[Xe]

AIBU for refusing to put my brother up for adoption?​

Do you think he's unreasonable?

I (28M) and my wife (28F) have been married for 2 years. My wife is 4 months pregnant.

My parents died in a car crash about a month ago and my brother (14M) has nobody to turn to except me. We have no other living relatives.

I decided to take in my brother until he's an adult but my wife feels like it's not our responsibility to care for my brother and since she's pregnant, she wants me to focus only on our child. I told her that my brother has nowhere to go and hence he'll be staying with us at least until he's an adult.

She's mad at me and is refusing to talk to me unless I put my brother up for adoption.
AIBU?

Edit 1: just thought I'd add this in since some of you may be confused by the age gap. I was a teenage pregnancy.

Edit 2: It will not be hard financially on us since our parents left me and my brother an inheritance, as well as a college fund for him, and all of that can go into taking care of him.

 

[Goodbloke]

Do you think he's unreasonable?

I (28M) and my wife (28F) have been married for 2 years. My wife is 4 months pregnant.

My parents died in a car crash about a month ago and my brother (14M) has nobody to turn to except me. We have no other living relatives.

I decided to take in my brother until he's an adult but my wife feels like it's not our responsibility to care for my brother and since she's pregnant, she wants me to focus only on our child. I told her that my brother has nowhere to go and hence he'll be staying with us at least until he's an adult.

She's mad at me and is refusing to talk to me unless I put my brother up for adoption.
AIBU?

Edit 1: just thought I'd add this in since some of you may be confused by the age gap. I was a teenage pregnancy.

Edit 2: It will not be hard financially on us since our parents left me and my brother an inheritance, as well as a college fund for him, and all of that can go into taking care of him.

Family first, brother stays with brother.

 

[Xe]

Family first, brother stays with brother.

Many people don’t realise that when you marry someone you also marry their family

 

[Vinylted]

His wife is 4 months pregnant and I image is feeling very protective and vulnerable at this stage, give her time. But family does stay with family and the child will have a wonderful uncle to grow up with.