SDC members vote on first date etiquette: ‘Manners have flown the coop’
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Members,
Welcome to the results of another ‘Your Say Sunday’ poll! Last week we looked at dating and love, specifically, who should pay on the first date. You can find the poll here if you’d like to cast your vote.
So, what were the results?
In first place with 33 votes (41.8%) was ‘the person who asked the other out’. This is my personal vote too!
In second place, 31 members (39.2%) voted that the bill should be split. A nice and easy way to keep the peace!
In third place, which surprised some of our team, ‘men’ received 15 votes (19%).
And interestingly, no one voted that a woman should pay for the bill. Now is that chivalry or what, folks?
As always, there are some fantastic comments from members explaining their votes. While I cannot include all of them (you can read them on the poll), here are some standouts.
Member @Ian1: ‘In days gone by, when chivalry was valued, the man would always foot the bill, and do so with a smile on his face! I’m in favour of that habit continuing. There seems to be some thought in relation to the new buzzword ‘equality’ that the bill should be shared between both diners. When I plan a date, I plan to cover whatever it costs, including flowers, and certainly the complete dinner date. Cheers!’
Whereas member @Lily provided a very modern approach: ‘In this current financial difficulties, I think the first date should split the bill to see if the situation will go forth. I believe everyone should contribute to the expenses.’
Member @Ricci offered some insight into why men were more likely to pay: ‘Most of us on here come from a time when it was the boy asking the girl out. It was extremely rare for it to be the other way around, even if us girls might have wished it. You didn't want to get the reputation of being "fast". Instead, you would put yourself in his path, frequent his hangouts, talk to his mates and generally make yourself front and centre such that he had to "see" you!’
Oh, the things we do for love, eh?
Switching back to another perspective, member @Michael Kaff was kind enough to give us insight into one of his dating experiences:
‘If it's a "meet you" coffee, then I'm happy to pay, as a man. On a date, I would presume to pay… Old school. If I'm asked out, then she should want to pay and perhaps I might pay in any case, depending on the date. If I ask her out, my shout. No issue.’
‘Many, many years ago, on one of my "meet you for the first time" coffees, she was delayed, so SHE suggested that we meet later and have something to eat, instead of coffee.’
‘When the bill came, she didn't move or make any attempt to chip in or pay.’
‘Remember, this was the first time (and last time) we had ever met and off a dating site.’
‘I thought this was quite rude and a presumption on her part. No intention to pay for anything.’
‘In any other circumstance, a second date or if it was only coffee, I would pay automatically.’
Lastly, we want to send our best wishes to member @Janet g on her current dating journey, who said: ‘I have recently started “seeing someone”. He always insists on paying but I also still offer to pay especially if we go out to lunch (haven’t got to the dinner stage yet ). Fingers crossed.’
He sounds like a great fella!
It’s such a treat reading your replies so thank you to everyone who voted or commented. Keep your eyes peeled for another ‘Your Say Sunday’ poll, coming tomorrow!
Feel like these results or comments don’t represent your views on this? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Welcome to the results of another ‘Your Say Sunday’ poll! Last week we looked at dating and love, specifically, who should pay on the first date. You can find the poll here if you’d like to cast your vote.
So, what were the results?
The results are in! Credit: SDC
In first place with 33 votes (41.8%) was ‘the person who asked the other out’. This is my personal vote too!
In second place, 31 members (39.2%) voted that the bill should be split. A nice and easy way to keep the peace!
In third place, which surprised some of our team, ‘men’ received 15 votes (19%).
And interestingly, no one voted that a woman should pay for the bill. Now is that chivalry or what, folks?
As always, there are some fantastic comments from members explaining their votes. While I cannot include all of them (you can read them on the poll), here are some standouts.
Member @Ian1: ‘In days gone by, when chivalry was valued, the man would always foot the bill, and do so with a smile on his face! I’m in favour of that habit continuing. There seems to be some thought in relation to the new buzzword ‘equality’ that the bill should be shared between both diners. When I plan a date, I plan to cover whatever it costs, including flowers, and certainly the complete dinner date. Cheers!’
Whereas member @Lily provided a very modern approach: ‘In this current financial difficulties, I think the first date should split the bill to see if the situation will go forth. I believe everyone should contribute to the expenses.’
Member @Ricci offered some insight into why men were more likely to pay: ‘Most of us on here come from a time when it was the boy asking the girl out. It was extremely rare for it to be the other way around, even if us girls might have wished it. You didn't want to get the reputation of being "fast". Instead, you would put yourself in his path, frequent his hangouts, talk to his mates and generally make yourself front and centre such that he had to "see" you!’
Oh, the things we do for love, eh?
Switching back to another perspective, member @Michael Kaff was kind enough to give us insight into one of his dating experiences:
‘If it's a "meet you" coffee, then I'm happy to pay, as a man. On a date, I would presume to pay… Old school. If I'm asked out, then she should want to pay and perhaps I might pay in any case, depending on the date. If I ask her out, my shout. No issue.’
‘Many, many years ago, on one of my "meet you for the first time" coffees, she was delayed, so SHE suggested that we meet later and have something to eat, instead of coffee.’
‘When the bill came, she didn't move or make any attempt to chip in or pay.’
‘Remember, this was the first time (and last time) we had ever met and off a dating site.’
‘I thought this was quite rude and a presumption on her part. No intention to pay for anything.’
‘In any other circumstance, a second date or if it was only coffee, I would pay automatically.’
Lastly, we want to send our best wishes to member @Janet g on her current dating journey, who said: ‘I have recently started “seeing someone”. He always insists on paying but I also still offer to pay especially if we go out to lunch (haven’t got to the dinner stage yet ). Fingers crossed.’
He sounds like a great fella!
It’s such a treat reading your replies so thank you to everyone who voted or commented. Keep your eyes peeled for another ‘Your Say Sunday’ poll, coming tomorrow!
Feel like these results or comments don’t represent your views on this? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
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