[Danielle G.]

A medical equipment got in the way of this couple—but who was being unreasonable?​

AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/[deleted]:

Am I being unreasonable for refusing to take care of my husband's medical equipment?

'My husband and I are having a disagreement. Here's the situation: he uses a CPAP machine at night. He's had it for 15 years and never puts it away in the morning. He has decided that it's my responsibility to take care of it and prevent the children or our pets from touching it. He says it's unreasonable for him to put it away every morning, even though there are many many things the kids and I use and put away every single day.'

'He insists that other things of his be left where it's convenient for himself even if it makes life harder for the rest of us (example he will leave his shoes under the kitchen table and tells me that I should just not clean the floor there at all so his shoes don't get moved) he goes to great lengths to make life easier for himself even if that means putting more difficulty on me and our children.'

'Last night, our cat got into our bedroom and chewed on the hose for his CPAP. I didn't know it till we went to bed and husband freaked out. He demanded to know why I wasn't watching his CPAP and why I had "let" it get ruined. Then he decided he wants to lock me and the kids out of our bedroom when he leaves for work every morning. I said absolutely not.

'Our second bathroom is only accessible thru the bedroom, all my own things are in the bedroom and that would leave me with out access to any of my things during the day unless I cleared everything out of my room and the second bathroom (which is also where I keep my makeup and other personal items) which to me seems totally unreasonable.'

'I told him he should put away his CPAP every morning. He says that it's unreasonable for him to remember to do such an annoying task and that he shouldn't have to put anything he owns away.'

'I really feel like he should be responsible for his own things and that it is unreasonable for him to lock me out of my own room.'

 

[waggadragon1]

Tell him hes dreamin its his snot and saliva its his to clean.

 

[JKD]

Unbelievable!! His health, his machine and his responsibility. Make a stand now!!!!

 

[HelenB55]

I’d be divorcing him!!
He’s just lazy & arrogant.

 

[kerrikennel]

What a lazy narcissistic man!! I'd be telling him where to go and take his cpap machine with him!!!

 

[Jennylolo]

it's time he grows up. you aren't his mother or cleaner. his personal stuff = his responsibility.

 

[Inferno4256]

why not move him and his machine to the spare bedroom, permanently, and he can lock that door every day. problem solved!!!!!

 

[novezar]

Enough comments made for me to make a further addition.

 

[Catherines]

Might be time for a new hubby!!

 

[Towing]

My impression is that it's not being cared as it should be, just used. He should put it away or at least over it anyway. What a chavenoustic man to make such threats.

 

[margaretritchie48]

get rid of him

 

[Jerry5]

Why TF are you still there???????

 

[darrellh]

He absolutely should be looking after his kwn cpap machine and it's time you and hubby sat down and had a very frank discussion starting with you talking and him listening. He is being so unreasonable it is beyond ridiculous. Good luck.

 

[Charlotte59]

Good grief, this man sounds like he needs a mother not a wife. Send him back to his mother and let her do his bidding or the alternative, kick his sorry arse out the door. You have enough to do with caring for the children and house keeping, you don't need a narcissist adding to your troubles

 

[Nicnat]

Its time you made plans to leave. This type of behaviour is not healthy and i fear for you snd your kids

 

[Mindygirl12022]

What a lazy narcissistic man!! I'd be telling him where to go and take his cpap machine with him!!!

Yes and tell him also he needs to stop his cr p with him.