing among older women in Australia at a faster rate than among younger women. According to Jean Hailes for Women’s Health, ‘The issues are that many older women don’t see themselves at risk of STIs… They also probably missed out on the safer sex messages of the ‘80s and ‘90s because they might have been in long-term relationships at the time.’

Sex may be wonderful for your health, but ensuring the well-being of yourself and your partner is at the heart of a truly fulfilling intimacy. Be sure to always practise safe sex, use protection, engage in regular check-ups, and of course, stay honest with your partner and your doctor. I promise condoms have come a long way, and there are surprisingly some fun ones out there, members.

One thing I loved when reading through the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health website when they were discussing the increase in STIs in older women, was this:

‘Instead of moving into an asexual [the experience of no sexual feelings or desires] old age – as society has always assumed older people would do – these women have carried the sexual freedom from their youth into middle and older age.’

‘When you add divorce, death of a partner, online dating as well as erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra into the mix, today’s older women find themselves living in an entirely new sexual landscape to that of their mothers or grandmothers.’

So, folks, there’s no doubt times have changed. If you aren’t having monogamous sex with a single partner and instead are engaging in a more casual sex setting, it is crucial to practice safe sex.

Our golden years should be a time to cherish and enjoy all aspects of life, including the bond that comes with a passionate and intimate connection. So, members, keep that fire burning - you've earned it!

If you enjoyed or strongly disliked reading this article, I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments below. Perhaps there’s a reason this topic isn’t written about often; we were just hoping we could break the stigma.

If we do get some positive feedback, then keep your eyes peeled as we dive into more in-depth discussions of these tips because there is so much more we could all learn about maintaining a sizzling and satisfying relationship well into our senior years!

Thanks for the great article. My husband and I married in our mid sixties, eight years ago, and, for us true love is the most important ingredient. From that springs the best sex we’ve ever had and we don’t plan to stop anytime soon. In spite of our various ailments, life keeps getting better and better.

 

[glennrapson]

Great article. More please...

 

[Richard12]

A sensational life between the sheets isn't just for the young - seniors can have a steamy love life, too! At the Seniors Discount Club, we believe life's greatest pleasures can and should be enjoyed well into our golden years. In our two-and-a-half years of existence, we’ve published a lot of content on a range of topics, but one topic that we have barely broached is the sex life of older Australians, and through research conducted online by our team, we’ve found that we are indeed not alone. There are very few websites out there that talk about sex when you’re over sixty, and we want to break that stigma.

View attachment 18903

Keep the fire alive. Image source: Shutterstock.

Now, we know talking about sex isn’t for everyone. So, if this type of content just isn’t for you, in every newsletter, if we write about expert tips and tricks to help seniors keep their love lives sizzling, we will, of course, give a warning so you don’t click and read an article if it’s not in line with your values! So take this as your final warning, members. If you don’t want to read about sex, I recommend reading some other content we’ve produced this week. There’s a bunch of fascinating lifestyle content out at the moment, so why don’t you head over to our lifestyle forum here?

Now, let’s dive into it, shall we? Rediscovering intimacy is essential for maintaining happiness and connection between two people. So, it's no wonder that a whopping 76% of adults aged 65 to 80 consider romantic relationships and sex an essential part of their lives, according to the National Poll on Healthy Ageing.

Please note, members: The above national poll is actually an American one because, funnily enough, we couldn’t find ANY up-to-date surveys on the sex life of Australians over sixty… The most updated content on sex in your senior years was an article about ‘Getting on and still getting it on: a guide to older singles, dating and sex’ by The Sydney Morning Herald in 2015. So I guess, all the more reason I should be writing this.

I know you folks will agree that with age comes wisdom, and seniors boast a wealth of experience to draw on in their everyday lives, but perhaps, their bedroom lives are a little less golden and maybe a little more olden than they’d like them to be. So below, I’m going to explore some essential factors in maintaining a healthy, exciting sex life into your 60s, 70s and beyond.

Embracing physical changes and overcoming challenges

Our bodies naturally undergo various changes as we age, and our health is likely to encounter a few bumps along the road. However, it's crucial to remember that many physical issues can be managed or even conquered to ensure satisfying intimate relationships.

For both men and women, a decline in hormone levels, reduced stamina, and other health conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease can impact their intimate lives. But fear not! By staying in regular communication with your doctor, getting recommendations for medication or supplements, and following a healthy lifestyle with a well-balanced diet and exercise, you can work to overcome these challenges.

For men, supplements like vitamin D, red ginseng, l-arginine, and l-carnitine are great natural supplements for erectile dysfunction symptoms. However, as with everything, we recommend talking to a doctor before stocking up.

As for women, there are so many different kinds of lubricants on the market to help with the hormonal changes you have experienced and the difficulty that comes with natural lubrication. It’s best to avoid all the fancy lubricants (unless they are what you prefer!) and stick to more organic, natural lubricants. You can find these at Chemist Warehouse and even Coles for under $15.

It’s true, couples that communicate can conquer (the bedroom)

An open, honest, and playful approach to communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Discuss your concerns, anxieties, desires, and boundaries with your sexual partner, making sure to listen with understanding and without judgement.

Sex doesn’t have to be serious. You can laugh together and make communication an ongoing, enjoyable aspect of your relationship. After all, it’s one of the most natural things humans are made to do, and just because you’re a little older doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy reaching the finish line (if you know what I mean).

Spice it up: Variety is the spice of life

We've all heard the saying, 'familiarity breeds contempt,' and the same can be true for the bedroom! Keep things fresh by changing your routine, trying new sexual positions or locations, experimenting with role-playing, or exploring other forms of physical touch and pleasure.

There is so much information out there about the best sexual positions for someone who is ageing, so don’t be afraid to do some research, and if this article goes well, and you’d like to hear more, I will write a lot more about what the experts recommend when it comes to well, positioning yourself, and making sure no-one gets injured.

Safety first

Now, as I said above that there is very little content out there that speaks about the sex life of Australians over sixty, the exception to that is a recently published study that revealed cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis are increasing among older women in Australia at a faster rate than among younger women. According to Jean Hailes for Women’s Health, ‘The issues are that many older women don’t see themselves at risk of STIs… They also probably missed out on the safer sex messages of the ‘80s and ‘90s because they might have been in long-term relationships at the time.’

Sex may be wonderful for your health, but ensuring the well-being of yourself and your partner is at the heart of a truly fulfilling intimacy. Be sure to always practise safe sex, use protection, engage in regular check-ups, and of course, stay honest with your partner and your doctor. I promise condoms have come a long way, and there are surprisingly some fun ones out there, members.

One thing I loved when reading through the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health website when they were discussing the increase in STIs in older women, was this:

‘Instead of moving into an asexual [the experience of no sexual feelings or desires] old age – as society has always assumed older people would do – these women have carried the sexual freedom from their youth into middle and older age.’

‘When you add divorce, death of a partner, online dating as well as erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra into the mix, today’s older women find themselves living in an entirely new sexual landscape to that of their mothers or grandmothers.’

So, folks, there’s no doubt times have changed. If you aren’t having monogamous sex with a single partner and instead are engaging in a more casual sex setting, it is crucial to practice safe sex.

Our golden years should be a time to cherish and enjoy all aspects of life, including the bond that comes with a passionate and intimate connection. So, members, keep that fire burning - you've earned it!

If you enjoyed or strongly disliked reading this article, I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments below. Perhaps there’s a reason this topic isn’t written about often; we were just hoping we could break the stigma.

If we do get some positive feedback, then keep your eyes peeled as we dive into more in-depth discussions of these tips because there is so much more we could all learn about maintaining a sizzling and satisfying relationship well into our senior years!

Hello, I loved the story and please continue. I am happily married for 45 years and we are 66 and 67. Now that we are both retired, we have more sex than ever before and we love it. (Pun intended).

 

[dalemiller69]

HI had a very full sexual life until I got a prostatectomy and removed my prostate that was in 2017and it completely changed my life with my wife I just feel something missing in our lives only men would understand this situation. Dale

 

[Tripper]

I miss intimacy. My beautiful man passed away almost 3 years ago. He had health issues before that. The hugs, kisses and most of all the laughter sustained me through some dark experiences.
I'd love to have fire and excitement in my life again.
I see from the comments that others feel the same but are wary. That has been the response from a couple of guys I reached out to.
The world feels greyer than it needs to be.

 

[Bianca]

A sensational life between the sheets isn't just for the young - seniors can have a steamy love life, too! At the Seniors Discount Club, we believe life's greatest pleasures can and should be enjoyed well into our golden years. In our two-and-a-half years of existence, we’ve published a lot of content on a range of topics, but one topic that we have barely broached is the sex life of older Australians, and through research conducted online by our team, we’ve found that we are indeed not alone. There are very few websites out there that talk about sex when you’re over sixty, and we want to break that stigma.

View attachment 18903

Keep the fire alive. Image source: Shutterstock.

Now, we know talking about sex isn’t for everyone. So, if this type of content just isn’t for you, in every newsletter, if we write about expert tips and tricks to help seniors keep their love lives sizzling, we will, of course, give a warning so you don’t click and read an article if it’s not in line with your values! So take this as your final warning, members. If you don’t want to read about sex, I recommend reading some other content we’ve produced this week. There’s a bunch of fascinating lifestyle content out at the moment, so why don’t you head over to our lifestyle forum here?

Now, let’s dive into it, shall we? Rediscovering intimacy is essential for maintaining happiness and connection between two people. So, it's no wonder that a whopping 76% of adults aged 65 to 80 consider romantic relationships and sex an essential part of their lives, according to the National Poll on Healthy Ageing.

Please note, members: The above national poll is actually an American one because, funnily enough, we couldn’t find ANY up-to-date surveys on the sex life of Australians over sixty… The most updated content on sex in your senior years was an article about ‘Getting on and still getting it on: a guide to older singles, dating and sex’ by The Sydney Morning Herald in 2015. So I guess, all the more reason I should be writing this.

I know you folks will agree that with age comes wisdom, and seniors boast a wealth of experience to draw on in their everyday lives, but perhaps, their bedroom lives are a little less golden and maybe a little more olden than they’d like them to be. So below, I’m going to explore some essential factors in maintaining a healthy, exciting sex life into your 60s, 70s and beyond.

Embracing physical changes and overcoming challenges

Our bodies naturally undergo various changes as we age, and our health is likely to encounter a few bumps along the road. However, it's crucial to remember that many physical issues can be managed or even conquered to ensure satisfying intimate relationships.

For both men and women, a decline in hormone levels, reduced stamina, and other health conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease can impact their intimate lives. But fear not! By staying in regular communication with your doctor, getting recommendations for medication or supplements, and following a healthy lifestyle with a well-balanced diet and exercise, you can work to overcome these challenges.

For men, supplements like vitamin D, red ginseng, l-arginine, and l-carnitine are great natural supplements for erectile dysfunction symptoms. However, as with everything, we recommend talking to a doctor before stocking up.

As for women, there are so many different kinds of lubricants on the market to help with the hormonal changes you have experienced and the difficulty that comes with natural lubrication. It’s best to avoid all the fancy lubricants (unless they are what you prefer!) and stick to more organic, natural lubricants. You can find these at Chemist Warehouse and even Coles for under $15.

It’s true, couples that communicate can conquer (the bedroom)

An open, honest, and playful approach to communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Discuss your concerns, anxieties, desires, and boundaries with your sexual partner, making sure to listen with understanding and without judgement.

Sex doesn’t have to be serious. You can laugh together and make communication an ongoing, enjoyable aspect of your relationship. After all, it’s one of the most natural things humans are made to do, and just because you’re a little older doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy reaching the finish line (if you know what I mean).

Spice it up: Variety is the spice of life

We've all heard the saying, 'familiarity breeds contempt,' and the same can be true for the bedroom! Keep things fresh by changing your routine, trying new sexual positions or locations, experimenting with role-playing, or exploring other forms of physical touch and pleasure.

There is so much information out there about the best sexual positions for someone who is ageing, so don’t be afraid to do some research, and if this article goes well, and you’d like to hear more, I will write a lot more about what the experts recommend when it comes to well, positioning yourself, and making sure no-one gets injured.

Safety first

Now, as I said above that there is very little content out there that speaks about the sex life of Australians over sixty, the exception to that is a recently published study that revealed cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis are increasing among older women in Australia at a faster rate than among younger women. According to Jean Hailes for Women’s Health, ‘The issues are that many older women don’t see themselves at risk of STIs… They also probably missed out on the safer sex messages of the ‘80s and ‘90s because they might have been in long-term relationships at the time.’

Sex may be wonderful for your health, but ensuring the well-being of yourself and your partner is at the heart of a truly fulfilling intimacy. Be sure to always practise safe sex, use protection, engage in regular check-ups, and of course, stay honest with your partner and your doctor. I promise condoms have come a long way, and there are surprisingly some fun ones out there, members.

One thing I loved when reading through the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health website when they were discussing the increase in STIs in older women, was this:

‘Instead of moving into an asexual [the experience of no sexual feelings or desires] old age – as society has always assumed older people would do – these women have carried the sexual freedom from their youth into middle and older age.’

‘When you add divorce, death of a partner, online dating as well as erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra into the mix, today’s older women find themselves living in an entirely new sexual landscape to that of their mothers or grandmothers.’

So, folks, there’s no doubt times have changed. If you aren’t having monogamous sex with a single partner and instead are engaging in a more casual sex setting, it is crucial to practice safe sex.

Our golden years should be a time to cherish and enjoy all aspects of life, including the bond that comes with a passionate and intimate connection. So, members, keep that fire burning - you've earned it!

If you enjoyed or strongly disliked reading this article, I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments below. Perhaps there’s a reason this topic isn’t written about often; we were just hoping we could break the stigma.

If we do get some positive feedback, then keep your eyes peeled as we dive into more in-depth discussions of these tips because there is so much more we could all learn about maintaining a sizzling and satisfying relationship well into our senior years!

Thanks for believing that Seniors are the same as Juniors or any one else on the planet - life does not need to change with age.

 

[Dennis]

Thanks, Maddy for your article, my wife and I had a wonderful sex life even into the early Eighties, we only stopped when my wife was diagnosed with her second bout of cancer and I thought she would be in too much pain to enjoy our relationship, I miss her terrible and I have not had any type of sex since.

 

[Dezzie]

After being divorced for 13years, I have recently found my true soul mate and we have an absolutely amazing sex life. I never realised how wonderful it could be. We are both in our late 60’s and hope to continue enjoying each other, in all aspects, of our life for many many years. I would love to read more articles like this so please continue to enlighten us. Thank you so much for acknowledging the importance of all aspects of senior years.

 

[blondie27]

A sensational life between the sheets isn't just for the young - seniors can have a steamy love life, too! At the Seniors Discount Club, we believe life's greatest pleasures can and should be enjoyed well into our golden years. In our two-and-a-half years of existence, we’ve published a lot of content on a range of topics, but one topic that we have barely broached is the sex life of older Australians, and through research conducted online by our team, we’ve found that we are indeed not alone. There are very few websites out there that talk about sex when you’re over sixty, and we want to break that stigma.

View attachment 18903

Keep the fire alive. Image source: Shutterstock.

Now, we know talking about sex isn’t for everyone. So, if this type of content just isn’t for you, in every newsletter, if we write about expert tips and tricks to help seniors keep their love lives sizzling, we will, of course, give a warning so you don’t click and read an article if it’s not in line with your values! So take this as your final warning, members. If you don’t want to read about sex, I recommend reading some other content we’ve produced this week. There’s a bunch of fascinating lifestyle content out at the moment, so why don’t you head over to our lifestyle forum here?

Now, let’s dive into it, shall we? Rediscovering intimacy is essential for maintaining happiness and connection between two people. So, it's no wonder that a whopping 76% of adults aged 65 to 80 consider romantic relationships and sex an essential part of their lives, according to the National Poll on Healthy Ageing.

Please note, members: The above national poll is actually an American one because, funnily enough, we couldn’t find ANY up-to-date surveys on the sex life of Australians over sixty… The most updated content on sex in your senior years was an article about ‘Getting on and still getting it on: a guide to older singles, dating and sex’ by The Sydney Morning Herald in 2015. So I guess, all the more reason I should be writing this.

I know you folks will agree that with age comes wisdom, and seniors boast a wealth of experience to draw on in their everyday lives, but perhaps, their bedroom lives are a little less golden and maybe a little more olden than they’d like them to be. So below, I’m going to explore some essential factors in maintaining a healthy, exciting sex life into your 60s, 70s and beyond.

Embracing physical changes and overcoming challenges

Our bodies naturally undergo various changes as we age, and our health is likely to encounter a few bumps along the road. However, it's crucial to remember that many physical issues can be managed or even conquered to ensure satisfying intimate relationships.

For both men and women, a decline in hormone levels, reduced stamina, and other health conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease can impact their intimate lives. But fear not! By staying in regular communication with your doctor, getting recommendations for medication or supplements, and following a healthy lifestyle with a well-balanced diet and exercise, you can work to overcome these challenges.

For men, supplements like vitamin D, red ginseng, l-arginine, and l-carnitine are great natural supplements for erectile dysfunction symptoms. However, as with everything, we recommend talking to a doctor before stocking up.

As for women, there are so many different kinds of lubricants on the market to help with the hormonal changes you have experienced and the difficulty that comes with natural lubrication. It’s best to avoid all the fancy lubricants (unless they are what you prefer!) and stick to more organic, natural lubricants. You can find these at Chemist Warehouse and even Coles for under $15.

It’s true, couples that communicate can conquer (the bedroom)

An open, honest, and playful approach to communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Discuss your concerns, anxieties, desires, and boundaries with your sexual partner, making sure to listen with understanding and without judgement.

Sex doesn’t have to be serious. You can laugh together and make communication an ongoing, enjoyable aspect of your relationship. After all, it’s one of the most natural things humans are made to do, and just because you’re a little older doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy reaching the finish line (if you know what I mean).

Spice it up: Variety is the spice of life

We've all heard the saying, 'familiarity breeds contempt,' and the same can be true for the bedroom! Keep things fresh by changing your routine, trying new sexual positions or locations, experimenting with role-playing, or exploring other forms of physical touch and pleasure.

There is so much information out there about the best sexual positions for someone who is ageing, so don’t be afraid to do some research, and if this article goes well, and you’d like to hear more, I will write a lot more about what the experts recommend when it comes to well, positioning yourself, and making sure no-one gets injured.

Safety first

Now, as I said above that there is very little content out there that speaks about the sex life of Australians over sixty, the exception to that is a recently published study that revealed cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis are increasing among older women in Australia at a faster rate than among younger women. According to Jean Hailes for Women’s Health, ‘The issues are that many older women don’t see themselves at risk of STIs… They also probably missed out on the safer sex messages of the ‘80s and ‘90s because they might have been in long-term relationships at the time.’

Sex may be wonderful for your health, but ensuring the well-being of yourself and your partner is at the heart of a truly fulfilling intimacy. Be sure to always practise safe sex, use protection, engage in regular check-ups, and of course, stay honest with your partner and your doctor. I promise condoms have come a long way, and there are surprisingly some fun ones out there, members.

One thing I loved when reading through the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health website when they were discussing the increase in STIs in older women, was this:

‘Instead of moving into an asexual [the experience of no sexual feelings or desires] old age – as society has always assumed older people would do – these women have carried the sexual freedom from their youth into middle and older age.’

‘When you add divorce, death of a partner, online dating as well as erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra into the mix, today’s older women find themselves living in an entirely new sexual landscape to that of their mothers or grandmothers.’

So, folks, there’s no doubt times have changed. If you aren’t having monogamous sex with a single partner and instead are engaging in a more casual sex setting, it is crucial to practice safe sex.

Our golden years should be a time to cherish and enjoy all aspects of life, including the bond that comes with a passionate and intimate connection. So, members, keep that fire burning - you've earned it!

If you enjoyed or strongly disliked reading this article, I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments below. Perhaps there’s a reason this topic isn’t written about often; we were just hoping we could break the stigma.

If we do get some positive feedback, then keep your eyes peeled as we dive into more in-depth discussions of these tips because there is so much more we could all learn about mg a sizzling and satisfying relationship well into our senior years!s

Great article I am in a relationship after being with my late husband for 40 years and yes it scary but I don't have any regrets.

 

[Powhatan]

A sensational life between the sheets isn't just for the young - seniors can have a steamy love life, too! At the Seniors Discount Club, we believe life's greatest pleasures can and should be enjoyed well into our golden years. In our two-and-a-half years of existence, we’ve published a lot of content on a range of topics, but one topic that we have barely broached is the sex life of older Australians, and through research conducted online by our team, we’ve found that we are indeed not alone. There are very few websites out there that talk about sex when you’re over sixty, and we want to break that stigma.

View attachment 18903

Keep the fire alive. Image source: Shutterstock.

Now, we know talking about sex isn’t for everyone. So, if this type of content just isn’t for you, in every newsletter, if we write about expert tips and tricks to help seniors keep their love lives sizzling, we will, of course, give a warning so you don’t click and read an article if it’s not in line with your values! So take this as your final warning, members. If you don’t want to read about sex, I recommend reading some other content we’ve produced this week. There’s a bunch of fascinating lifestyle content out at the moment, so why don’t you head over to our lifestyle forum here?

Now, let’s dive into it, shall we? Rediscovering intimacy is essential for maintaining happiness and connection between two people. So, it's no wonder that a whopping 76% of adults aged 65 to 80 consider romantic relationships and sex an essential part of their lives, according to the National Poll on Healthy Ageing.

Please note, members: The above national poll is actually an American one because, funnily enough, we couldn’t find ANY up-to-date surveys on the sex life of Australians over sixty… The most updated content on sex in your senior years was an article about ‘Getting on and still getting it on: a guide to older singles, dating and sex’ by The Sydney Morning Herald in 2015. So I guess, all the more reason I should be writing this.

I know you folks will agree that with age comes wisdom, and seniors boast a wealth of experience to draw on in their everyday lives, but perhaps, their bedroom lives are a little less golden and maybe a little more olden than they’d like them to be. So below, I’m going to explore some essential factors in maintaining a healthy, exciting sex life into your 60s, 70s and beyond.

Embracing physical changes and overcoming challenges

Our bodies naturally undergo various changes as we age, and our health is likely to encounter a few bumps along the road. However, it's crucial to remember that many physical issues can be managed or even conquered to ensure satisfying intimate relationships.

For both men and women, a decline in hormone levels, reduced stamina, and other health conditions such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease can impact their intimate lives. But fear not! By staying in regular communication with your doctor, getting recommendations for medication or supplements, and following a healthy lifestyle with a well-balanced diet and exercise, you can work to overcome these challenges.

For men, supplements like vitamin D, red ginseng, l-arginine, and l-carnitine are great natural supplements for erectile dysfunction symptoms. However, as with everything, we recommend talking to a doctor before stocking up.

As for women, there are so many different kinds of lubricants on the market to help with the hormonal changes you have experienced and the difficulty that comes with natural lubrication. It’s best to avoid all the fancy lubricants (unless they are what you prefer!) and stick to more organic, natural lubricants. You can find these at Chemist Warehouse and even Coles for under $15.

It’s true, couples that communicate can conquer (the bedroom)

An open, honest, and playful approach to communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Discuss your concerns, anxieties, desires, and boundaries with your sexual partner, making sure to listen with understanding and without judgement.

Sex doesn’t have to be serious. You can laugh together and make communication an ongoing, enjoyable aspect of your relationship. After all, it’s one of the most natural things humans are made to do, and just because you’re a little older doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy reaching the finish line (if you know what I mean).

Spice it up: Variety is the spice of life

We've all heard the saying, 'familiarity breeds contempt,' and the same can be true for the bedroom! Keep things fresh by changing your routine, trying new sexual positions or locations, experimenting with role-playing, or exploring other forms of physical touch and pleasure.

There is so much information out there about the best sexual positions for someone who is ageing, so don’t be afraid to do some research, and if this article goes well, and you’d like to hear more, I will write a lot more about what the experts recommend when it comes to well, positioning yourself, and making sure no-one gets injured.

Safety first

Now, as I said above that there is very little content out there that speaks about the sex life of Australians over sixty, the exception to that is a recently published study that revealed cases of chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis are increasing among older women in Australia at a faster rate than among younger women. According to Jean Hailes for Women’s Health, ‘The issues are that many older women don’t see themselves at risk of STIs… They also probably missed out on the safer sex messages of the ‘80s and ‘90s because they might have been in long-term relationships at the time.’

Sex may be wonderful for your health, but ensuring the well-being of yourself and your partner is at the heart of a truly fulfilling intimacy. Be sure to always practise safe sex, use protection, engage in regular check-ups, and of course, stay honest with your partner and your doctor. I promise condoms have come a long way, and there are surprisingly some fun ones out there, members.

One thing I loved when reading through the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health website when they were discussing the increase in STIs in older women, was this:

‘Instead of moving into an asexual [the experience of no sexual feelings or desires] old age – as society has always assumed older people would do – these women have carried the sexual freedom from their youth into middle and older age.’

‘When you add divorce, death of a partner, online dating as well as erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra into the mix, today’s older women find themselves living in an entirely new sexual landscape to that of their mothers or grandmothers.’

So, folks, there’s no doubt times have changed. If you aren’t having monogamous sex with a single partner and instead are engaging in a more casual sex setting, it is crucial to practice safe sex.

Our golden years should be a time to cherish and enjoy all aspects of life, including the bond that comes with a passionate and intimate connection. So, members, keep that fire burning - you've earned it!

If you enjoyed or strongly disliked reading this article, I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments below. Perhaps there’s a reason this topic isn’t written about often; we were just hoping we could break the stigma.

If we do get some positive feedback, then keep your eyes peeled as we dive into more in-depth discussions of these tips because there is so much more we could all learn about maintaining a sizzling and satisfying relationship well into our senior years!

at our age it takes us all night what we use to do all night.

 

[Pink lion]

I have been friend zoned for longer than I can remember. (sigh) it seems that active listening is a definite no no "Your just my friend!" I don't think of you that way, plagues the lives of men everywhere. It's as if we need arrogant belligerent gruff speaking insensitive males to run workshops for us ha ha ha.

 

[goodmorning]

no thank I got traded in for a younger model after 40 years of marriage so I'm happy on my own

 

[starrysnan]

As we age our attitudes and experiences colour how we feel about many things in life. Having an understanding partner is a wonderful thing especially when illness, disability and things like arthritis seem to get in the way of a fulfilling sex life. I once read that sex is 95% in your head so don't forget to look at all options for an intimate relationship. If you have been hurt by someone in the past don't let that ruin the present. Maybe if you are alone look at volunteering options in the community. You might just meet someone special who is also lonely.

 

[Suzanne rose]

Great article and would be great to have a thread on this and for those that don't like the topic they can stay clear.

My hubby and I had an amazing love life and I have to say it got better with age.

Our 40s and 50s were the best . I wished I knew in my 20s what I did in my 40s .

We had intimate sex, afternoon delight sex and spontaneous sex.

Tried every position possible and the most important thing it wasn't just sex but making love.
I think it went to another level when our kids grew up and were not home as much.

Sadly over the last 3 years our sex life has gone down due mainly to my illness.

A book I read back to front years ago was Sutra karmen and this taught me alot .

I also talked to hubby to see what he liked and visa versa.

He loved spontaneous eg when he would be in the shower and I would join him , not planned.

I would play games . I remember one time we were at the movies and I told him to look in his jacket pocket... he found my panties it was things like this that kept fire going .