'I just needed to scream': This psychologist reveals one glaring red flag in her patient's affair

Betrayal is a bitter pill to swallow, especially from those we trust the most.

What happens when your professional life as a psychologist becomes a window into your tragedy?

This is the story of a psychologist who experienced a shocking twist of fate akin to a dramatic soap opera but with real-life consequences.


A psychologist, whose identity remained anonymous, shared her harrowing tale on the Toni and Ryan podcast, revealing how her world turned upside down after discovering her patient's secret affair with her husband.

'A patient of mine told me she was sleeping with a married man, and the guilt was eating her alive,' she prefaced.

'The patient said the man was going to leave his wife for her, but she was conflicted.'

As the psychologist listened to her patient's turmoil, she was unaware she was the unsuspecting wife in this love triangle.


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A psychologist's marriage collapsed after a shocking affair, leading to her anonymous confession. Image Credit: Pexels/Min An


'Later that week, my husband told me he's leaving me for a woman he's been sleeping with,' she continued.

The irony of the situation was as cruel as it was painful: she had been advising her patient on an affair that was destroying her marriage.

'My husband was having a fling with my patient, and I could not tell either of them—or anyone—because of confidentiality clauses, but I needed to tell someone. I just needed to scream.'

Her revelation was a stark reminder that sometimes we are too close to a situation to see the signs, or perhaps we see things in rose-coloured glasses.


The story sent shockwaves through the podcast's audience and beyond, expressing disbelief and anger towards the situation.

'What the f***,' podcast host Toni exclaimed.

'The other woman knew it was her, and that was her way of relieving the guilt,' one speculated.

'She told her boyfriend's wife without telling her.'

'There isn't a single universe in the multiverse where the patient didn't know her doctor is her lover's wife. Shame on her,' another commenter said.

'I don't know what's more shocking, the whole plot twist or the fact that a married man promised his mistress to leave his wife and he actually did it,' a third wrote.


This cautionary tale raised important questions about ethics and confidentiality in therapy.

The psychologist stuck with professional standards even as her marriage crumbled.

It's a reminder of the complex and often painful dilemmas faced by mental health professionals.

Beyond the professional implications, this story is a human one.

It's about love, betrayal, and the resilience needed to move forward when life takes an unexpected and painful turn.

It's also a wake-up call to pay attention to the red flags in our relationships, no matter how much we might want to ignore them.

No matter our age, we are not immune to the complexities of the heart.

It is also a testament to the strength we can find to heal and start anew.
Key Takeaways

  • An Australian psychologist was devastated to discover her patient was having an affair with her husband.
  • The psychologist failed to recognise the warning signs when her patient confessed about her guilt for being with a married man.
  • The patient's affair partner, who was the psychologist's husband, revealed his intention to leave his wife for his mistress.
  • The psychologist shared her tale on the Toni and Ryan podcast, which received widespread disbelief and condemnation from the audience.
Did you miss a red flag in a relationship before? How did you cope with a loved one's betrayal? We invite you to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.
 
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I think this is invented. The therapist would have to inform the patient as continuing treatment would be a conflict of interest.
 
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