'If I usually look after the dogs, what has changed?' Is he the bad guy for refusing to dogsit for his sister?
AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/--clapped--.
Am I unreasonable for refusing to dogsit for my sister after she got a puppy?
'Basically, my sister is going on a 2 week holiday in September and needs someone to look after her dog. She doesn't use kennels for a number of reasons and I have always looked after her dogs in the past when her and her boyfriend have gone away.'
'So, if I usually look after her dogs, what has changed?'
'The last time she went away and I had to watch her dogs would have been last year. At the time she had a 3 year old Rottweiler named Dexter and, our childhood dog, an 11 year old Yorkshire Terrier named Pudsey. This is fine, I used to live with both dogs when me and my sister lived with our parents; of course the yorkshire terrier since I was like 10 and the Rottweiler for a couple years before moving etc. Dexter was also our 3rd Rottweiler as a family so, I can handle the breed.'
'Since then, Pudsey has passed away and I adopted a rescue; a 7 year old Cane Corso named Roxie who is a saint. Roxie and and Dexter have met a couple times now and they get along well enough that I was still willing to dogsit for her. I WASN'T LOOKING FORWARD TO IT because, well, Dexter is a hassle. He's massive for one (weighs about 60kg to Roxies 40kg) and has literally endless energy. Energy he constantly redirects towards Roxie now. It can get too much for her but, I have ways to separate them when needed. Just to give her space.'
'That was until she started seriously considering getting another dog. Not just any dog but a puppy... So, upon hearing this, I told her "I am not watching 3 dogs, on my own. One of which is a 60kg handful, the other a puppy". And I was very clear, I put my foot down and outright told her and told my mum that I am not doing that. She can either wait A FEW MONTHS to get a new dog or can find a kennel for them.'
'Well, looks like they take me for a d***head as she now has a new chihuahua puppy. So? Looks like she's finding a kennel. Except my mum is adamant that I will still dogsit and that it isn't a big deal. They think because I work from home that, I have all the time to; baby sit a puppy, make sure Dexter isn't assaulting Roxie, walk them? I can't not walk them, it's 2 weeks. I walk Roxie for about 90 minutes a day (in the cooler weather) and I can't walk her and Dexter together? Nevermind a puppy in the mix?'
'"Why doesn't you mum watch one of them" In her defence, she works 2 jobs. On most days; she's out of them house from 8am to 8pm with a couple hours home in between. I see why she can't watch a dog on her own either. THAT DOESN'T MEAN I CAN WATCH 3? What about our dad? Well, our parents don't live together and his work schedule is a little unconventional. He essentially spends a week at work, living in, and then a week at home. He also lives about 6 hours away from my sister and 3 hours away from me so, for a number of reasons, I am the ONLY option.'
'I'm being made out as a bad guy as my mum holds all of the things she did for me in the 22 years since I was born. Asking me to do it for her and how cruel it would be for me to refuse.'
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