AIBU, which stands for 'Am I Being Unreasonable', is the perfect platform for sharing your thoughts and opinions! So, for today's AIBU discussion, we have this story from Reddit/Few_Hunter_2043:

Am I being unreasonable for snapping at my mother when she asked when I would 'finally' kick out my daughter?


'I, a 66-year-old female, am retired but kept very busy by caring for my mother (85 years old) and my disabled husband (64 years old). My mother does not live with us; she lives in an assisted living facility, where I visit her every few days to check up on her and see if she needs anything. During my latest visit, she brought up how I should "finally" kick out my daughter (29 years old, let's call her C).'

'Now, for some context, yes, my daughter does indeed still live with me and my husband, for many factors, including her rather fragile mental health, but what my mother does not understand is that, despite us being parent and child, we are not living in a parent and child kind of situation. We are roommates that just happen to also be family, because neither her nor my husband and I could afford places of our own in this economy. We are dependent on C just as much as she is dependent on us.'

'C holds down a full-time job, which doesn't pay great, but not awfully either. She pays her fair share in rent, utilities and groceries, does her fair share of chores and sometimes even takes over some of my chores when she feels that I need a break. I cook on weekdays when C has to work, but C has weekends off so she takes over cooking duties then. She has a savings account for emergencies, she pays for the family Netflix account, and even spends some of the fun money she has left over every month (which isn't much) on little treats for my husband and me, no matter how often I ask her not to waste what little money she has to enjoy life on us.'



'So, with all of that as background, my mother's comments made me pretty angry, because C does so much to not be a burden to my husband and me, despite me telling her that I love her and could never see her as a burden. I also fear my mother may have planted that thought in her head when I wasn't around.'

'Meanwhile, all my mother seems to do is demand, demand, demand. She has nurses at her disposal in that assisted living facility, and people who do grocery runs for her. But she never uses these services and demands that I do everything for her instead. She demands all of my time, energy and attention. I suspect she may want to push me to kick C out so she could move in with my husband and I and force me to be her full-time caretaker.'

'I was already having a bad day, so I just snapped and told her that C's living situation is none of her business. She started crying and asked why I would yell at her for just being concerned.'

'So, am I unreasonable for snapping at my mother?'