Discover the simple mindset change that could drastically enhance your life, according to a psychotherapist
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In the quest for emotional freedom and a better quality of life, many of us have sought the help of therapists, read countless self-help books, and tried various techniques.
But what if the key to a happier, more fulfilling life could be achieved with just one simple change in the way we think?
This is the intriguing proposition put forward by Dilyse Diaz, 54, a seasoned psychotherapist.
Diaz, who has been in the field for over two decades, runs a private therapy practice and has recently gained popularity on social media, where she shares empowering mental health tips.
In one of her videos, she shared a technique that she claims could save you years of therapy. This tip has become quite popular, garnering over 5.2 million views and has sparked a lively discussion among viewers.
'What would you do if I told you that right now I could give you something that would undoubtedly improve the quality of your life and every relationship that you're in?' She asked in the video.
She then proceeded to reveal that the key to 'emotional freedom' is mastering your thoughts and emotions.
According to Diaz, the first step towards achieving this mastery is 'to never take what anybody else says or does personally'.
Because when we allow ourselves to be affected by others' actions or words, we relinquish control over our thoughts and emotions, becoming victims of external circumstances.
'Would you listen, and would you apply it? Or would you…stay stuck another year?'
Diaz advised setting boundaries and taking care of yourself instead of worrying about other people’s actions or words.
'If you're offended, sad, or depressed, and you say, "He makes me… She makes me…” you're not in charge of your thought world. You're not in charge of your emotions because you are a victim of what other people say and what other people do.'
To illustrate her point, Diaz presented a relatable scenario: a friend invites you over for dinner but then asks you to bring most of the food.
You can watch the full video below:
Video source: TikTok/@dilysediaz_lmft.
In such a situation, Diaz suggested that you have two choices. You can either choose to be offended and judge your friend for being rude, or you can manage your thoughts about the situation, set a boundary, and take care of yourself.
By choosing the latter, Diaz argued that you can maintain your peace and love for your friends, regardless of their expectations. This approach, she said, can be applied to any situation where you find yourself upset by someone else's actions or words.
'I can say: "No, I'm not interested in doing that. I'm not going to bring everything." And then I can still have love for [my friend],' she explained.
'I can still feel peaceful inside my body instead of all offended.'
'Manage your thoughts, never take things personally, and experience emotional freedom,' Diaz concluded.
'You can be happy and independent of what anyone else says, thinks, or does. That's freedom.'
The response to Diaz's video has been mixed, with some viewers expressing scepticism about the feasibility of controlling their thoughts and emotions.
'[That’s] tough because how “someone makes me feel” feels natural. I’m not sure how to control my emotions. Take a breath?' One person asked.
'Sounds great... But putting into practice? 100 [per cent] impossible,' another replied.
However, others have shared their own experiences of successfully implementing this technique, testifying to its transformative power.
'Not taking things personally is very powerful. I’ve gotten very skilled at it,' one shared.
While another added: 'As my therapist says, "Thoughts, feelings, facts." What are your thoughts about the situation, how do you feel about it, and what are the facts.'
'Learned this three years ago [while] working hard with my therapist, [who] was the best therapist I had, and my life has been different since,' a third shared.
What are your thoughts on this technique? Have you tried implementing it in your life? Share your experiences and insights with us in the comments below!
But what if the key to a happier, more fulfilling life could be achieved with just one simple change in the way we think?
This is the intriguing proposition put forward by Dilyse Diaz, 54, a seasoned psychotherapist.
Diaz, who has been in the field for over two decades, runs a private therapy practice and has recently gained popularity on social media, where she shares empowering mental health tips.
A psychotherapist shared the key to ‘emotional freedom'. Image sources: TikTok/@dilysediaz_lmft (left), vecstock on Freepik (right).
In one of her videos, she shared a technique that she claims could save you years of therapy. This tip has become quite popular, garnering over 5.2 million views and has sparked a lively discussion among viewers.
'What would you do if I told you that right now I could give you something that would undoubtedly improve the quality of your life and every relationship that you're in?' She asked in the video.
She then proceeded to reveal that the key to 'emotional freedom' is mastering your thoughts and emotions.
According to Diaz, the first step towards achieving this mastery is 'to never take what anybody else says or does personally'.
Because when we allow ourselves to be affected by others' actions or words, we relinquish control over our thoughts and emotions, becoming victims of external circumstances.
'Would you listen, and would you apply it? Or would you…stay stuck another year?'
Diaz advised setting boundaries and taking care of yourself instead of worrying about other people’s actions or words.
'If you're offended, sad, or depressed, and you say, "He makes me… She makes me…” you're not in charge of your thought world. You're not in charge of your emotions because you are a victim of what other people say and what other people do.'
To illustrate her point, Diaz presented a relatable scenario: a friend invites you over for dinner but then asks you to bring most of the food.
You can watch the full video below:
Video source: TikTok/@dilysediaz_lmft.
In such a situation, Diaz suggested that you have two choices. You can either choose to be offended and judge your friend for being rude, or you can manage your thoughts about the situation, set a boundary, and take care of yourself.
By choosing the latter, Diaz argued that you can maintain your peace and love for your friends, regardless of their expectations. This approach, she said, can be applied to any situation where you find yourself upset by someone else's actions or words.
'I can say: "No, I'm not interested in doing that. I'm not going to bring everything." And then I can still have love for [my friend],' she explained.
'I can still feel peaceful inside my body instead of all offended.'
'Manage your thoughts, never take things personally, and experience emotional freedom,' Diaz concluded.
'You can be happy and independent of what anyone else says, thinks, or does. That's freedom.'
The response to Diaz's video has been mixed, with some viewers expressing scepticism about the feasibility of controlling their thoughts and emotions.
'[That’s] tough because how “someone makes me feel” feels natural. I’m not sure how to control my emotions. Take a breath?' One person asked.
'Sounds great... But putting into practice? 100 [per cent] impossible,' another replied.
However, others have shared their own experiences of successfully implementing this technique, testifying to its transformative power.
'Not taking things personally is very powerful. I’ve gotten very skilled at it,' one shared.
While another added: 'As my therapist says, "Thoughts, feelings, facts." What are your thoughts about the situation, how do you feel about it, and what are the facts.'
'Learned this three years ago [while] working hard with my therapist, [who] was the best therapist I had, and my life has been different since,' a third shared.
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