At the Seniors Discount Club, we understand that life has its ups and downs, and we're here to try to support you through them all.

One such experience that many go through is the desire to become a grandparent. In an era where people are starting families later in life, those longing to take up the gratifying role of a grandparent may be left feeling a bit in the lurch.

Take the story of this 55-year-old woman, for example, who is so eager to become a grandmother that she said it’s now driving her children in their 20s ‘mad’.

The woman in question, Julia Lawrence, found herself craving the joy and chaos of children after her nest emptied. As her kids went to university and pursued careers, she and her husband tried their best to adapt to a child-free life.

During a weekend holiday, this longing intensified when she spotted a miniature railroad with excited, happy children and their grandparents.

Envisioning her future family outings, she couldn't help but share her desire to bring her grandchildren to this perfect spot.

Julia said her ‘longing’ for grandchildren intensified after a holiday with her husband. Credit: Kampus Production/Pexels

Little did she know that her seemingly innocent dream would become a fervent wish and an ongoing frustration for her adult children in their 20s.

Despite being in relationships, they feel the pressure from their mother's relentless ‘subtle’ hints.

Julia’s desire to be a grandmother has only grown stronger over the years, even finding camaraderie in the humorous quips of actress Fay Ripley.

As Ripley joked about hiding contraception from her grown children, our 55-year-old protagonist found herself amused by the extremity of their shared desperation.

Julia said that although both her children are in relationships, having kids is not a priority for them. Credit: RDNE Stock project/Pexels

In today's world, first-time mothers are starting in their late twenties, early thirties or older, and adding to this pressure is the fact that some may not feel the urgency in starting a family.

However, there is a strong argument to be made for starting families younger. It’s considered (relatively) easier to bear children when the mother is younger, with the risks associated with pregnancy also low.

Julia said this should be taken with a grain of salt. She said: ‘There are plenty of 40-year-old mothers who have easy births, and likewise teenagers who have a terrible time.’

‘But on the whole, it’s fair to say that Mother Nature would prefer women to have their babies young,’ she claimed.

Julia’s daughter, Lois, admits that the pressure to have children is apparent but not yet overwhelming.

She acknowledges her mother's eagerness for grandchildren, her parents’ early parenthood stories, and their convictions that despite life's challenges, having children was the best decision they made.

However, Lois and her brother are not alone in their predicament. Many young adults today are prioritising career stability, homeownership, and financial security before considering starting a family.

These factors, combined with the increased cost of living, have shifted the average age of first-time parents in the UK and Australia to well into their 30s.

‘My boyfriend and I are enjoying our lives right now, with a big group of friends, going to festivals and weekends away. I’m in no rush to bring these carefree years to a halt. Plus, I don’t even know if I can have children,’ Lois said.

‘I know I would like them one day if I can. I just hope the hints don’t get pushier and pushier the older I get,’ she added.

So, for our hopeful grandma-to-be, the waiting game continues.

Key Takeaways

• Hopeful grandma-to-be, Julia Lawrence, expressed her strong desire to become a grandmother soon and shared her thoughts on the subject with humour and personal anecdotes.
• Lawrence's daughter, Lois, shared her perspective on her mother's wish to become a grandmother and admits feeling some pressure to reach certain milestones before starting a family.

We’d like to know your thoughts on this matter, members, so feel free to share them in the comments below! Is Julia being too pushy or is it all in good humour?

 

[Gsr]

While I can understand Julia’s desire to have grandchildren I don’t think she should be putting any pressure on her kids to have kids if they don’t feel ready. There are already too many unwanted kids in the world. Maybe Julia could become a stand in grandparent for a kid who doesn’t have any, or whose grandparents live too far away. Or maybe she should take this time just to enjoy some time with her husband.

 

[Observer]

It is wrong for this parent to put pressure on to her kids to have children just she can become a grandmother. It will happen when it happens, if it happens. As grown up adults we all have a right to live our lives as we see fit.

 

[Jen77au]

At the Seniors Discount Club, we understand that life has its ups and downs, and we're here to try to support you through them all.

One such experience that many go through is the desire to become a grandparent. In an era where people are starting families later in life, those longing to take up the gratifying role of a grandparent may be left feeling a bit in the lurch.

Take the story of this 55-year-old woman, for example, who is so eager to become a grandmother that she said it’s now driving her children in their 20s ‘mad’.

The woman in question, Julia Lawrence, found herself craving the joy and chaos of children after her nest emptied. As her kids went to university and pursued careers, she and her husband tried their best to adapt to a child-free life.

During a weekend holiday, this longing intensified when she spotted a miniature railroad with excited, happy children and their grandparents.

Envisioning her future family outings, she couldn't help but share her desire to bring her grandchildren to this perfect spot.

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Julia said her ‘longing’ for grandchildren intensified after a holiday with her husband. Credit: Kampus Production/Pexels

Little did she know that her seemingly innocent dream would become a fervent wish and an ongoing frustration for her adult children in their 20s.

Despite being in relationships, they feel the pressure from their mother's relentless ‘subtle’ hints.

Julia’s desire to be a grandmother has only grown stronger over the years, even finding camaraderie in the humorous quips of actress Fay Ripley.

As Ripley joked about hiding contraception from her grown children, our 55-year-old protagonist found herself amused by the extremity of their shared desperation.

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Julia said that although both her children are in relationships, having kids is not a priority for them. Credit: RDNE Stock project/Pexels

In today's world, first-time mothers are starting in their late twenties, early thirties or older, and adding to this pressure is the fact that some may not feel the urgency in starting a family.

However, there is a strong argument to be made for starting families younger. It’s considered (relatively) easier to bear children when the mother is younger, with the risks associated with pregnancy also low.

Julia said this should be taken with a grain of salt. She said: ‘There are plenty of 40-year-old mothers who have easy births, and likewise teenagers who have a terrible time.’

‘But on the whole, it’s fair to say that Mother Nature would prefer women to have their babies young,’ she claimed.

Julia’s daughter, Lois, admits that the pressure to have children is apparent but not yet overwhelming.

She acknowledges her mother's eagerness for grandchildren, her parents’ early parenthood stories, and their convictions that despite life's challenges, having children was the best decision they made.

However, Lois and her brother are not alone in their predicament. Many young adults today are prioritising career stability, homeownership, and financial security before considering starting a family.

These factors, combined with the increased cost of living, have shifted the average age of first-time parents in the UK and Australia to well into their 30s.

‘My boyfriend and I are enjoying our lives right now, with a big group of friends, going to festivals and weekends away. I’m in no rush to bring these carefree years to a halt. Plus, I don’t even know if I can have children,’ Lois said.

‘I know I would like them one day if I can. I just hope the hints don’t get pushier and pushier the older I get,’ she added.

So, for our hopeful grandma-to-be, the waiting game continues.

Key Takeaways

• Hopeful grandma-to-be, Julia Lawrence, expressed her strong desire to become a grandmother soon and shared her thoughts on the subject with humour and personal anecdotes.
• Lawrence's daughter, Lois, shared her perspective on her mother's wish to become a grandmother and admits feeling some pressure to reach certain milestones before starting a family.

We’d like to know your thoughts on this matter, members, so feel free to share them in the comments below! Is Julia being too pushy or is it all in good humour?

I feel her kids pain. Even though my brother has gifted our parents with grandchildren, I haven't been able to physically have skinkids, as I call them.
I'm 46 and it's only in the past few months that I have been able to let go of the guilt and shame caused by my mother because I haven't given her any. No matter how many time I told her she had my niece and nephew from my brotherit just wasn't the same because I'm her only daughter!

She would even tell strangers and sales assistants in stores about her grandchildren, but always added but I'm not getting any from her, she only gets more dogs!

It has always been difficult living up to her standards, but even when she knew that I couldn't physically have them, the gibe was felt much deeper.

I actually got the strength within myself at the start of this year to ask her to stop. I explained how much it hurt when she did those things and fortunately,it hasn't happened again.

It helped that I explained why I hold my furbabies so close to my heart. 1. All animals deserve to be loved. 2. They ARE my kids. 3. My dogs have always helped me through the many rough patches I've had in life with my mental health issues. They've always given me unconditional love without question or doing it for their benefit, unlike some people.
So I know you can't wait to meet your grandchildren when they arrive, but please take your own children's feelings into consideration as you may be hurting them in ways you aren't aware of.

 

[Observer]

I feel her kids pain. Even though my brother has gifted our parents with grandchildren, I haven't been able to physically have skinkids, as I call them.
I'm 46 and it's only in the past few months that I have been able to let go of the guilt and shame caused by my mother because I haven't given her any. No matter how many time I told her she had my niece and nephew from my brotherit just wasn't the same because I'm her only daughter!

She would even tell strangers and sales assistants in stores about her grandchildren, but always added but I'm not getting any from her, she only gets more dogs!

It has always been difficult living up to her standards, but even when she knew that I couldn't physically have them, the gibe was felt much deeper.

I actually got the strength within myself at the start of this year to ask her to stop. I explained how much it hurt when she did those things and fortunately,it hasn't happened again.

It helped that I explained why I hold my furbabies so close to my heart. 1. All animals deserve to be loved. 2. They ARE my kids. 3. My dogs have always helped me through the many rough patches I've had in life with my mental health issues. They've always given me unconditional love without question or doing it for their benefit, unlike some people.
So I know you can't wait to meet your grandchildren when they arrive, but please take your own children's feelings into consideration as you may be hurting them in ways you aren't aware of.

Your right to decide !!!

 

[Col@45]

At the Seniors Discount Club, we understand that life has its ups and downs, and we're here to try to support you through them all.

One such experience that many go through is the desire to become a grandparent. In an era where people are starting families later in life, those longing to take up the gratifying role of a grandparent may be left feeling a bit in the lurch.

Take the story of this 55-year-old woman, for example, who is so eager to become a grandmother that she said it’s now driving her children in their 20s ‘mad’.

The woman in question, Julia Lawrence, found herself craving the joy and chaos of children after her nest emptied. As her kids went to university and pursued careers, she and her husband tried their best to adapt to a child-free life.

During a weekend holiday, this longing intensified when she spotted a miniature railroad with excited, happy children and their grandparents.

Envisioning her future family outings, she couldn't help but share her desire to bring her grandchildren to this perfect spot.

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Julia said her ‘longing’ for grandchildren intensified after a holiday with her husband. Credit: Kampus Production/Pexels

Little did she know that her seemingly innocent dream would become a fervent wish and an ongoing frustration for her adult children in their 20s.

Despite being in relationships, they feel the pressure from their mother's relentless ‘subtle’ hints.

Julia’s desire to be a grandmother has only grown stronger over the years, even finding camaraderie in the humorous quips of actress Fay Ripley.

As Ripley joked about hiding contraception from her grown children, our 55-year-old protagonist found herself amused by the extremity of their shared desperation.

View attachment 22224

Julia said that although both her children are in relationships, having kids is not a priority for them. Credit: RDNE Stock project/Pexels

In today's world, first-time mothers are starting in their late twenties, early thirties or older, and adding to this pressure is the fact that some may not feel the urgency in starting a family.

However, there is a strong argument to be made for starting families younger. It’s considered (relatively) easier to bear children when the mother is younger, with the risks associated with pregnancy also low.

Julia said this should be taken with a grain of salt. She said: ‘There are plenty of 40-year-old mothers who have easy births, and likewise teenagers who have a terrible time.’

‘But on the whole, it’s fair to say that Mother Nature would prefer women to have their babies young,’ she claimed.

Julia’s daughter, Lois, admits that the pressure to have children is apparent but not yet overwhelming.

She acknowledges her mother's eagerness for grandchildren, her parents’ early parenthood stories, and their convictions that despite life's challenges, having children was the best decision they made.

However, Lois and her brother are not alone in their predicament. Many young adults today are prioritising career stability, homeownership, and financial security before considering starting a family.

These factors, combined with the increased cost of living, have shifted the average age of first-time parents in the UK and Australia to well into their 30s.

‘My boyfriend and I are enjoying our lives right now, with a big group of friends, going to festivals and weekends away. I’m in no rush to bring these carefree years to a halt. Plus, I don’t even know if I can have children,’ Lois said.

‘I know I would like them one day if I can. I just hope the hints don’t get pushier and pushier the older I get,’ she added.

So, for our hopeful grandma-to-be, the waiting game continues.

Key Takeaways

• Hopeful grandma-to-be, Julia Lawrence, expressed her strong desire to become a grandmother soon and shared her thoughts on the subject with humour and personal anecdotes.
• Lawrence's daughter, Lois, shared her perspective on her mother's wish to become a grandmother and admits feeling some pressure to reach certain milestones before starting a family.

We’d like to know your thoughts on this matter, members, so feel free to share them in the comments below! Is Julia being too pushy or is it all in good humour?

This eager-to-be grandmother could help so many children who unfortunately don't have any grandparents. Volunteering in an organisation where children are involved would be very rewarding too.

 

[Coralea]

At the Seniors Discount Club, we understand that life has its ups and downs, and we're here to try to support you through them all.

One such experience that many go through is the desire to become a grandparent. In an era where people are starting families later in life, those longing to take up the gratifying role of a grandparent may be left feeling a bit in the lurch.

Take the story of this 55-year-old woman, for example, who is so eager to become a grandmother that she said it’s now driving her children in their 20s ‘mad’.

The woman in question, Julia Lawrence, found herself craving the joy and chaos of children after her nest emptied. As her kids went to university and pursued careers, she and her husband tried their best to adapt to a child-free life.

During a weekend holiday, this longing intensified when she spotted a miniature railroad with excited, happy children and their grandparents.

Envisioning her future family outings, she couldn't help but share her desire to bring her grandchildren to this perfect spot.

View attachment 22223

Julia said her ‘longing’ for grandchildren intensified after a holiday with her husband. Credit: Kampus Production/Pexels

Little did she know that her seemingly innocent dream would become a fervent wish and an ongoing frustration for her adult children in their 20s.

Despite being in relationships, they feel the pressure from their mother's relentless ‘subtle’ hints.

Julia’s desire to be a grandmother has only grown stronger over the years, even finding camaraderie in the humorous quips of actress Fay Ripley.

As Ripley joked about hiding contraception from her grown children, our 55-year-old protagonist found herself amused by the extremity of their shared desperation.

View attachment 22224

Julia said that although both her children are in relationships, having kids is not a priority for them. Credit: RDNE Stock project/Pexels

In today's world, first-time mothers are starting in their late twenties, early thirties or older, and adding to this pressure is the fact that some may not feel the urgency in starting a family.

However, there is a strong argument to be made for starting families younger. It’s considered (relatively) easier to bear children when the mother is younger, with the risks associated with pregnancy also low.

Julia said this should be taken with a grain of salt. She said: ‘There are plenty of 40-year-old mothers who have easy births, and likewise teenagers who have a terrible time.’

‘But on the whole, it’s fair to say that Mother Nature would prefer women to have their babies young,’ she claimed.

Julia’s daughter, Lois, admits that the pressure to have children is apparent but not yet overwhelming.

She acknowledges her mother's eagerness for grandchildren, her parents’ early parenthood stories, and their convictions that despite life's challenges, having children was the best decision they made.

However, Lois and her brother are not alone in their predicament. Many young adults today are prioritising career stability, homeownership, and financial security before considering starting a family.

These factors, combined with the increased cost of living, have shifted the average age of first-time parents in the UK and Australia to well into their 30s.

‘My boyfriend and I are enjoying our lives right now, with a big group of friends, going to festivals and weekends away. I’m in no rush to bring these carefree years to a halt. Plus, I don’t even know if I can have children,’ Lois said.

‘I know I would like them one day if I can. I just hope the hints don’t get pushier and pushier the older I get,’ she added.

So, for our hopeful grandma-to-be, the waiting game continues.

Key Takeaways

• Hopeful grandma-to-be, Julia Lawrence, expressed her strong desire to become a grandmother soon and shared her thoughts on the subject with humour and personal anecdotes.
• Lawrence's daughter, Lois, shared her perspective on her mother's wish to become a grandmother and admits feeling some pressure to reach certain milestones before starting a family.

We’d like to know your thoughts on this matter, members, so feel free to share them in the comments below! Is Julia being too pushy or is it all in good humour?

Yes she is being too pushy, leave your children alone and let them have children when they are ready. If she wants to have children around her, go and get a job in and I childminding centre or taking family daycare.
It’s not fair to put pressure on her children to have children when they are not ready. I need to be financial enough to support the children in this day and age is very costly having children them up.
I’m a grandmother and a great grandmother and my children started before they were financial enough to have children, and now they struggle with the cost to bring them up paying all the bills.

 

[PattiB]

I’m not a grandmother & it doesn’t worry me at all. I only have one amazing son, & was married for many years before l felt ready to embark on motherhood. My mother in law drove me mad but my own mother accepted how l felt & didn’t say a word.
Lay off your adult children & let them live their lives as they see fit!

 

[Suzanne rose]

It is over stepping boundaries pressuring your children to have babies.
Couples these days are having children at a later stage , choosing to become more financial or wanting to spend time together before adding to their family .

I would hate to see once her kids do end up having children, I think she will be very controlling and interfering.

Things change, life styles change.

Things were different for our parents and their parents.

I have 19 grandchildren and it's pretty hard spreading ourselves between them.

I don't tell my kids what to do but they know I'm here if they need advice or help

 

[maxesmum]

I feel her kids pain. Even though my brother has gifted our parents with grandchildren, I haven't been able to physically have skinkids, as I call them.
I'm 46 and it's only in the past few months that I have been able to let go of the guilt and shame caused by my mother because I haven't given her any. No matter how many time I told her she had my niece and nephew from my brotherit just wasn't the same because I'm her only daughter!

She would even tell strangers and sales assistants in stores about her grandchildren, but always added but I'm not getting any from her, she only gets more dogs!

It has always been difficult living up to her standards, but even when she knew that I couldn't physically have them, the gibe was felt much deeper.

I actually got the strength within myself at the start of this year to ask her to stop. I explained how much it hurt when she did those things and fortunately,it hasn't happened again.

It helped that I explained why I hold my furbabies so close to my heart. 1. All animals deserve to be loved. 2. They ARE my kids. 3. My dogs have always helped me through the many rough patches I've had in life with my mental health issues. They've always given me unconditional love without question or doing it for their benefit, unlike some people.
So I know you can't wait to meet your grandchildren when they arrive, but please take your own children's feelings into consideration as you may be hurting them in ways you aren't aware of.

I’m so sorry. Your mother should be ashamed of herself and be proud of the daughter she has,not the uterus she carries! You sound like a lovely woman.

 

[featherfour]

I understand her yearning to share the love, but it's not her place to tell anybody else to start a family. Not even her kids. Maybe she could volunteer to help at a school or kindergarten, or perhaps even foster a child who needs some love and security.

 

[Luckyus]

At the Seniors Discount Club, we understand that life has its ups and downs, and we're here to try to support you through them all.

One such experience that many go through is the desire to become a grandparent. In an era where people are starting families later in life, those longing to take up the gratifying role of a grandparent may be left feeling a bit in the lurch.

Take the story of this 55-year-old woman, for example, who is so eager to become a grandmother that she said it’s now driving her children in their 20s ‘mad’.

The woman in question, Julia Lawrence, found herself craving the joy and chaos of children after her nest emptied. As her kids went to university and pursued careers, she and her husband tried their best to adapt to a child-free life.

During a weekend holiday, this longing intensified when she spotted a miniature railroad with excited, happy children and their grandparents.

Envisioning her future family outings, she couldn't help but share her desire to bring her grandchildren to this perfect spot.

View attachment 22223

Julia said her ‘longing’ for grandchildren intensified after a holiday with her husband. Credit: Kampus Production/Pexels

Little did she know that her seemingly innocent dream would become a fervent wish and an ongoing frustration for her adult children in their 20s.

Despite being in relationships, they feel the pressure from their mother's relentless ‘subtle’ hints.

Julia’s desire to be a grandmother has only grown stronger over the years, even finding camaraderie in the humorous quips of actress Fay Ripley.

As Ripley joked about hiding contraception from her grown children, our 55-year-old protagonist found herself amused by the extremity of their shared desperation.

View attachment 22224

Julia said that although both her children are in relationships, having kids is not a priority for them. Credit: RDNE Stock project/Pexels

In today's world, first-time mothers are starting in their late twenties, early thirties or older, and adding to this pressure is the fact that some may not feel the urgency in starting a family.

However, there is a strong argument to be made for starting families younger. It’s considered (relatively) easier to bear children when the mother is younger, with the risks associated with pregnancy also low.

Julia said this should be taken with a grain of salt. She said: ‘There are plenty of 40-year-old mothers who have easy births, and likewise teenagers who have a terrible time.’

‘But on the whole, it’s fair to say that Mother Nature would prefer women to have their babies young,’ she claimed.

Julia’s daughter, Lois, admits that the pressure to have children is apparent but not yet overwhelming.

She acknowledges her mother's eagerness for grandchildren, her parents’ early parenthood stories, and their convictions that despite life's challenges, having children was the best decision they made.

However, Lois and her brother are not alone in their predicament. Many young adults today are prioritising career stability, homeownership, and financial security before considering starting a family.

These factors, combined with the increased cost of living, have shifted the average age of first-time parents in the UK and Australia to well into their 30s.

‘My boyfriend and I are enjoying our lives right now, with a big group of friends, going to festivals and weekends away. I’m in no rush to bring these carefree years to a halt. Plus, I don’t even know if I can have children,’ Lois said.

‘I know I would like them one day if I can. I just hope the hints don’t get pushier and pushier the older I get,’ she added.

So, for our hopeful grandma-to-be, the waiting game continues.

Key Takeaways

• Hopeful grandma-to-be, Julia Lawrence, expressed her strong desire to become a grandmother soon and shared her thoughts on the subject with humour and personal anecdotes.
• Lawrence's daughter, Lois, shared her perspective on her mother's wish to become a grandmother and admits feeling some pressure to reach certain milestones before starting a family.

We’d like to know your thoughts on this matter, members, so feel free to share them in the comments below! Is Julia being too pushy or is it all in good humour?

My mother told my sisters when they got married it was entirely their choice as to whether wanted the patter of tiy feet, bearing in mind I have four brothers and three sisters, you can understand her sentiments.

 

[Pat T]

One of my daughters and her husband said they weren’t having kids. Just before they left to backpack through Europe her mother-in-law said to me to tell them to start a family when they got back. I told her that I was not the one having to rear a young family so would not interfere in their decisions. After 13 years they had 3 children, all now working. This Christmas the parents, 3 kids & their partners, my husband and I are all going together on a cruise.

 

[Jen77au]

Your right to decide !!!

Thank you! It took me too long to realise that I control my life, nobody else.

 

[Jen77au]

I’m so sorry. Your mother should be ashamed of herself and be proud of the daughter she has,not the uterus she carries! You sound like a lovely woman.

Awww, thank you! It's only been the last few months that I am proud of myself too. Since creating some distance between us and having a supportive partner telling me that I can do anything, I am starting my own business! It's a dream I've had forever but have always been knocked down for it... Not anymore! Dog lovers stay tuned!

 

[Mindygirl12022]

It is wrong for this parent to put pressure on to her kids to have children just she can become a grandmother. It will happen when it happens, if it happens. As grown up adults we all have a right to live our lives as we see fit.

These days young adults live very different lives than we did. They have the freedom to enjoy their lives before committing to having a family. I remember the expectations when I was young that you would 'get married and have kids' and many followed this not really wanting to, with some bad results. This lady should leave them alone.

 

[KSS]

This woman is the epitome of self-absorbed selfishness. She needs to get over herself and shut up.

On the other hand, she and her husband could apply to become foster parents for kids who need temporary care.

Either way, even if her daughter does have kids, they will belong to her daughter, not her. She just needs to back off.

 

[Jen77au]

This woman is the epitome of self-absorbed selfishness. She needs to get over herself and shut up.

On the other hand, she and her husband could apply to become foster parents for kids who need temporary care.

Either way, even if her daughter does have kids, they will belong to her daughter, not her. She just needs to back off.

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[SGH]

Seems to me she waited until her mid 30s to have children, what gives her the right to start on them in their 20s.
Volunteer your services to an agency with children that need hugs, if you aren't willing to do that until you have grandchildren of your own, you don't deserve them.