[Xe]

AIBU for telling my brother and his wife that I will be sueing them for selling the nursery I gave them?​

I think her brother is in the wrong. What do you think?

I (f36) lost my 3-year-old son from a chronic condition that he was born with. I struggled a lot with his illness and received a lot of support from my family when my ex-husband was too busy with work to care for his son.

When my brother and his wife found out they were expecting (they suffered from a miscarriage after a miscarriage) and because of their financial situation, I decided to lend them my son's nursery to use for their baby under the condition they give it back when they no longer need it. It's an expensive nursery and the process of shipping (I live in another country) took me time and money and of course not to mention its sentimental value.

They were so grateful for my help and appreciated it a lot but my sister-in-law, unfortunately, lost her baby at 5 months into the pregnancy. I heard from my mother since my brother and sister-in-law went low contact with everyone to be able to grieve. I waited a few months before asking for the nursery back since they no longer needed it.

I called and asked my brother to send it back despite how cruel I sounded but I just had to get it back, but I was shocked after my brother said they sold it, all of it, every single piece. I asked why and he said that his wife was depressed and he needed money to take her on a vacation a month ago.

I lost my temper and started screaming at him on the phone reminding him that this belonged to my son and I had only allowed for them to borrow not to sell it. He apologized and asked me to be understanding of his wife's position as a grieving mother myself. I said no! THEY should have considered how selling my son's nursery would affect me as a grieving mother, and he replied that he didn't think I was being fair to scream at him for wanting to help his wife through these hard times.

I told him that is not my problem and that I will be sueing them both over the nursery and for every penny he made out of selling it. He called me nuts and hung up then called my parents. They tried to get involved after I threatened to sue and called me callous and unhinged for threatening my brother and sister in law with court and told me to let it go I don't need the nursery and it's not worth causing permanent damage in my relationship with my brother over "few pieces of furniture".

My ex husband blamed me saying it was my fault for giving the nursery to my brother but I just wanted to help. He keeps pushing for the idea to sue but my parents are telling me not to.


AIBU for wanting to sue them for the nursery that cost us nearly over 4k?

Just to explain something: My ex-husband gets a say because he paid for the nursery as well and he keeps pushing for me to sue and told me he'll do it if I choose to back down. He keeps saying it's my fault for letting my brother have the nursery in the first place and he's very upset with me about it.

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[Vinylted]

Xi is this another hypothetical or a case from the other side of the world. Don't we have enough grief here in Oz.
As for this specific scenario, I can't imagine what the cost would be ship a 4k nursery (including packaging etc) to another country? Wanting it back entails the added shipping expense... sheesh easier to buy a new one! The story somehow seems a bit surreal, just to gauge people's opinions I guess. My opinion after all that she is being unreasonable and the husband is being an arsehole. The brother at best greiving at worst unfeeling for his sister. Blood is thicker than water, for God's sake.

 

[BabsL]

I think her brother is in the wrong. What do you think?

I (f36) lost my 3-year-old son from a chronic condition that he was born with. I struggled a lot with his illness and received a lot of support from my family when my ex-husband was too busy with work to care for his son.

When my brother and his wife found out they were expecting (they suffered from a miscarriage after a miscarriage) and because of their financial situation, I decided to lend them my son's nursery to use for their baby under the condition they give it back when they no longer need it. It's an expensive nursery and the process of shipping (I live in another country) took me time and money and of course not to mention its sentimental value.

They were so grateful for my help and appreciated it a lot but my sister-in-law, unfortunately, lost her baby at 5 months into the pregnancy. I heard from my mother since my brother and sister-in-law went low contact with everyone to be able to grieve. I waited a few months before asking for the nursery back since they no longer needed it.

I called and asked my brother to send it back despite how cruel I sounded but I just had to get it back, but I was shocked after my brother said they sold it, all of it, every single piece. I asked why and he said that his wife was depressed and he needed money to take her on a vacation a month ago.

I lost my temper and started screaming at him on the phone reminding him that this belonged to my son and I had only allowed for them to borrow not to sell it. He apologized and asked me to be understanding of his wife's position as a grieving mother myself. I said no! THEY should have considered how selling my son's nursery would affect me as a grieving mother, and he replied that he didn't think I was being fair to scream at him for wanting to help his wife through these hard times.

I told him that is not my problem and that I will be sueing them both over the nursery and for every penny he made out of selling it. He called me nuts and hung up then called my parents. They tried to get involved after I threatened to sue and called me callous and unhinged for threatening my brother and sister in law with court and told me to let it go I don't need the nursery and it's not worth causing permanent damage in my relationship with my brother over "few pieces of furniture".

My ex husband blamed me saying it was my fault for giving the nursery to my brother but I just wanted to help. He keeps pushing for the idea to sue but my parents are telling me not to.


AIBU for wanting to sue them for the nursery that cost us nearly over 4k?

Just to explain something: My ex-husband gets a say because he paid for the nursery as well and he keeps pushing for me to sue and told me he'll do it if I choose to back down. He keeps saying it's my fault for letting my brother have the nursery in the first place and he's very upset with me about it.

Source:AmItheAsshole/comments/qq307f

Stop talking to yr idiot ex husband for a start! He is yr EX for a reason!
It is done now and you gave it as a gift, not a loan. Sorry, dear. Take yrself to therapy, or on a holiday. You cannot change things now.
That said, yr insensitive brother should hv told you what he was doing. If you take legal action, you will lose, because you GAVE it to them. You did not specify that it was a loan and you wanted it back. It is a very nasty lesson to learn, and very painful. But it is done. Do you want to alienate the entire family forever? Tell yr EX to shut up!