Bride-to-be goes viral for sharing “stingy and rude” rules for her upcoming wedding: “I have a picture of what I want the day to be”
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In August 2020, Jasmine Cruz got engaged with her fiancé, Pablo Cadena.
She had no plans for the wedding yet until last month, when the couple managed to secure a venue in Santa Clarita, California.
And after seeing the recent wave of people sharing their ‘wedding rules’ on TikTok, she decided to hop on the bandwagon.
“I saw the trend going around when I started wedding planning. Since I already had some stuff laid out I decided to add to it and make the TikTok,” said Jasmine.
“I'm one of those girls who has thought of her wedding day since I was a kid. So I have a picture of what I want the day to be.”
After listing down several of her ideas on her phone, she eventually came up with twelve rules that would be strictly implemented on her upcoming wedding.
The bride-to-be shared a list of wedding rules, which include no kids, no garter toss, and no big announcements. Credit: TikTok/@cruzjasmine824.
“Most of my siblings are under the age of 15. Like half of them. So they can come, as well as some out-of-towners that genuinely cannot get babysitters for like the whole weekend because they have to travel — obviously, they can bring their kids.”
She also made it clear that the kids at the venue have to be supervised at all times.
Rule number two (and four, since she accidentally wrote it twice) is that no guests are allowed to wear white, or else they might suffer the consequences.
“My bridesmaids have specific instructions already to dump a whole bottle of red wine on you, so let's just avoid that,” said Jasmine.
And while on the topic of outfits, her third rule is for the bridesmaids.
“They can wear whatever they want basically,” she said and made it clear that it should still follow the assigned colour palette.
Rule number five is plain and simple: If you’re not invited, you’re not welcome.
“I will specifically write on the invitation how many plus-ones you get, and that's it,” she addressed her invited guests.
“Don't be bringing any random people to my wedding.”
The next rule tackles the wedding tradition which sees the groom removing his wife’s garter and tossing it into the crowd of bachelors.
“We’re not doing the garter thing; that’s gross,” said Jasmine. “I already have to kiss a man in public in front of all these people, now you want him to go under my dress and pretend to…” she cut herself off by pretending to retch and vomit.
The seventh on the list is less of a rule and more of a welcome coincidence.
“I love that,” said Jasmine, who is delighted that her chosen bridesmaids are all somewhat part of the LGBTQ community.
“We are all just somehow, a little bit, you know…” she added, followed by a show of limp wrist.
Her eighth rule sees to it that Jasmine herself won’t be bothered with unnecessary details at her own wedding. Instead, her mum will be handling all the creative decisions.
“Ask my mom. My mom has full creative liberty over everything,” said the bride-to-be.
Jasmine’s ninth rule encourages her guests to take full advantage of the open bar.
“I want you drunk, I want you wasted,” she said. However, this leads to the next rule as well, which is: No drunk drivers.
Thankfully, the couple’s wedding venue allows guests to leave their cars parked overnight so that designated drivers who may have had too much to drink can wait until the next morning to sober up.
And speaking of venue, her eleventh rule sees to it that vendors and the staffers will be treated as guests too while they’re on their breaks.
“They can eat, they can drink (but not until the job is done!), feel free to take-home party favours, take home the centrepiece if you want,” she said. “You are a guest.”
As for her final, and probably the most important, rule: No big announcements are allowed.
“If you’re pregnant, keep it to yourself. If you want to propose, keep that to yourself,” she said.
“Do not come to my wedding taking the attention away from me and my man.”
Jasmine’s series of videos have gained a ton of attention on the video-sharing platform, earning over 2.3M views in total.
However, not everyone was a fan.
One person called her rules “stingy and rude” and asked: “Why do people not want people at their wedding? The more the merrier…”
Another commenter even called her a “bridezilla” and said pouring wine on someone would count as assault. We’re pretty sure Jasmine meant that as a joke though…
And even though there were some people who disagreed with her, most users in the comments section commended Jasmine for the wonderful wedding rules ideas.
“The no-kids rule is very reasonable,” said one, while another agreed and added: “Kids don't even like going to weddings.”
“Love the no garter rule. It's really a disturbing thing to do in front of family,” said another.
A fourth person wrote: “Love the bridesmaid one! I feel like they know their body best and them being confident is important as well!”
Some people even asked Jasmine for permission to copy her list at their own weddings!
Do you agree with her wedding rules? Or do they seem unreasonable? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below!
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. I recall having to decline an invitation to a wedding, (friend of my Daughters), asking the Bride if they would mind if I came to see the actual ceremony (at a local park) although unable to attend Reception, she was thrilled I wanted to see them get married & had no problem with me not attending the Reception. After she walked away I was accosted by a few of their friends & all were asking WHY I would miss out on - free booze & food!! It shocked me & I felt sorry for the couple that a group of their so called friends were only interested in the day for what it would give THEM & that amounted to free alcohol & dinner! I told my Daughter to be certain to ONLY invite those friends who would go that extra mile for them & not fall into the numbers game when it came to Guest List.
