Thousands reveal top traits signifying someone is a ‘bad’ person
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Navigating the social waters of life can be tricky, especially as we age and our tolerance for insincerity and selfishness wanes.
It's important to surround ourselves with good people–those who enrich our lives, offer support and bring joy. However, sometimes we encounter individuals who may not have our best interests at heart.
Identifying these toxic people early on can save us a great deal of emotional energy and unnecessary trouble.
A discussion on social media has shed light on a particular trait that many agree is a telltale sign of a not-so-good person: the tendency to be selfishly transactional in relationships.
Thousands of replies in the conversation revealed that a dead giveaway of someone's unsavoury nature is their habit of constantly asking for favours without ever being willing to help others in return.
'Usually, when you stop helping them, they cut you out of their lives, too,' one user commented, highlighting the conditional nature of such relationships.
'The true mark of a person is how they treat someone who can do nothing for them.’
But how can you 'test' your friends or acquaintances to see if they truly value you for who you are rather than what you can do for them?
'Probably the biggest thing I judge people on is how they perceive and treat people who are “beneath” them. People of lower social status, people who serve them, people who they feel have nothing to offer them,' a woman wrote.
Others pointed out several other characteristics to watch out for.
'When they downplay your successes and make you feel small for things that bring you joy,' one said.
'It's a glaring sign if they never apologise or say thank you,' another wrote.
Other red flags to watch out for include when people who never admit to their mistakes or learn from them often lack empathy and self-awareness.
‘Never taking accountability for anything [is a sign],' one said.
'Self-accountability requires empathy to understand you hurt people.'
Another said, ‘Someone who can't admit when they are wrong. That means they don't think they should improve and therefore think themselves higher than they actually are.'
A man claimed people who gossip and speak negatively about others behind their backs were ‘bad’.
'This is the clearest sign that the person is all about himself and looking for selfish gain from character assassinating others without their knowledge and with lies and making up stories,' one said.
'Taking every opportunity to badmouth anyone who isn't in the room. Every time I've witnessed it, all I wonder is what they have to say about me when I'm not around. I don't think people who do this realise how off-putting it really is,' another added.
In a similar story, a clinical psychologist shared her insights on the early warning signs of narcissism, a trait that can damage relationships.
She also shared tips on how to cut ties with them, a process that can be emotionally taxing but ultimately liberating. You can read more about her insights here.
Have you ever dealt with a person who displayed this selfish trait? How did you handle the situation? Share your stories and advice in the comments below.
It's important to surround ourselves with good people–those who enrich our lives, offer support and bring joy. However, sometimes we encounter individuals who may not have our best interests at heart.
Identifying these toxic people early on can save us a great deal of emotional energy and unnecessary trouble.
A discussion on social media has shed light on a particular trait that many agree is a telltale sign of a not-so-good person: the tendency to be selfishly transactional in relationships.
Thousands of replies in the conversation revealed that a dead giveaway of someone's unsavoury nature is their habit of constantly asking for favours without ever being willing to help others in return.
What makes someone a ‘bad’ person? Credit: Shutterstock
'Usually, when you stop helping them, they cut you out of their lives, too,' one user commented, highlighting the conditional nature of such relationships.
'The true mark of a person is how they treat someone who can do nothing for them.’
But how can you 'test' your friends or acquaintances to see if they truly value you for who you are rather than what you can do for them?
'Probably the biggest thing I judge people on is how they perceive and treat people who are “beneath” them. People of lower social status, people who serve them, people who they feel have nothing to offer them,' a woman wrote.
Others pointed out several other characteristics to watch out for.
'When they downplay your successes and make you feel small for things that bring you joy,' one said.
'It's a glaring sign if they never apologise or say thank you,' another wrote.
Other red flags to watch out for include when people who never admit to their mistakes or learn from them often lack empathy and self-awareness.
‘Never taking accountability for anything [is a sign],' one said.
'Self-accountability requires empathy to understand you hurt people.'
Another said, ‘Someone who can't admit when they are wrong. That means they don't think they should improve and therefore think themselves higher than they actually are.'
A man claimed people who gossip and speak negatively about others behind their backs were ‘bad’.
'This is the clearest sign that the person is all about himself and looking for selfish gain from character assassinating others without their knowledge and with lies and making up stories,' one said.
'Taking every opportunity to badmouth anyone who isn't in the room. Every time I've witnessed it, all I wonder is what they have to say about me when I'm not around. I don't think people who do this realise how off-putting it really is,' another added.
In a similar story, a clinical psychologist shared her insights on the early warning signs of narcissism, a trait that can damage relationships.
She also shared tips on how to cut ties with them, a process that can be emotionally taxing but ultimately liberating. You can read more about her insights here.
