AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/nova_lneyy:

'I (24F) just got my first car a few months ago. I saved for it for almost 3 years while working full time and taking night classes. It's nothing fancy, an old used Toyota, but it's mine, I bought if myself, and I'm really proud of that.


The issue is that since I got the car, my family ( mostly my mum and older sister) has started expecting me to drive everyone everywhere. groceries, pharmacy runs, appointments, airport pickups, random errands. Sometimes they as, but more often they just assume I'll do it. I get texts like "You can take me at 3, right?" without even checking if I'm available.

My sister (29F) doesn't work and doesn't drive. She's never really tried, she says driving makes her anxious. Our mum doesn't drive either (medical reasons). For the past 10 years, they've relied on public transport, cabs, or friends. But now that I have a car, they act like I'm their personal chauffeur.


I've tried setting boundaries. I've told them I'm happy to help when I can, but i can't always be available, especially since I still work full time and I'm trying to finish my degree. But when I say no, they get super upset. My sister sulks and complains I'm selfish, and my mum says things like, "We've always helped you when you needed it."

Last week, I refused to drive my sister across town for a job interview because I had an exam that evening, She ended up missing it and now blames me for "ruining her chance". Our aunt even called to tell me I should "sacrifice a little" because "family helps family".


I feel awful, but also kind of resentful. I bought this car so I could be more independent, not so I could become the default ride for two grown adults who've chosen not to drive. But maybe I'm being too rigid.

Am I being unreasonable for refusing to be the family driver, even through I'm the only one with a car?'